should i stay with the therapist i have now? i'm beginning to dread the next session?

Question

tomorrow will be my third session with my therapist (he's a social work counselor or something like that). i'm on 150mg of Wellbutrin right now, and i'm seeing him to help with depression. the problem is is that i don't think he can fully help me. i can't open up and say what i need to. this is why.

---he's in his 60's and he takes a huge religious approach as he used to be a bishop in my church, so i find it really hard to relate or think that he can understand my problems. [please don't say that old people have been there and know what it's like. i've heard all that crap before and i'm sick of hearing it]
---he has sessions with my parents as well and has for sometime now, so its a whole family thing. he has already said that he doesn't like my decision to not tell my dad about my depression and he keeps pressuring me. (i don't have a problem with my dad, but apparently he thinks i do...)
---i told him i am a perfectionist during the first session and he has focused on that, telling me that i have to stop letting people control my emotions and 'take back the power'. he keeps saying that but hasn't given any advice on how i should do it.
---i have other problems i'm dealing with aside from my perfectionism (such as cutting, loss of friends, and more), but i never get the chance to tell him. i don't trust him enough to say anything about the other problems, especially since my parents talk to him. he always says what he thinks is my problem and then says "don't let me put words in your mouth" but continues on. he thinks he knows what i would and wouldn't do, which is absolutely wrong. he's told me that i'm an 'easy read', which makes me feel that my problems are insignificant and that nothing is really wrong, just your average dramatic teenager. *oh yeah, that helps my self-esteem a lot!*

he's driving me nuts! i thought i liked him at first, but now i'm dreading the fact that i have an appointment tomorrow. do i just need to get 'comfortable' talking with him, or am i right to want to change therapists this soon?
what do i say if i don't want to see him anymore?

Answer 1

I would change to a younger therapist that is female, then it might be easier simply because you would be talking to someone of the same sex and she would be closer to your age and may be able to relate better.

Answer 2

You have to remember that you are the boss of the therapist. You do not work for him...he works for YOU. You need to tell him that you will not be seeing him anymore. You cannot leave it up to him..you have to do it. You do have to take the power back..and science is showing that you can do this. The cutting is due to a deep disatisfaction with you. You are NOT happy. There are no perfectionist. Science has revealed that perfectionist are people who are powerless and are afraid to mess up. The more powerful you are the more you welcome mistakes..this is how you learn from mistakes not from doing things right.



So there are no perfectionist just powerless people who are afraid or were abused for making mistakes.



You have a stress depression. Your parents are probably part of your problem..you can love them but the fact that you cannot open to them shows something is wrong between you and them



You do not feel good about YOU..you are not happy and have a hidden stress that is eating you on the inside.



I would recomend the "Why you don't want to live report by Collin Camino. It is right online and you can read it instantly. He is a young cool fillmaker that is stopping depression, cutting and suicidal thoughts with his techniques of giving you back the power.



The best part is you work and heal alone!..no doctors or therapy..just you! This is it http://suiciderateup.wordpress.com/about/ You are going to love what he says about therapist at that link! sounds like your situation



and This is the one for the cutting yourself http://spirithappy.wordpress.com/cutting-yourself-why-doctors-cannot-cure-you/



take back the power from that therapist!

Answer 3

Leave!



The whole point of going to thearapy is to seek help and support from somebody you trust.



so if you don't trust your [current] thearipist to tell him other issues you need to find someone you can! they are supposed to help not make you even more upset



so try to find someone who gets you and u can trust.



i went to my doctor and requested a female [made me more comfortable] and that she should be young



i got a nice woman in her 30's and she helped me A LOT!

Answer 4

if you dont like him then you wont find it helpful.



in order for therapy to help it needs to be with someone you can trust and tell stuff to.



in the mean time i made a support site that i think will help you please look at it and take care.



stay safe hun