Please help, I get angry very easily.?

Question

I don't know what's going on with me, I'm a 13 year old female and it seems like I lose my temper at everything. I always find myself shouting at my little sister for talking even though she doesn't say anything. I get angry when she says 'okay', is this normal? I just don't know why I'm like this, I can't seem to control it.
Also, my parents know how angry I get and yet they still get me annoyed whether it's waking me up, to making 'jokes' which I hate, and always getting me into trouble because my little sister is always telling me off and acting like an 'angel' in front of my parents which really gets me annoyed. (she's 8 by the way)
My parents are the worst. When they do something which gets me annoyed, I can't shout or rage, I'm too scared to let my emotions out in front of them because I know I'll get beaten up for it. This is why it's horrible, don't you just hate it when you feel as if there is a bottle inside of you filled with all your emotions and anger but you just can't seem to let it all out? Yeah that's how I feel when I'm with my parents, my dad especially, he's very scary when he gets angry. He basically gets angry at me when I get angry, it's like there's a law in my family about "not being angry". It's not fair. I just want to go into a room where no one can see me and i could just shout and scream and let all my feelings out.
I am always feeling like this and since it's the holidays, me and my family haven't even gone anywhere which gets me angry because all my friends are in different places and I'm stuck here at home. Please help me, how can I stop being angry all the time, I hate my life so much and I'm also getting suicidal thoughts, don't worry though, I'll never attempt it.
But I really need your help. Do I need to go to anger management or something? Are all 13 year olds like this? What should I do?
Thank you so much.

Answer 1

Seriously speaking, go to a psychiatrist and check yourself out :) They might be able to help with some counseling or medication if needed. You're probably stressed or there might be some other reasons for this.

Answer 2

I know you will hate this answer but it is actually quite normal. And all that you described is also very common. I remember waking up at 13 all of a sudden, being very angry, and every morning I would feel this rage and hate as well. It is your hormones waking up and your body changing super fast.

It is not any excuse though. You are turning into a reactor, and need to get a grip on this early or you will have a very rough teenagehood. You parents are already there, being reactors too, not letting you talk your feelings out without themselves reacting. So it is quite a triangle. Ask your parents for a family meeting, write your angry thoughts down, and why you have them. All the unfairness. Do your best not to over react. You want some new outcomes. Not going anywhere for the holidays is just a fact of life. Not every family can afford that. Don't you have any friends, you need to find a good friend that you can share everything with.

Not feeling understood is the main reason you feel angry. You need to express your feelings without anger or rage. Very matter of factly, write these things down.

for example: I need privacy. I am older and don't want my sister in my room borrowing my stuff.

Also write yourself 5 things you like about your family, your dad, your mum and your sister.

And focus on positive things, you have your whole life ahead of you.

Answer 3

Firstly, hormonal changes can make one more emotional. That is why teenagers are labeled as such. "Hormonal, Emotional."



Secondly, your reactions may have been learned. If, whenever your parents get angry, they lash out, you have learned this from them. Everyone needs to vent sometimes, but they need to learn a proper way to do it. Not being allowed to vent or voice anger isn't really productive.



Exercise? A punching bag? Some other way to exert energy and vent your anger in a positive manner is needed.

Answer 4

I don't think all thirteen year olds are like that but I can definitely relate to you I have the same anger problems... I try to just ignore the people that annoy me so I won't get angry try to remain calm is what I can tell you my friend.

Answer 5

No. At age 13, it is puberty. Your hormones are causing mood swings while you're body is changing. It is normal and does not need major emergency treatment. Get one of those squishy stress relief balls and you'll be fine.

Answer 6

anger is very addictive, it releases endorphins and makes you feel good for a while

order a cheap self help book om anger managment from an internet bookstore a nd study it

Answer 7

once you state that 'Others worsen you truthfully,' you're blaming them on your thoughts and which you're making them pay for this via shouting at them. You ask for help yet probably shoot down the 'anger administration' concept earlier it truly is even reported. the reason(s on your anger and the ultimate you declare to react which contain your anger as a weapon, probable has its origins on your formative years ~ wherein you detect your ethical righteous justification to genuine a punishment on others ~ and react in a newborn-ish way on your perceived hurts. What are you able to do to calm your self? No concept. some human beings attempt counting to 10 or 20 whilst 'respiratory,' as a fashion or venting the stress power development interior themselves. yet, in my view, i might propose which you detect professional help as sometime, you will possibly locate you shout at somebody whose thoughts you injury via this behaviour, and their 'injury thoughts' will grant them with the sufficient reason to respond in (their) form to you. end BLAMING others on your anger and make your self responsible for it ~ via 'searching for help.' stable success with this. Sash.