My abusive father passed away 2 mo ago and I'm depressed even though we were estranged all my life. why?

Question

My abusive father passed away 2 mo ago and I'm depressed even though we were estranged all my life. why?

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a hard time. I am also estranged from an abusive father, and I dont know how I would feel if he died. I think about this all the time. Perhaps the issue is that you never got a chance to resolve your situation with him. Perhaps you're still waiting to hear him say 'I'm sorry'. Or, more likely, you're not necessarily mourning for him, but for the father you never had and truly deserved. I mourn for this all the time.

Answer 2

Whenever someone passes away that you have know for so long, even if it was on bad terms it still made that person apart of your life. so now that he is gone, you are missing something from your life. Keep your head up and always think positive. I am wondering what I will go through when my father passes. We dont talk and he was abusive as well.

Answer 3

because even tho u were estranged all ur life theres still a bond between father and son

Answer 4

It means your heart is in the right place,sorry about his passing.

Answer 5

because even though he was abusive you still love him cuz insde he is the one who helped bring you into the world.

Answer 6

because theres a mental bond that animals form twards family

Answer 7

because he was your father, without him you wouldnt exist