Im pathetic no one lives like this do they? People dont learn howto have alife at 26? and im going to have to?

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KILL MYSELF ASAP - its my only solution??....
serious i suffer with severe depression,anxiety etc and i cant live anymore noone understnds me i cant carry on its like im living ina seperate world i wwatch people do normal things have normal converstion s and its like i cantr do that. I have nno friends anymore dont go out and barely speak to anyone. i cant relate to anything and death is my only way out

I have spoken with drs, psychiatrist, been in hospital, taking medication, seeing a therapist there is nothing more i can do? So am i just meant to carry on like this cos i cant its so painful to be so unhappy and have nothing and noone in ur life

This is proof ' you have no real life, (thats not meant as a put down btw) and a real life is full of friendships and relationships and activities and you dont have any of that so that is why you feel dead'

Noone learns how to make a life at 26!! as in actually doesnt have a life it is a joke! i NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD BE LIKE THIS

Answer 1

If I was as fed up as you I wouldnt be wasting my time on Yahoo Answers >:(

Answer 2

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Answer 3

You are never too old to change!! And making a life-well you are still very young. I am still learning and working on things that I want to change.

My life isn't that flash,but it is my life. It is a life!!

Making friends will be easier for you when you are more positive. Because being negitive doesn't attract people.

I think getting onto some medication would really make a difference for you. As well as some counselling.

I think you feel empty because you are lacking all the relationships you want out of life. Also that you are depressed and lonely too. There are alot of people who suffer depression. Talking about your feelings can help because you are letting them go. But counselling helps because the counsellor knows how to encourage you to work through things.Because at the end of the day-we all are in charge of our own life. We can make life better for ourselves.

There is something you can do!! Keep trying,just because something didn't work before doesn't mean it won't this time.

Answer 4

I don't think there are really any words that can help someone in your situation and mental place.



We can offer sympathy and advice and that might make you feel better for a moment but the only person that can change yourself is you.



The main thing I can tell you is that you MUST believe that life can change. I am living proof of this.



When I was younger I developed chronic back pain (at the age of only 19) and was extremely shy, I couldn't relate to anyone. I felt a bit like you did, depressed and suicidal. I



But I turned it all around, with a lot of patience and hard work. I learnt how to manage my pain and can now deal with it in various ways. I developed my confidence. I made the most of what I had. I too am 26 now.



There is only one moment in this life and that is now. You should not be torn between a past / future orientated despair (Read Eckhart Tolles "The Power of Now", or "A New Earth", trust me it will help)



If someone threw you in the middle of the desert, would you just curl up and die or would you stand up and fight to try and get out of the desert?



Don't give up. Stand up and fight. It will be a long hard road, but think of it as a challenge.



Make it your mission in life to find happiness, any way you can. Start with self help books. They will give you the motivation. Eckhart Tolle changed my life personally.



And you should seriously consider medication i.e anti depressants etc. They are not as bad as everyone makes out and it beat suicide.

Answer 5

Actually people do learn to 'have a life' at 26 years and even later than that. Part one: proper diet. Part two: something to be passionate about. Maybe a cat, or a cause, or yardwork. Something to keep your attention, like reading all the books of an author. Part three: continue sessions and seek additional support from local resources. I can see clearly, and I try not to lose sight of the path. Part four: indulge in some fun. Miniature golf, movies, theme park, and dress up for the trip. You may find love, maybe not. The path is yours.

Answer 6

You just need social skills!

Three years ago I also felt suicidal coz I didn't have real friends and I felt that I was not normal. I can't socialize at all.

The turning point came two years ago when a classmate mentioned a psychology website to me. That site advises people like me to learn social skills, and it gave me hints on how to learn those skills. After two years of researching about the psychology of learning social skills, and self-analysis, and hands-on experience by actually trying to socialize, here I am now - with friends, and memories of bonding moments, and much more.

Some things I want to tell:

-stress and depression can get in the way of socializing. You can't find jokes funny if you're stressed, so you can't laugh with people or think up jokes. You also won't have the enthusiasm to tell stories if you're stressed. I see that you're stressed partly because you don't have socialization. Once you succeed in socializing a bit, you'll be less stressed, and so you will get better at socializing, and so you'll be less stressed, etc. It's an upward spiral. Your social skills will grow exponentially.

-you can't do normal non-social things only because you're stressed. When I got rid of some stress, I was able to do many skills.

-I believe that developing your personality is more effective than taking pills which don't really remove the problem

-Actually, according to Jungian psychology, once you approach midlife you'll experience greater psychological pressure to develop social skills. So start now!

-Every introvert has an extroverted side. It's in you, you just have to develop it.



PLEASE EMAIL ME AT [e-mail]. PLEASE. I have so much to tell you. I've developed my social skills myself. I know the feeling of not having socialization. And I know the feeling of having a life. Life is wonderful, really. Don't you die, there's so much to live for. It's just a matter of social skills.

First we'll determine your personality type, then I'll tell you what that website is, and other relevant sites. I'll assist you in understanding what those sites are trying to say. Then you can start practicing to socialize. You may want to report how you're doing. If you succeed, then good. If not, it's an opportunity to learn how to socialize better next time. We'll harmonize your inner life with your outer life, so that you can socialize well and still maintain depth. Etc. Email me. Now!

Answer 7

Check your email - don't even think this way - when you are at the bottom of the pit - the top seems a long way off. But you can get to the top - the hardest part is starting your journey up to the top and building some self confidence.



I hate to say it but taking your own life is the cowards way out - you leave behind a whole load of people that care BUT you don't realise they care.



There is no quick fix to feeling like this as JANB says below - and ANDY says above - both good bits of advice - from what you say - you have low self esteem and low confidence - this is what needs to be built on to get you out of this vicious circle.



Many have done it before you and many will do it in the future - it takes time and effort - but is ACHIEVABLE

Answer 8

All I know is you CAN learn how to live a new life, but first you need to look past yourself, I know this is not what you want to hear but i think you are bored and spoilt. C'mon look around yes the world is shitty, but you have a bloody PC, food shelter and a whole lot of other things. If your life is so bad, give it to charity, do things for others, you'll still moan but I bet after a while you'll change.

Answer 9

Why are you so unhappy? and what can make you happy? It is hard when your having such a crappy time that everyone else in the world seems to be so happy.



You obviously need to speak to someone. What abt your family?



Im about the same age as you and its so sad to see someone writing something like this.

Answer 10

I had to turn my life around twice, and one when older than you are now.

From what you describe, you're either going to be put on medication, or its ECT time!

Join a social circle =- or try speed dating. No alcohol or ciggies. Cleanliness. Dedicate your time to others to give your life meaning. This learned helplessness model is mere disguise for apathetic self centeredness.

Take a holiday.

Answer 11

I am really sorry you feel this way, and I will be thinking of you. I got a life through a lot of painful working out with a psychotherapst, and I dearly hope that you will find what you need to feel better.

Answer 12

i would suggest going to gp and telling him what things are like on a real bad day. anti psychotics are fairly good. med's help me anyway, and i could easily have written what you did, a few months ago. your local health authority will have an early intervention in psychosis team. dont give up. things can only get better.

Answer 13

Please don't kill yourself. It is never too late to learn anything, one keeps learning things all one's life.

Me too have troubles relating to people, right now I'm crying like a fool over a silly thing, it's pathetic isn't it to cry that someone's account has been disabled and I won't be able to talk to him again, we've been talking for 2 years and never met and never will see him again... I think he did that on purpose, he knows my email and he never contacted me again from another email address...

Please remember your therapist is there to help you, it may take a long time, but please don't depair...

Answer 14

make changes, do something that you havnt done before--ANYTHING.

do some voluntry work anywhere, help someone else and you will help yourself at the same time.

do you have a cat or something that needs you??

pets are very good for depression if you can look after them properly.

Answer 15

Whatever replies you get will not instantly change your life around, you need to talk, to get more confidence and have a different view on life. i suffered severe depresion but have now completely turned around and love what and who i have in my life. if you want to talk e-mail me.

Answer 16

sing a happy happy happy happy happy happy song,

sing a happy happy happy happy happy happy song,



check yourself in to a hospital or phyciatrics say you feeling so low and are contemplating suicide. Other than that be strong and force yourself out of this miserable look on life.

Answer 17

you have got it bad.

You must not kill yourself, you will break hearts and shatter lives.



Please find someone, anyone to talk to, NOW.