I'm extremely depressed... help?

Question

Okay, well here's a little background info;

I started high school in 07 and didn't really fit in with anyone there, got bullied, etc. So I didn't make many friends, but I did have one good friend, but she moved schools half way through 08. So basically I finished that half a year alone, with nobody, and then started home schooling this year, which is alot better cos I don't have to put up with bullying and stuff and I wouldn't feel so depressed. But anyway, since my friend moved she doesn't make any effort to catch up with me like I was kinda expecting this but she never bothers with me unless I start the msn convo or something and we haven't even seen each other in person since she moved schools... so anyways the other night was looking at her myspace profile and shes taken me completely out of her list of friends.. wtf? So in other words.. I've pretty much been ditched for all her new friends and I now have nobody whatsoever. I am planning to talk to her about how upset I am but I don't really no whether its worth bothering. I was up all night upset about her.... then there's my family...
my dad doesn't talk to me at all (all her cares about is my brothers football career)
my brother doesn't either (because he thinks hes really cool and stuff and im just a nerd or whatever)
my mother does talk to me but sometimes she doesn't like, I could get up and she'll be super happy and really really nice and then other mornings i could get up and get the silent treatment for no reason soo...
anyway, I basically don't have anyone that cares about me.... I am really lonely and I just feel like dying. I have become really socially anxious too thanks to all the bullying and stuff so now I feel like even if i put myself out there I won't be able to make friends with anybody now...
So is my life worth living?? The only thing that keeps me going is my dream of being an actress but to be honest, how likely is that???
I just want to die.... what can I do? I don't wanna call those hotlines either because I've tried that and its not really for me.. I don't find them helpful at all.




Sorry about how long this is =[

Answer 1

Message me and I will send you my Msn Messenger e-mail address.



You could add me and I could be a friend to you in times of need, or whenever you require a friend. We could even be pen pals and write letters.



I can be a positive influence, which could make you and your life happier. I am a good listener. In addition to listening well, I have much advice to offer from my own personal experiences.

Answer 2

First of all, this all will pass you are still young and I promise you will find new friends in time. Find out why your friend took you off of her list, that kind of rude. Second you may want to see a doctor, depression can get really bad and it sounds like it is bad because you want to die. And yes your life is worth living, this might not sound good but it sounds like you hit a bottem, and guess what only one way to go! UP! I did not really have too many friends in high school but once I started working I made a few friends, but they all got lost in time though. Some friends stay some friends go. Most go, you will meet new people through out your whole life, some good some bad. Most relations have time limits, just enjoy the people while they are there. Try going to the ymca or other local gathering to find some friends. Doctors also have medication for social anxiety. I had social anxiety for years and it finally passed without meds, the doc would not put me on any because I was on so many already! I wish I could give you a big hug, and say that everything will be ok, because it will. Just let time pass, and see a doc for the depression and anxiety. And dont keep quiet about your problems let people know so they can help you! Well, hope this helped! Hang in there!

Answer 3

You would be really shocked to find out how many people out there feel like you do. I totally understand about the "friend" not contacting you back. Screw those people that do that. They could at least send you one message letting you know what the hell was going on. It seems that by being home schooled that you have taken some of the stress off yourself but have also become more isolated.



How do you feel about little kids or old people? I'm sure that if you've never been around either one hanging around them would seem like an ****** thing to do. Little kids are fantastic and old people are totally amazing--they have the best stories and will really appreciate the time that you spend with them.



Yes your life is worth living. Try reaching out to people who need you instead of reaching out to people that you need. Focus your attention on others and you will begin to feel better emotionally.



I hope you try to do some volunteer work in your area. Good luck.

Answer 4

I was the same, in grade 9 I was bullied

I would ignore them or just burst out laughing, it made nobody end up bothering me and then with no friends there I just was polite and nice and I made some.

My dad is to busy for me, my mom talks but gets only mad at me and my brother doesn't talk to me because he thinks I'm a loser.

I understand..it's TOUGH!

I hate saying this grr, but maybe join something?

Like I hate it when people tell me that but some people like doing that if you do you could easily meet more people

=]

And not every school has people you will like, so try to make some out of school this sounds weird but on face book I'll just reply to someones status and just start talking to someone and be their friend and hangout with them

It's soo easy to make friends

Everyone is as confused and lost as you, just some people just talk to more people and aren't scared

Anyone will be your friend you just need to feel better =]

And maybe you can try to go to councling

Yeah if I was you right now I'd be like "No ew counseling"

But I went and loved it

And it's confidential and everything, it's a great thing trust me

=] Good luck!

And you do sound like an open minded really nice person, just a bit shy

I'd totally be your friend and good luck!

Answer 5

I know exactly where you're coming from. What happened when this happened to me was i went to church and made friends there. They in turn helped me to get closer with God. Don't worry about it there's so many people who don't make it through high school cause they're depressed and have no friends. I felt like just ending it all on a few different occasions. It does suck when one of your friends just ditches you. I'm the nerd of my family too and i feel like nobody cares. I met a few good people and now i've kinda started to become friends with them and their friends. High school is the worst of it trust me it all seems so big right now, but you'll look back and see that it wasn't that big of a deal. I'll be praying for you and if you need anyone to talk to then i'm here.

Answer 6

i feel everyone life is worth living no matter the conditions. you just have to think positive about live at home. Speak to your dad tell him it hurts to see him care about your brother more then you. If talking isn't your thing write a note. Your brother, don't worry almost all older brothers that are into sports forget family. If you ever see him around the house pop a joke or complement him. It might be hard but it starts a conversation. about friends,it's really tough isn't it? But here are some tips to get threw. Your old friend that moved seems to be she moved on with you. i think if You really think she worth it tell her how you feel on myspace.it might be hard but just say it. Be like, um nice profile, i noticed im not in your friends? why did you take me out or something like that. With making friends be your self. if you see someone in your school kinda like you talk! play sports,join a group,join band you meet people and plus they must have at least the same interest as you. PLEASE DON'T KILL YOURSELF. i bet your a good person. Don't let those bullies get to you,Just think there talking about themselves , think there jealous and the only way to make them feel better is to make me feel bad which they will never do!!! think positive!

i hope this helps! I REALLY DO. I BET EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY. (: my thoughts and prays for you are with me i hope you will not be depressed! ( SORRY IT'S SOO LONG) reply and tell me if it helps or anything else( i do care lol) take care bye

Answer 7

u should get God and Jesus into ur life, they will help u through tuff times and u will not feel alone.

dnt say u want to die. u have every right to live, theres a light at every tunnel.

i may sound like im chattin a load of preachy glup but its true.

There is proberly more people looking out for u then u feel, everyone goes through a bad spell at one time or other.

I would say get all ur thoughts together and start anew, start socialising with lots of different people and u will find some good friends.

If Therapy or hotlines isn't really for u?

turn to ur mum and dad , they proberly dnt understand what u are going through so talk to them , it will do more good then harm.

Just Embrace some change.

Suicide is the worst possibly thing u can do, not only are u giving in to the people who put u in this state , but u would be wasting ur own life when u have so much to live for.

Answer 8

If your "friend" does not want to be your friend thats her loss not yours. You should probably start converstions with you family, start with the one that is closer to you. Ask them about their day and other simple questions. You might be surprised about their reaction. From there you might start a new relationship with them. Brothers are hard to get on with. I can understand. I also went through the same things you described. I moved to a different country in year 10 and had to make new friends. I am not a social butterfly, so for two years I had less than 5 good friends, and they weren't that close. We just sat at the same table together. The thing that kept me going was( okay I might sound religious but please bear with me) God has a plan for me and he put me there, so every morning when I get up I always ask why I have to be in that situation and so on. All I had in my head was that he put me in it for a good purpose. And from there I got to know a lot of good people and am growing closer to them each day.

MY TIPS:

Start by talking to people you come across.

You are doing home school so you may not easily find friends. Try join a sports group, or a club. You may find that you are not the only ones with that problem. Talk to people, start by saying hello and from there ask if you could hang with them, and you will make new friends. I would be your friend if I could. Just hang in there! Please Add me to your contacts and tell me about your progress.

Answer 9

When terrible things happen they do seem like the worst. A couple things. Avoid telling people you are depressed people that are not depressed do not understand. When you begin to act you will be able to draw on this experience to make you a better actress and truly feel express the pain you are feeling now. You have been blessed and cursed with your opportunity to home school . I am going to guess that you are not including the social skills part of your education by participating in sports, volunteering. Its easy to fall in to depression when you are not getting exercise. Exercise triggers dopamine a natural hormone that make you happy. So get your self involved in your area theater. Get busy and before you know it you wont need to talk to your dad brother or your distant friend unless you want to.

Answer 10

Honestly, I pity you very much. I felt like dying too if I were you, but dying isn't the solution to it. Its just going to make things worst. Maybe your parents doesn't really bother you but that doesn't mean that they don't like you. No parents hate their own children.



Your friend who ditches you because she had new friends is not a friend. A friend is someone who is there to talk you out of blueness and help you. A friend lends you his or her shoulder to let you cry on. That is no friend. She'll get ditch too since she ditches you also.



And your brother, no offence but he is such a stubborn guy. If he thinks that he is way too cool to talk to anyone, then go ahead. Let's see what happens if he gets dump off the football career.



Don't feel bad if someone doesn't bother about you. Loneliness is a good way to show who really care about you and who don't. Be grateful. Now you can see their true colours. Your friend and brother is idiots. Your father may loves you deep inside only that he doens't show it out.



Don't worry about having no one. Always stay happy and think positive. Remember, dying isn't a good way. May be you'll end up getting better friends??? =P

Answer 11

WOW - lots going on here. You have no problem communicating your thoughts. Your command of the written word is impressive. Consider yourself one of the few who can put two sentences together and have it make sense. I can tell you are intelligent. You are ahead of your peers and that is why you "do not fit in". Be thankful that you do not fit into that group. It is difficult now but you will do very well in college where you can sort it out with people on your level. So for now I have a very different approach to helping you out in your current situation.

There is a book written by a man named Marshall Rosenberg that can really help you make your life much more enjoyable. The name of the book is " Nonviolent Communication - A Language of Life". Don't let the title confuse you, it is about human communication Check it out on Amazon. It is a great technique and it takes a lot of practice.

In short there are only two things that humans are attempting to say to each other,please and thank you.Most of the time we fail miserably at doing this communicating. He will show you techniques that make it a whole lot easier to deal with people. Good luck and hang in there. Please check out the book.

Answer 12

Just start being social & talking to people, it can't hurt, can it? My mom gets like that sometimes, not the silent treatment, but yelling. It's okay, when you get out of there & on your own, you'll realize there's so much more to life. But you don't need to be depressed, it's not that bad! I'll be your friend if you want. Your life is very much so worth living. Don't harm yourself, or think badly of yourself, because I'm almost positive it's not true.



Do you have AIM? I'll talk to you, lol. Just add me on here or myspace or facebook.



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Answer 13

I think that due to all the time that has been passed between you and your friend she's probably changed. Don't be upset! There are millions of people in this world you can be friends with! It's better to try and talk to her instead of just sitting there regretting "what if I had done this and that"

If you want I can talk to her for you! :D My myspace is myspace.com/MiracleMilk we could be friends if you want!

As for your family, Maybe your mom has her own problems! You can't be selfish and always think about your own! ^_^



Life is worth living only if you try to create happiness with your own hands. You can't always wait for things to happen.

Answer 14

I'm 16 in the same boat as you except my mom doesn't talk to me much, unless we're fighting. I just joined my softball team and I made a friend, I bet you could make friends if you joined a team, they can't be mean to you cuz the coach is always there most of the time, if you want someone to talk to you could message me anytime, especially if you're really sad during the time, don't be afraid to message me about anything!

I hope you feel better!

Answer 15

Just an idea. I knew someone who was depressed like u. Only this person had no parents or siblings or friend. No interaction ever with anyone. He went to a study abroad program, went overseas to a place of his choice, and came back with great memories and great friends. Just an idea. Do what u enjoy in life with or without anyone, dance to the beat of your own drum and believe me in time people will come your way, or at least you will come across interesting people along the way.

Answer 16

you sound just like i was as a teenager. my family never really cared for me and i didn't have a lot of friends because i was awkward too. im 25 now and things have changed though.... im a stronger person because of what i went through and ive learned that people are LUCKY to have me in their life, just like they are lucky to have you in their life.



You will make good friends in time. I know it's hard to wait....Its really not about you though. its hard for ANYONE to make REAL friends. Sometimes people who seem "popular" really aren't and are more lonely than you think.



Try to make some online friends who understand you. I have a lot of friends now because I just gave people a chance and didn't take people who didn't want to be friends seriously.

Just try joining clubs too. Join an improv class if you like acting! soo much fun!

Take a lot of risks and have more of a "whatever, atleast I tried" attitude. I promise you will meet real friends soon! :)

Answer 17

hey,

about your acting career, i have wanted to be a singer and i didnt think i had the chance and im really self conscious. If acting is what you wanna do then do it!! i know a lot of people say to follow you dreams and honestly, it bugs the hell out of me!! so im just gunna go out on a limb and be a hypocrite and tell you to try to get the acting thing started. My sister has wanted to be a model and she is really photogenic and so she started that. she had a couple of photo shoots and shes climbing to the top. im proud of her cuz she started that. so just do the acting thing and devote your time to it so you can have something to focus on and keep your mind off of your family/friend problems. Have fun with the acting thing. and by the way, i wasn't all that popular in the beginning of high school. so just pursue your acting career!

Answer 18

Aww don't listen to bullies.. they only put down other people bc theyre are unhappy with their lives. And don't give up on your dreams. Youve got something to look forward after high school. The people who bully you now will be total losers after high school. Just wait until your high school reunion, you'll be famous and they'll be the jaitor at your high school. Plus, I bet theyre are tons of people who would be happy to be your friend, but just dont know how to go about it.

Answer 19

youngster... you have have been given no reason to be depressed. there's a asserting "thinking is your in basic terms thank you to flee" and picture of it like this... while i became right into a newborn, i'd consistently have nightmares of the Ghost face killer. My mentality became into that, IF i assumed approximately him until now I slept i'd dream of him. no count number how no longer straightforward i'd attempt to no longer think of roughly him, he'd consistently be on the back of my concepts. Thats how my melancholy became into. i'd desire to aim to no longer think of roughly it, regardless of the undeniable fact that it would consistently be there. thinking made it worse.. yet thinking became into additionally how I have been given out of it.. i attempted to kill myself thrice. so as, pills, pills, then I slit my wrists final year. i'm 18 years previous, and function scars on my wrists to take me back to the certainty of the main important virtually mistake of my existence. June twenty third, 2010, My dad got here across me handed out in my tub sitting in a pool of my very own blood. All i will keep in mind became into taking a razor blade, and cutting my wrists. Then waking up interior the wellbeing midsection 3 days later. that's coming from a newborn. i'm telling you, you have have been given no longer something to be depressed approximately. And all of us pass by way of this. some worse than others, some gain their suicides. I wasn't. My dad forgot his cellular telephone while he left for artwork. talk approximately twist of fate? hurricane clouds would be over your head. yet they're going to pass. My therapist instructed me, "Jack, you are the midsection newborn. center babies are the survivors. You manage some notably undesirable ****. yet you extra often than not think of, i've got dealt with worse so i will get handed this" and he's precise. look, i understand that's long and all. yet you ought to strengthen up lots. you're 13. make certain the type you ought to experience while your'e 21.

Answer 20

ouch, i know how you feel, i went thru all that too, except for the friend moving, i just got stabbed in the back and cast aside from my former friends. but don't worry, it will get better, it has for me, altho the actress dream may be hard to get started, keep at it tho. there are people who care ya know, you just got to look for them and you will find. go look for a book or somthn, just get your mind away from all this for a while

email me if ya need someone to talk to. or not, ether way, ill listen if you do.

Answer 21

hi there; i thought id give some support. i too am wicked depressed right now. ive had a similar background; but i am a bit older. i was depressed a lot when i was in highschool too. i found it helpful to speak to an actual therapist. just someone who cant judge and will listen. a 3rd party that has no objective thoughts. even if its just someone in an online chat support group. it doesnt make everything better of course; but it always used to help me.

Answer 22

Out of the bad come good ready to make change just wait its coming go out of your way to say hi to someone else try making a friend. I wish you the best of luck be happy for us on yahoo. And if your friend could diss you like that then she isnt a real friend...

Answer 23

No. Everyones life is worth living. Talk to your mom. tell her about your feelings at the moment. I dont know if this will bother you, but maybe, try to find a good church nearby.

Answer 24

i want to be your friend... email me... i will send more contact stuff when you do...

its nice to see that someone would care so much to give a long heartfelt ?...

your life is worth living and no one should make you feel worthless, because your true worth is way more then they would be able to accomplish...

i be your friend!

ILY!

Answer 25

i feel the same way you do and ive been in a similar situation as well.. i cant give you advice, because im in the same boat but i can just tell u ur not alone... :)

Answer 26

If this is your biggest problem, you really don't have all that much to worry about. Being socially awkward is just part of being a teenager.



I suggest you get yourself out and about, meet some people and make friends. It's not difficult unless you make it so.

Answer 27

life is always worth it!!!!!!! remember that and u will always find new friends if u try!! the worst decision is suicide dont do it try to make new friends by goin outside and trying to talk to people!! i hope this works for u!!!

Answer 28

find extra curricular activities. take theater classes. do community service. you'll meet a lot of nice people. and whatever you do, never put yourself down. and i agree, find pen pals. write me if you like. :D

Answer 29

Awww im sorry I now it is hard sometimes but you will push through:)

Answer 30

I agree, go to therapy

Answer 31

see a therapist

Answer 32

aw, I'll be your friend. :)