How to cope with life?

Question

I really want to be happy in life but never could. I really would like help on how to be happier in life. First, let me start by saying i have Cerebral Palsy and my parents decided it was a good idea to put me in public school. Thought school i have always been picked on and it was hard for me to make friends. In kindergarten i was picked on up until fourth or fifth grade. I never really had many friends and only had a girlfriend once.
Now in high school i have accumulated a few close friends but none in any of my classes. So in all of my classes i am alone. At home i am alone. Being the way i am prevents me from getting a girlfriend, which makes me feel even more alone. I really would like to have someone to accompany me because i have never truly been in love but it seems like such a good feeling. I am tired of being alone and would like someone to accompany me and bring happiness to my life. So if anyone can help me that would be great.

Answer 1

Hey Rob,

I'm 21 in college and know exactly how you feel, i also have CP and use crutches i'm not sure what your able to do but if you are able start going to the gym ASAP. because i imagine like me you have alot of caged emotions and baggage.which can really drag you down my advice aim all of your anger, frustration ,sadness at the weights and let it all go. 2 let go of fears, i know that i get anxiety and tense when i'm in a group of people, so when "all the eyes are on you" just be you. trying to fit in doesn't really work in our situation so don't try, don't try and match peoples expectations BE BETTER. try( posiitve) new things as often as possible.. and lastly, your still breathing and the fact that you are means that life hasn't destroyed you, your dignity, your dreams. every moment is yours to capture, it's on you to be who you want to be.



"To become different from what we are, we must have some awareness of what we are"-Bruce Lee



feel free to email me for whatever...good luck man

Answer 2

Google: "chat rooms + forums + support groups; cerebral palsy" and check them out. Try www.meetup.com I know that www.nolongerlonely.com is for those with mental health problems, but I'm unaware of any similar for cerebral palsy, although there is nothing to stop you from starting a group, at Myspace, Yahoo, or Google, or a free website at http://weebly.com for that purpose, and occasionally post a question here: "Are you aware that there is now ...



The five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred.

2. Free your mind from worries.

3. Live simply

4. Give more.

5. Expect less.



An old Spanish saying goes: "There is no happiness; there are just moments of happiness". A more recent American one goes: "Most folk are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be."



Read:



So you want to be happy? : stop chasing happiness and feel good - most of the time

by Sherwood, Peter. New Holland, 2004.



The happy plan : the complete diet and lifestyle plan for natural happiness

by Yabsley, Charmaine.

Collins & Brown, 2006.



"Better than Chocolate 50 proven ways to feel happier": Siimon Reynolds. Penguin Books. ISBN 0 14 300296 1 (THE SPELLING IS CORRECT!)



Why Your Life Sucks, by Alan N. Cohen. This book helps you focus on the ways we sabotage our own happiness.



Check out http://search.mercola.com/Results.aspx?q=happiness&k=happiness Use the relaxation methods at http://www.drcoxconsulting.com/managing-stress.html or http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/mindbody/a/Meditation.htm

or www.wikihow.com/Meditate and/or Tai Chi, Qi Gong, or yoga. Also http://your-mental-health.8m.com/blank_11.html where there are several to choose from.



Some people are still dismissive of them, but scientific testing has demonstrated conclusively that they increase activity in the left prefrontal cortex, when practised regularly, and will enable you to find a way of being; awareness, without suffering, when you need it, and is a valuable means of helping you through the worst parts of life. Learn them at least a few hours apart, and preferably on different days, in the morning, or early afternoon. Use the one you find most effective.

Answer 3

Hello I saw your post and felt really bad for you so I logged back in to share my thoughts. Pay no attention to negative insults, these people are miserable and want to spread hate. I suggest you start seeking a relationship with jesus christ. Tell him how you are feeling, be his friend I promise he will give you some relief. Find a bible to read and start reading psams. I love you in jesus name good luck pal :) smile.