I need help?

Question

I feel like I need help.
I'm usually pretty sadd, and then the rare occasion that I'm happy, it all crumbles down on top of me, because I find out what I was happy about was just a lie.

I have low self-asteem, and serious trust issues.

I don't cut or anything though.
But I spend most of my time being anti-social, reading, crying, and stuff.

I know people joke on yahoo answers, but I'm not even joking.
I feel soo lost.
Like I don't even know what to believe anymore.
Like all I can do is cry..Please help me.):

Answer 1

Get professional help. And tell your problems to your parents. Its thier job to help you and they'll want to know if u feel depressed. Asking people on Yahoo, answers really isnt gonna help you. If u really want to get better, get some real help. Tell you mom.

Answer 2

You need read these words of wisdom over and over until something makes sense. If you have a school consulars, go in and tell him how you feel. They can get the help for you. good luck.

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9. Assume your full share of responsibility in the world.

10. Strive to be happy.

Answer 3

You need to treat the root causes, not just the symptoms you describe. You need to address whatever pain is causing the others. Why do you have low self-esteem and trust issues? Why are you codependent? Why are you depressed?



For that last one, keep in mind that your body chemistry may be impacting your emotions. See a doctor for a check-up. A slow thyroid or other medical problems can cause depression.



It's good that you like to read, because that can help you educate yourself on how to have healthier relationships and how to recover from trauma, or whatever you might need help with.



I suggest reading the book "Boundaries" by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. Also read some of Joyce Meyer's books. You can watch her on t.v. (depending on what channels you get) or online:

http://www.joycemeyer.org/



Since you feel you need help, are you getting counseling? Books and t.v. shows can definitely be helpful, but you still need to be able to talk things through with someone (in real life, not just on the computer).

Answer 4

if you do need help, go to someone aroung your age who you dont really know. Its way easier to talk to them than your mom or your best friend. And counsellors? Usually end up telling you stuff you already know.

You sound like your going through some kind of depression. I have had the same problem. Find someone to talk to. It feels better knowing someone knows whats going on, that they are there for you.

As for trust issues, most people have them to some degree. If your friend is asking your bf to the movies and saying she loves him, she probably likes him but doesnt want to tell you. It can be difficult with friends and bfs. If your bf was responding to this though he obviously aint worth your time. Coz he knows your his gf. And where did you hear that from? If it was from some one else they might be trying to cause problems, some people do stuff like that.



If the crying is because of people ,turn it around. If they are making you cry they really dont seem to be good for you. Turn and round and take up something like kickboxing or karate. It feels better to take out your problems on a punch bag. And you'll know how to defend yourself.

Anti-social behaviour can leave your friends worried. They will probably be concerned about you and wondering what is wrong.

Reading is good for you. But don't use books as an escape from life. Coz you have to come back eventually.

Low self-esteem. well. dont start cutting coz of it. Or carving/tattoos. Coz it may make you feel good at the time, but it really hurts once you wake up. Carving hurts when ran against zips. And people can call you stuff for it. which sucks.

Find something that makes you feel good that you can do with friends. Going to the playgrounds good. especially swings. if you find something that makes you feel good while your with your friends you can get outta the whole depression thing.

Take up hobbies or sports. They can stop you thinking about all the unwanted stuff in your head.

If you want to get your feelings out try poetry or short stories etc.

Another way to get things out is to write letters to yourself. I know it sounds wierd but it helps. You dont have to read them again, but you can, so you can see what you were like then, to understand. Kinda like reading a diary you had when you were 6.

Answer 5

I was bullied at school, picked on for not having money, or the right brand of clothes.

I helped out at a garage that promised me lots of things but never delivered.

My first real love, cheated on me and broke my heart.

And somewhere in between all that I was sexually assaulted.



These are true facts.



I looked at everyone as being liers for a long while and thought, ALL people are out for themselves and nobody else.



When I met my current wife, I am ashamed to say, I put her through **** because of my deep distrust.



Seven years later, she's still here and I love her and my son more than anything and trust her with my life.



It can turn around, I am living proof of that, but you need to talk to real people about this.



This honestly isn't the place to do it, but I genuinely feel for you. Michelle IT STARTS WITH YOU,

LOVE YOURSELF and the rest will follow.

Listen to this and BELIEVE it girl!!!!!

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=FWSobRjebkk

Answer 6

well the best thing to do is just cry...i went through that to and im only 17 i would start crying for no aperrent reason .... i aslo have serious trust issues too cant trust anyone from the past

i dont no if you would want to but try a talking to a counsollor you might be worring about stuff that u have that is coming up and might have a high anzietie sorry dont no how to spell it but i went to hte counsoloor and it really helped



hopefully it works !!!

Answer 7

It sounds like you need to speak to your doctor about this, you may have depression, even clinical depression. Your doctor may prescribe you an anti-depresant but I think counceling is best, possibly even both might be an option. Also speaking to family and friends about this is a good idea, its amazing how many things come out when you start to talk and you will know that your not alone in this, it is a common occurance.

Answer 8

Take three deep breathes in the morning after you get out of bed. Splash cold water on your face, taking two or three more deep breathes when the 'bracing' comes. Shower and stretch.

Shake off the negative energy. Don't engage in risky behavior Show us what you're made of. Your not a loser, so don't act like one. Try something different. "If you do what you always did, your going to get what you always got."

Your not in denial. Look at yourself in the mirror and say "I've got this beat." Love yourself, you're worth it.

Answer 9

you need to relax! take things one step at a time...



perhaps you just need to be alone. similiar things have happened to me, probably clinical depression caused by a really hard subject i was taking last semester.



If you're the religious type, go to church, pray to God, read the Bible

if you are happy with material things ... then buy stuff..

play sports, play video games, watch funny spoofs in youtube, read articles in uncyclopedia.org..

Do anything you know that you like or used to like that makes you happy as long as it doesn't complicate things even more.

Eat bananas and chocolate, i read from somewhere that bananas contain compounds that raises your mood :)



Life is too short to live. Enjoy every moment of it :)



God bless! :D

Answer 10

I think you are going into depression. Talk to your mom and your best friends and tell them you are feeling this way. You need counselling sweety.

Meanwhile, try not to be alone. Be around people who care about you, go out, watch movies, take walks, go to the beach etc. Listen to your favorite music. Do the things that you like instead of thinking about things that sadden you.

I hope you feel better soon. *Hug*

Answer 11

If you want we can talk. I had a friend who was very lonely and depressed after she broke up with her 6 year relationship with her boy friend and she felt like the world crumbled on her. Right now I'm trying to have her date other people and so far she's doing great :).



I really think you should put your focus on yourself. Figure out your needs because you are in no shape to help out everyone. You need to help yourself and understand that you are in need of your own attention. You are very gullible, you need to get rid of that immediately. People will take advantage of you easily. You don't need to please anyone or prove to anyone that you are a nice person. If people mislead you or mistreat you then they need to go to hell and you will have to show that, this is the part where you develop your self-esteem. You need to figure out how much you're worth and the easiest way to do that is to improve your self and improve your way of life. Right now you think that you are not worth much to other people but chances are you're worth a lot more than you think.



The question is why are you desperate for friends? By time, friendships come and go. There is always chances for you to be friends with people but its not gonna happen overnight. Who cares if you dont have friends now? You will always have opportunities to make new friends but, in order to do that, you need to improve yourself and your appearance and the way you think.



No body wants to be friends with a desperate and saddened person, thats not what people want to associate themselves with. Usually when people seek friendship they seek happy outgoing people which clearly right now you're not.



You don't need friends right now, they wont do you any good if you don't improve your quality of life and the quality of yourself. Work on your self before trying to get friends. Also people will talk to you if they want to be friends with you that is, if you seem approachable and outgoing. It's gonna happen but, in order to have friends, you need to improve your self.



Work on your self first.

Answer 12

You already know you need help so go get some.

Find a counsler or a mentel heath expert to point youin the right direction.

Also get up and move take a ten minute walk three times a day. just to clear your head. try it onceand tell me what happens I think you will feel better

Answer 13

Sounds like you're struggling with depression. The hardest part is the first step, but I would find a counselor. If you're a student, chances are there is someone you can talk to at your school. If you're not, there should be resources in your community.



Challenges are always better if you face them with someone with you.

Answer 14

Make goals for yourself. Remember that you'll always have your family. And in the end when school is over, all those 'friends' all disapear anyways. So it doesn't even matter. Just get yourself through school and make some goals, get to where you want to be in life and then you'll be set.

Answer 15

Wel the only thing thats within my power, is to point in the direction of unlostness, if that is a word. The first step would be knowing yourself, and why you feel that way.

Answer 16

talk to your friends and family



and when you feel completly sad, treat yourself maybe

have a shower and wash your hair, put a face mask on and listen to your favourite music



maybe see a counseller, there great, i used to see one, she was awsome.



try and see the most positive of everything

it may be hard

but u have sooo much to live for in your future

believe me



good luck sweetie

Answer 17

I am guessing you are a teenager, and i think all teens go through this. Just stop thinking SO MUCH about yourself. Hang with friends and enjoy your life, and consider your glass half full!

Answer 18

hey michelle. if u want to talk online on aim or yahoo answers i'm online now. my screename on both is TheBTPYoda. i at least know what it feels like to have a low self esteem. maybe i can help or if ur just feeling alone we can talk.



u seem mostly to me like ur really lonely and u just need a good friend to get all of your frustrations out to. i know what it feels like to also only help people with their problems but feel guilty if u tell them yours. like i said if u want to talk u know my screename.

Answer 19

your weird, want to go drink beer?I be in Phils. in Dec.

Answer 20

i think what u need is a bf.

Answer 21

call on Jesus I will pray for you.

Answer 22

i think you need prosac :)