Is there any quick way to cure Co-Dependency?

Question

I am a co dependent and found this out recently even though for years i have been asking myself why i am like i am. Is there a quck and easy way to remedy this problem and change your outlook. Cause i am getting more and more depressed

Answer 1

There is a great book by Melody Beattie called "Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself" (you can find it at the library) that was suggested to me by my psychologist that has really helped me deal with my co dependency issues.



I really don't think that there is a "quick" way to "cure" co dependency, I personally think that it needs to be a "steady" learning process one goes through. You didn't get the way you are overnight right? so you really shouldn't expect it to be something that can have a "quick" cure.



I was able to get a book on CD version and listened to it while I drove to and from work. It really helped me open my eyes to WHY I do the things that I do and the feelings I had associated with my co dependency. If your a busy person- I highly recommend the book on CD/tape version.



Another suggestion is to get connected to a therapist, counselor, someone you can talk to about the issues you are having. For me personally, it just made me feel better knowing that i had an outlet to get my frustration, depression etc. out in the open to someone who wasn't going to judge me for my feelings, but would understand where they were coming from.



I really hope you will consider my suggestions.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

May I know how you come to realise that you are a co-dependent? A general answer to your question will be to find out why you are like that. Only when you know the root-cause of your behaviour, will you be able to look for the right resolution to your co-dependency.



Hypnotherapy is one of ways you could achieve such deep understanding of why you are who you are.



As a hypnotherapist and a counselor, I understand that our sub-conscious mind collects all the experiences and knowledge that we come across in our life. Eventually, it forms our belief system and creates our behavioural patterns and also our responses to situations around us.



One good thing that I see in you, is that you are still fighting your co-dependency. By posting a question for help, you have already taken the first step to resolving your issues. Keep up the work of searching and continuously take active steps to do something about it.



By the way, you can't take care of anyone when you are not taking care of yourself. You can't give love when you have none for yourself.

Answer 3

Generally in instances of co-dependence from substance abuse, the best way to deal with it is to make the abuser independent, rather than dependent on you. Instead of doing things for them and reminding them of their responsibilities, just focus on the well-being of yourself. Let that person learn to do things independently, or else they never will.

Answer 4

grow a back bone, and start making decisions for urself