Lose many friends and possibly get over a disease, or live with a restrictive disease and keep your friends?

Question

Background story: Last summer, I was diagnosed with a pretty serious disease (after about 3 weeks of misdiagnosis and time spent in the hospital). As a result of the misdiagnosis and confusion, I spent about a month in the hospital before I started my freshman year of college. I was also dumped by my girlfriend right before I was admitted to the hospital and had some pretty serious family issues in that time as well. All of this was emotionally and physically crushing enough for me to have some trouble making friends and feeling accepted during my freshman year of college. Despite that, I still have a core group of friends (although not large) that I rely on when I'm at school.

I'm still affected enough by that experience that I feel awkward around people that don't know me well, which is something I've been struggling to fix for a long time, but my awful time last year only made my issue worse.

During freshman year, my family and I discovered a way for me to possibly cure this disease: by beginning an extremely restrictive diet where I'm prohibited to eat most things "ordinary." When I eat, people usually ask me why I'm eating so healthily (basically all I can eat is meat and vegetables) and it's a little unnerving and makes me self-conscious. Despite that, I'm determined to use this diet to cure my disease (and limit my medicine intake, because right now, it's pretty off the charts). That's the one decision I've made for sure.

Here's my dilemma: I have the choice to either go back to college for my sophomore year, or take a year off and find a job (or something to do) while I continue the diet at home.

Obviously, going back to school would be great because I'd be able to see all my friends, but at the same time its also extremely difficult to keep up this diet and it would be almost like the addition of another class to my already very busy schedule at school. Also, I wouldn't be able to drink and that would definitely hinder my social life.

At the same time, staying at home would be nice--I'd be able to continue with my food restrictions relatively easily (as I have been this entire summer) and probably get a job and keep myself busy. I'd also be able to stay in shape, which I've been doing this summer. But at the same time, would I have any social life? I do have a few friends that go to colleges around me, but I can't really make a life going to visit friends at colleges... Would I make friends at my job, or in night classes? I don't know.. Also, I'd still be in the same town as my ex girlfriend and I don't know if I can stave off the temptation to call her for an entire year. If I did and she turned me down that'd be pretty awful. Its been more than a year that we've been broken up, we don't even talk and I still can't get over her and get myself to talk to other girls.. I think college would be the only thing that would free me from her.


What would you do??? This is the hardest decision I've ever had to make and I feel like it will affect my life for years to come.. physical health vs. emotional health?

Answer 1

I am assuming you had friends before you went to college. If I were you I would stay home and get healthy. Lots of people do not even go to college. Maybe try hooking up with people you knew in high school. Also it is highly likely you will make friends at work. So really it is get physically healthy and possibly also be able to have a social life and be emotionally well vs. decline in physical health with social life. You won't be as emotionally well if your physical health declines, because that is the way sickness works. You will also be worrying all of the time about damaging your body. Good luck honey, get well!

Answer 2

Stay at home and sort you health out!

I know leaving your friends behind will be hard - but if you really feel you wont be able to keep up with the diet then stay at home, If their true friends they'll still be their after college or once your able to manage your health.

Although your worried about a lack of social life while your at home remember - your going to start work - you'll meet plenty of people and gain many new friends that will stay local to you.

Answer 3

A yeast contamination will do this. There are over-the-counter meds for that. Have her ask the drugstore at any drug retailer. It may be very normal. Stay clear of nylon panties or if they're nylon, they have to have a cotton crotch (Sorry I am so blunt however that's the best way it's) SHe isn't diabetic is she- it runs like loopy in diabetics if their sugars don't seem to be in controll, simply as with every contamination. PS a few guys were understand to have it too however with athletes foot powder the itching is going away.

Answer 4

As I told someone ear liar, Health comes first, friends can wait. You can always make friends,but can you always live with a sick body. I don't think so.