95% sure I have Aspergers? I'm desperate now 😭?

Onlooker

2014-05-10 15:08:25 UTC

You can always talk with another adult you trust -- a teacher, an aunt, or someone else. I'm 95% sure you don't have Aspergers because online tests are not accurate and Aspergers is pretty rare. Not only that, of course you're going to be socially awkward because you're not giving yourself practice in social situations. At your age, you have to go through the rough road of learning social skills. By mustering up the courage to socialize, you will make mistakes, but you will also learn how to socialize. Remember, that successful people (whether successful in relationships, work, hobbies, etc.) take risks, and risk by definition means risk of failure. If we can emotionally handle failure, then we can take more risks and have many successes along the way. You can love facts and nonfiction, have conversations in your head, and even be rude sometimes and still be a perfectly person. Your family is under a lot of stress right now, so maybe it's also affecting you by making you worry a lot, and with your mother very depressed, you're probably too focused on your own mental health. Try to socialize a little more, get involved in other activities, avoid tv shows that are violent or cruel, listen to calming music, use your intellect to develop a hobby, do something to awaken your creative side (painting, poetry, learning to play and instrument, and go for quiet walks). Focus on caring for yourself, and then you'll be strong enough to help others. Also, talk with your dad and ask him if you could see a therapist because you have a lot of worries. He might even like the idea because it might take some of his own worry off his shoulders.

anonymous

2014-05-10 16:04:41 UTC

The only multiple choice test used in the diagnosis of Asperger's syndrome has only 10 questions. Do you trust everything you find online? I was diagnosed in February and was unaware of most of my symptoms until the end of the assessment.

The following link is from the National Autistic Association website, It explains what Asperger's is really about and the symptoms: http://www.autism.org.uk/about-autism/autism-and-asperger-syndrome-an-introduction/what-is-asperger-syndrome.aspx

According to the bell chart you printed out you 'have' severe Asperger's and should be too symptomatic to be able to communicate with people in this nature. Your position on the graph does not fit with your 'symptoms' as you answered the questions subjectively as it's impossible not to.

I was diagnosed following 5 hours of testing, including practical tests, by a clinical psychologist and a speech and language therapist. I also had a further 2.5 hours with a mental disabilities psychiatrist to figure out if my mental health problems were part of my Asperger's or separate. Do you think the NHS would employ expensive specialists if an online test could do their job for them?

Best wishes, A x

anonymous

2014-05-10 15:03:45 UTC

Right, OK. I have AS (am aged 14). I feel exactly the same as you. I'd like to type more, but don't have the time too. A good site to talk to people is Interpals, it has really helped me. Create one and i'll talk to you my account is G131999

anonymous

2014-05-10 16:43:57 UTC

I was 49 before I knew I had aspergers - if I can do it then you can do it - I don't know what country you live in as there is nothing about you in your profile so I don't even think you are genuine - but if it's the USA I would ask around if I were you before seeking to be officially labelled as having such a serious mental disease - as that is what it is internationally classified as by the United Nations - if it is the USA you cant get diagnosed as having aspergers any more as the label has been dropped by the American Psychiatric Association's manual of mental disorders - now it is called autism spectrum disorder - so you wouldn't have aspergers but autism - that would look nice on your job applications - do you know the unemployment rate among people with autism - about 66% - the US government wouldn't let you join the military or even the civil services - not even as a road sweeper, hospital cleaner, school janitor or bus driver - people with autism spectrum disorder are 25-30 times as likely to contemplate or attempt suicide as anyone else - there is a recent research report by Penn State University confirming this figure - but this death wish syndrome doesn't start and end at suicide - there is a great variety of self harming behaviour they get up to - head banging, face punching, cutting, body piercing, burning, flagellating, electrocuting, poisoning, addicting, running away, wandering off, amnesia, loss of personal identity, living rough, risking rape and other violent crime, you name it, they'll do it - I should know - I have attempted suicide six times and run away several times - but the worst one of all was self-inducing such a severe variety of amnesias that I didn't know who I was for 35 years of my life until I had a nervous breakdown requiring psychiatric intervention - that's when I was found to be suffering with aspergers disease - if you do have it then it is best that you know that for certain - the AQ test is not very reliable - do the RAADS-R test and the RDOS quiz and join Wrongplanet, tell them your scores and ask what they think you should do about it

yet-knish!

2014-05-10 15:02:07 UTC

Well, if you know all that about yourself and you accept it, what's the big deal about a label? It doesn't change who you are.

?

2015-03-04 19:56:44 UTC

I'm not sure I have it I stim unintentionally very rarely only some social situations or people scare me I don't like people over our house I understand facial expressions and humor I obsess over people that I love I mean like extreme obsess thinking about them all day and fantasizing I daydream a lot I'm good at art I love playing computer games allay I never ever go outside unless school when people talk to me in public I get angry and ignore them and i don't need routine I'm picky with food texture I hate light touch it doesn't hurt but it just feels weird and It last after they let go for like 6 seconds I can make contact to only certain people and only talk to certain people in certain environment I am sociable some days and some days not as for my narrow interest alchemy,drawing amazing images on a etch a sketch,and also survival tips in case I ever get lost in the forest believe me I know a lot my iq I average my emotions are copy and paste(look at someone and copy there emotions and reactions to certain situations)and I love Sesshomaru from inuyasha I'm a 14 year old reach me at quroncobb@yahoo.com

anonymous

2014-05-10 15:25:46 UTC

The internet is full of information, but self diagnosis is a very dangerous thing. Please don't attempt, with one online test, to do what really requires a trained specialist doctor. At your age it is very common to be worried about yourself - adolescence is a very bumpy ride with rapid changes to go through.

Even if you HAVE got Aspergers - there is no immediate need to rush to the doctor if you're worried about your family's current problems. It's a life long condition that cannot be "cured" as such, and so you could wait until things improve at home before telling your parents of your concerns and asking for help.

What you MIGHT have - given all that is going on in your life at present, is perhaps some depression, which is something you SHOULD see your doctor about since that can be treated. NEVER try to diagnose yourself from the internet. You can get it very badly wrong and scare yourself silly too.

SocksSo

2014-05-10 15:20:51 UTC

Okay, well you really need to go and see a professional in person so they can do a full diagnosis. Often people who are diagnosed as children or something with AS find out they have something different as adults. To be 100% sure you need to see a doctor and be referred for care. The care will also involve one-on-one sessions and going to see someone and have it talked over can be reassuring and helpful with your behaviour.

I understand your outburst like this and you really need to tell someone. If you can't talk to your family, you need to speak with your doctor and join a forum where other people can help and give you proper advice.

?

2014-05-10 15:05:48 UTC

PLEASE HELP ME, I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!

Nothing

I have taken the official test online- I've posted a picture of my results. I took this test honestly & fairly.

There is no "official test" online. Psychiatrists have to diagnose you. You didn't take it honestly or fairly, because you have a vested outcome in the result. You wouldn't have taken the test if you didn't.

I am an extremely unsocial person - my parents try to bribe me with skiing holidays if I'm sociable, but it doesn't work. My friend (who has aspergers) is 99.99% sure I have it.

Unless either your parents or your friend with asperger's has a degree in psychology or psychiatry, you don't have it.

I don't like noise, talking, I have a very high IQ for my age (14), I am rude without noticing nor meaning to be, and I don't consider anyone my true friend. I find sarcasm and facial expression very hard to understand sometimes. I have conversations in my head, which I prioritise over talking to someone. I love facts and non-fiction.

Those are all barnum statements. No one likes a lot of noise. Everyone has a "high iq for their age". Everyone "can be rude without noticing or meaning to be"

The other things may be evidence, but I'm not qualified to diagnose.

What should I do? My family is under a lot of stress at the moment (my mums depressed & in hospital because my nan just died, so my dad is taking care of my sister and I), so I don't want to tell my parents.

I thought about the school nurse, but she only comes in once a month.

Help, I just want to know what to do.

Do nothing. You're manufacturing things to worry about because you're bored. Find better things to do.