Dead end in life...is there anyway out of this?

Question

i just feel so helpless, and hopeless towards life....
my despression and social anxiety restrict me from doing much and moving forward in life...
i haven't been able to hold a job, go to community groups and family life is basicaly none existent.
i can't dicuss the issues i face with friends because i don't want to seem like a self pitying sad sack and burden them.

sometimes i'm not even sure i have a real problem at all... i have been talking to mental health professional for many years and it never seems to get anywhere, we go over the same stuff but nothing improves...in fact most of the time i feel patronised and like they don't understand one bit and are merely sitting there thinking to themselves "this girl is an idiot most people have it worst than her why is she complaining...gah when will my day end"

i feel like i've reached a dead end in life, i want to call out for help but it's as if i've forget how to scream.

i would love to just say"emergency this is it i need help now, i'm on the verge of ending my life!" but it'll probably get me sent to hospital and that's not the way i want to go with this...

i guess what i want to know is, is there any hope? or any action i can take?
and no drugs/meds are not an option...not at the moment anyways

Answer 1

Amelia Grace? ( i like the name it means noble grace)



There is always Hope.



It's obvious you dislike your current life and wish to escape or change it which is definatly a start. You may feel like life is not moving for you you but then think of how you would identify moving on? meeting a guy? getting qualifications? getting a job? whatever you identify is what you should work towards. Go to support groups, take a jog, meditate, work towards your goals and smile.



You are important, your kind and worry about others and you want people to understand your pain. I may just be text to you but I am a human on the other side of the internet, a stranger who thinks your important and cares about you! Now imagine how much your friends and family care for you!! They are obviously there for you and maybe they can help you? I think your depressed but it's easy to get over it.



Those proffesionals are not experts in YOU but mental illness and trauma. YOU need to tell them whats wrong and to be honest I can only tell from your question that your feeling depressed and need a person to talk to. There is nothing wrong with that at all but ultimatly it's up to you to cry, say whats wrong and move on.



Your loved ones are there for you so support them and they will support you: this is the foundation of friendship :)



Smile, your worth it :D

hope this helps :)

Answer 2

Well, finding someone to talk to and vent can help, and perhaps they can try to help resolve your problems. Not telling your friends is a good idea in my opinion. Familiarity breeds contempt, as the saying goes.



Feeling like it's hopeless is typical, especially in this sort of situation. What you need to focus on, is of course, your job (that is, if you provide for yourself), but also what you can control. You obviously can't control how job might go, but you can control the medical professionals you consult. Finding one that fits you, is what is key. Not the other way around. I've just recently gone on the meds because I had the option available to me. You should consult with your medical provider on that choice.



You aren't at a dead-end. You are when you're dead, and we obviously don't want you traveling that road. It sounds like you probably have depression. Then again, I'm going off of what I know and feel. Which sounds just like this.



Despite all this, you need to look to the future, even if the today's looking a bit grim.You're calling out for help, and I'm answering. If you want to talk more, and see if what ever I did helps you, email me?

Answer 3

I am a cosmetologist and dead ends is a slang term for burnt out, over exposed, split, or whatever is wrong with your hair. Sometimes it's just ragged and old- the elements break down the hair's properties. Cosmo ladies back in the day of aerosol happy beehives coined this term as they couldn't explain it better to their clients. Hair looks alive because it grows- but it's all dead. We use slang just like everybody else.

Answer 4

I don't know what it is that you fear, I don't know what you get anxious about - so I can't really comment on that. Tell me, are you the kind of person that, when you make a mistake, gets mad or depressed about it, calls yourself "stupid" about it? If you are, then next time you make a mistake do the opposite; make a little joke about it, smile - people are attracted to that kind of person.



Take the risk of people being attracted to you, it's worth it; it might be scary at first - but what else can you do?



I hope this was of some help.

Answer 5

Not sure if this will help, but have you thought through and know what kind of life do you want and what kind of person do you want to be? Often it helps when we know what we want in life, be it for success or happiness. If you are not sure or clear what you ant, it is difficult to move forward in life, you will feel lost and directionless. But once you are crystal clear about the type of life you want, your ideal world and the type of person you want to be; and if you want them bad enough, it will focus your energy, attention and time to keep working towards achieving them. When you have a compelling motivation and desire to achieve your goals and dreams, this will give you hope and something to work for, and to keep you going. Focus on working towards what you want, and you will have less time dwelling on the negativity and not so nice things in your life. Hope is in a better future, not the past.

Answer 6

Check out these two pages. They might give you some help.

http://www.thefamilyhelpplace.com/worry.php

http://www.thefamilyhelpplace.com/loneliness.php