Do people think you're ignoring them when you don't reply to their messages?

Question

Just wondering because I never reply to messages. But only when it's a long message, I usually reply to short messages. It takes me a really long time to reply though. It could take me anywhere from 2 days to 3 weeks to reply. Probably ridiculous but I've always had a difficult time thinking of things to say in messages, I just feel like my mind is foggy all the time. Plus I constantly worry about saying something stupid or saying something that will hurt the persons feelings. I hate hurting others feelings, even when it's someone I don't like.... How can I stop worrying so much? Everyone I see seems like they couldn't less about what they say, even when it's stupid or hurts someones feelings. I feel like I'm the only one that worries about this..

My older sister sent me a long message 2 weeks ago and I still haven't replied. I feel really bad. Especially since I'm pretty sure she thinks I hate her. I told her that I don't; that I love her. But I don't know if she believes me.... I don't want her to think I'm ignoring her, do you think she does? I'm not. I just feel exhausted all the time and don't feel I have the energy to do anything, except eat and sleep. Not sure why... I haven't even bothered trying to think of something to say in reply, because I already know that there's no point. Since my mind is always blank, I must be dumb....

Answer 1

Too long, didn't read...

Answer 2

Absolutely, it comes across as rude. If it took you a few hours, it may be assumed you are busy or something. If a few days go by people assume you got the message so are forced to believe you didn't care enough to respond.



Stop being such a wimp about this, how badly could you mess up a response that people would get mad at you? By now you should be able to comprehend a text message and determine if it's supposed to be funny, sad, flirty, or whatever. Say LOL to funny stuff, say im so sorry to sad stuff, and just make winky faces to flirty stuff or whatever.



If this is really making you anxious you should see a therapist about it.

Answer 3

Due to the field I am in and the level of interaction I have with people via messages, yes people think I am ignoring them or that I have not received their message if I don't reply right away. I have even had people get angry or upset if I don't reply within an hour to their message.



You have made it clear you are uncomfortable interacting with messages, so start letting people know that. And don't worry about it.



One way to deal swiftly with messages is to say in a reply that you have received the message. "thanks for the message". Read through for just the questions and answer them directly in a numbered way. Then add a short note saying that you are uncomfortable with the impersonal nature of messages and would prefer to talk in person about issues. People will understand.

Answer 4

too long; didn’t read. but yes, people are stupid and think so.

Answer 5

yu cud sayc i didnt cuz i didnt so if u dont like it suk my balls