advice on Cutting? (please dont tell me 2 c a counsler either cuz i wont)?

Question

Bout a year ago I started cuttin myself. My best friends mom noticed n we tlked bout it, I told her I wuld stop n promised 2 come her wen I had a prob. She said cuttin is jus a cry 4 attention n dat I prolly jus wan my parents 2 start actually noticin me. Dat was prolly tru, n I did stop cutting, 4 awhile. So bout 4 months ago I started cuttin again. But now, I dont wan my parents attention, I jus wan dem 2 die n get out of my life. I hide the cuts better now, n I think i'm addicted to it. The deeper the cuts are, the more relieve it brings. I do rely wan 2 stop though, I jus can't. n the only person I wana tell is my best friend's moms sister(abby). She is lik my hero n I love her n her fam. more than anything n da world n I actually feel like i BELONG there. So i've actually considered many options 2 solve my probs but 0 of them r good. I could kill me, kill my parents, run-away, run-away n live wit abby, or jus keep livin the way i am n cutting. Which 1 sould i do? advice please!!

Answer 1

1-800-DONT-CUT is a hotlline for cutters.

Answer 2

Every time you feel like you need to cut try doing something else instead. Throw away everything you normally use to cut (razors etc) If you refuse to see a counselor you probably won't get better but there are things you can try on your own. Talk to Abby about it. Maybe she'll go with you the first time. Join a support or therapy group. You won't be allowed to talk about the cuts but you will talk about healthier ways to cope. Every time you feel the need to cut destroy something other than your body. Rip up pieces of paper, take up martial arts *it's a great way to channel unhappiness*, go run until you can't run anymore, etc. Just do something else. I know that that sounds so hard and impossible but it's what works (better if you have a counselor). Good luck.

Answer 3

You should talk to Abby about it. She wants to help you, and you want her to help you, so tell her you've started cutting again.



Of course, the obvious solution to wanting to stop cutting is to stop cutting, but I know from experience that that's easier said than done. You probably want to stop all the time except for when you actually cut, right?



Being a teenager can be tough, especially if you don't get along with your parents. But there are people who can help. You already have an adult you can go to for help, which is really good. So go talk to her.



Don't run away. Where would you go if you did? However bad things might be at home, I promise you that the streets are worse, unless you're being abused at home, in which case you should tell someone. Don't kill anyone, either. You do have another option: talk to Abby, talk to a counselor, and work with them to fix whatever is making you so unhappy.

Answer 4

Sorry to hear that you are so unhappy. Cutting usually occurs in people who have had some very traumatic episode occur in their life that they fear they can tell no one. To relieve the madness that wells inside they cut, and it releases some of that negative energy which infects them.



You are starting at a good point in that you have someone you really admire and look up to. Talk to her, tell her everything bad that has happened in your life. Tell her everything bad that you've ever done or want to do. Let it all out. Talk until your throat is hoarse, tell her that you cannot live w/your parents any longer.



Hang in there . . .I personally don't think it's a cry for help, I believe it is a way to try to rid yourself of the demons that are driving you to the precipice.

Answer 5

It's a way to relieve stress and unresolved internal conflict. Talking to someone who had gone through similar things would help (there are discussion groups on-line), also finding a more positive way relieve these negative feeling would help (i.e. working out, meditation, learning as much as you can about yourself and why you do what you do). You're not a bad person for cutting yourself, people are just concerned for you. They probably don't understand why your doing what you do (and maybe you don't either). Talk to more people that you can trust and learn as much as you can about this type of behavior.

This is a good site http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/fself.html

that might give you some solice.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Talk to Abby....explain to her how you feel. Hurting your family doesn't make much sense and will only cause more pain for more people. Killing yourself doesn't solve anything either. You wanna get better not end it. There is a lot to your life that you'll want to do, and you'll need to stick around to do it. So talk to Abby and see if maybe you and her can go talk to someone together. I know you don't want counseling but maybe a group would help. There are other people like you and maybe you can sort our your feelings with them.

Answer 8

Sounds to me like it is the same story this time as it was the last. You are looking for your parents love and attention.

Children want their parents love and attention more then they will admit to and they will take any attention they can get.

If you cant get attention from them being good then you act out in order to get it.

You crave their attention and at least if they are hollering at you, beating you ( whatever) then they are paying you some type of attention.



You are crying out for them or someone to pay attention to you, to help you, talk to you, love you.



And committing suicide is not going to get you the attention you are craving. Yes people maybe showing so attention to you with grief and a funeral and whatever but what good is that? You wont know it, you will be dead.

And killing someone else is not going to get you anything except in prison for the rest of your life. And people who will desert you and hate you for the rest of your life.



Find someone to talk to, someone you can trust, someone who will listen and not judge you. Do something with your life, something positive.

You ARE loved even if you don't believe it right now, later in life you will realize it and look back and wonder WHY you did this to yourself and to your family and you will have a lot of regrets.

Life is to damn short for all this self hatred and mutilation. It is to damn short for hate of others.

Live your life to the fullest now because it could be taken from you at any given time.



And always remember this:............ God is NOT going to let you die until he wants you to die. No matter what YOU do, if he doesn't want it to be your time then it wont be.

You may put yourself through a lot of pain through your mutilation but your not going to die unless it is God's will.

Answer 9

Why are asking us for advice, when you already know what we are going to advise you to do? You are a scary child! You sound like my niece, who is also a cutter, and lives on the "dark side". But I'm not going to tell you what to do, you already know what you need to do, obviously by telling us not to tell you that. But, remember, whether you stay alive and cut, or you kill yourself, you are hurting only yourself, and only cutting your own life too short. Life is to be lived, not to die! The choice is yours! There is help out there for you and there is medication that helps that "dark side" that you have created inside of yourself! If you really wanted help, you would go where you obviously know you can.

Answer 10

it is tough to get over something unless you can keep talking about it. try to get professional help. a couselor cannot tell anyone what you tell them. it is kept private. noone even needs to know that you are talking to a counselor. a dr. can give you some meds to help you thru this tough time. you cannot conquer this on your own--it is too tough. if you don't have the money to do this, call a counselor and tell them you need help but can't afford it. if you don't deal with this problem now you will have to at some time. cutting is a sympton--the problem is something else. talk to a counselor so they can help you understand what is going on.

Answer 11

you originally started cutting yourself because you wanted your parents attention, when they didn't give it to you, you found someone else to show you the attention you wanted to help you stop cutting yourself. now you have started cutting yourself again because your want your friends mom to show you more attention. if you don't want to see a counselor, then maybe you should take psychology classes to understand your problem, and figure out how to help yourself. if you don't figure out how to help yourself, then you will keep doing this for the rest of your life, however short that might be. as for killing your parents, yourself, or running away, DON'T. take responsibility for your life.

Answer 12

Cutting can be very addictive. My theory is that it may be like penitence. See site below for advice on cutting and for teenage girls. It has link to site that has meetings around the country for cutters.



http://www.phifoundation.org/teen.html

Answer 13

lizzie...u just have to hang on, be strong...i know what ur going thru cuz...i having the same proble... my house life SUX...my friends just wont...accept me for who i am and the only relief i find is with a razor blade...i wont tell u to see a counselor, just because... i just wont i cant trust someone who i just dont know and tell him/her something so personal...so just..hold on gurl...u can make it. try, i dont know, doing the things u like...hanggin´ with ur friends, going out for a walk, anything u like to get ur head cleared, if its too late to do any of those things, u can count on me to help get all those feelings u have...basically becuz i guess we´re almost the same age so...u can trust me;) my email is [e-mail], ANYTIME u need helo or just someone to talk with, remember u can count on me. big hug and take care ;), and be happy

Answer 14

Bellow is advice I gave to the last cutter, much of it applies to your situation however I am getting a stronger feeling from you that you may have been abused sexually or otherwise. I apologize if I am wrong but if I am right you need to tell someone in authority to have it stopped immediately. In any case you need to love and respect yourself regardless of how any other treats you.



I am sincerely sorry for the anguish you are going through and hope you will find the help you need.





“Obviously you are in a lot of mental pain. Please do not confuse this self destructive behavior with self worth. You are worthy of everything good. I suspect somewhere in your life you started to believe you were not worthy of everything good and hence started done this path of self destruction.



I also believe sometimes people physically hurt themselves to distract them from mental pain. It gets them out of their heads by shocking them into the present moment. There is a safer healthier way to gain presence. If I may suggest, read a book called the Power of Now by Echart Tolle. This book helped save me a world of grief, and if you take it seriously I believe it can help you too.



When it comes to any health issue they need to be addressed in a (w)holistic way. There is no one magic bullet. Start by right desire followed by right thinking which cascades into right eating, sleeping, exercising, etc. If you can accomplish this you will find yourself acting rightly and in a manner that brings joy not only to yourself but overflows out into the world.



I know it can take lifetimes to reach such a state but step by step we can move ourselves in the right direction and see immediate results by such willful direction.



I know you are hurting and probably need some help. I suggest asking around for a good psychologist. You may even need medication.



On an alternative medicine level there are many herbal, nutritional and homeopathic options. For example most people are depleted in magnesium which is a natural muscle relaxer. When we are stressed our levels of magnesium go down. You are obviously mentally stressed which is intricately connected to your physical body.



If you are experiencing anxiety the amino acid GABA could help and or Kava Kava could help mellow you out. If it is depression you might try the Amino Acid Tyrosine or the herbal Saint John's Wort. In all probability you are experiencing all these symptoms. At least get on the magnesium and from there try to isolate if you have more anxiety or depression and alternate depending on which is more prevalent.



In your case these supplements will only temporarily help alleviate the physical symptoms. This may give you some breathing room to gather the strength to address the root of your issues which obviously stems from some past psychological issue.



Remember you have to start at wanting to get better. Nothing can be accomplished without this desire. Once you are aware of what you want it is only a matter of setting the right things in motion.



For now I will leave you with a simple exercise that will help get you out of your head and ground you into the world. Every time you feel like you are going to freak out bring your attention to your breath and just notice it. It will naturally start to relax and deepen on its own. Also try walking while noticing the soles of you feet. This as obvious as it is, is missed by most people as beneficially grounding. Take seriously what I say and I believe in all probability you will be just fine.



If you need advice, an ear, or just a friend please feel free to e-mail me. I know what extreme mental pain feels like and I truly do care.”

Answer 15

the scars will start to gather and the pain will get old,better figure something out for yourself soon. sucks huh?

Answer 16

well i think that you should talk to your parents about the situation and if they don't want to listen to you then i think you should consider going to leave with your best friend but please don't kill anyone or keep hurting to your self.

Answer 17

Psych Ward

Answer 18

talk to me and i could give u options:[e-mail].