I think I have an eating disorder? help?!?

Question

Hi guys. Look, I am CONSTANTLY asking people on Yahoo! Answers what I am eating is healthy or what has fat in it and so on. I know that should be good right? But I am only 13 years old and I'm a GUY! My real issue is, is that I used to weigh 221 lbs! I used to weigh so much and be obese and unhappy. But the thing is I didn't care what I ate I just kept eating and I kinda felt happy but it was in the area of how i looked that affected me. I used to love eating dinner with my mom and family eat cookies, ice cream, cakes, pies, Holiday cookies, Birthday cakes. Then came a time back in I would say march I started dieting. My dad doesn't live with me it was just me and my mom and her boy friend and my mom used to be obese until she got gastric bypass. But anyway, Back to the diet. My dad had tried helping many year before with food but I wouldn't listen I just kept eating and eating. I finaly listened to my dad and we started walking at the local high school in the winter. I lost 10 lbs in the first 2 week. I know it sounds like a lot in that little time but still. I was still eating the foods I did, my mom made valetines day cookies, and I ate them and was just still eating a lot. And then came a time where I lost 40 lbs and then I started getting sick. To get to my point I have lost 88 lbs in only 4 or 5 months. I always eat a huge breakfast like cornflakes, or cereal with skim milk with cut up strawberries, banana. But i'm switching to cherrios tommorrow. I get scared when my dad tried to get me to drink milk 1% because I am so fearful of regaining weight and I drink skim milk with mom now. I skip dinner here at home but dad MAKES me eat dinner. I workout everyday walk 3 times a day after breakfast and lunch and I actually don't walk the third now because I don't have dinner so I don't have energy. I get so upset with myself knowing now I have to spend the rest of my life worrying about if what I eat will make me fat. And I always eat huge amounts of cereal and then I get freaked out about that and start asking on yahoo and then go for long walk and don't eat lunch and dinner sometimes. I think I am anorexic or something! I'm so worried. Look, I have not had any junk food in like 5 or 6 months. I'm craving so badly but I know I can't eat the stuff because it made me fat in the first place. And I know that I can't eat junk food in moderation because I know I will go over board! I'm so scared. I'm upset knowing I have to spend alll of my life not eating christmas dinner, Christmas cookies, Birthday cookies, and all junk. I feel so bad... And I want help badly so please help me. I don't want to be like this forever. I lose at least 10 lbs a month sometimes 20 I just don't want to be fat again. And whenever I'm in a store and I see candy bars like snickers I always get mad and I take them and crush it in my hand so I can take out my anger on the junk food. I was in the store with my mom today and I seen this skinny kid with his grandma and I got so sad when I saw him get cookies and pop and stuff.. All I could think of was "Why can he have this stuff and I can't? Why?" I feel so trapped and i'm in chains and I know it has to be something with my mind. I just don't want to be fat again you guys understand right? My current weight is 133 lbs and I am 5 foot 4 1/2 and I am 13 years old. Please help me out. I get sad when I see cookies and chips in stores and i'm getting depressed about it. Sometimes I would rather be fat than skinny now. I'm sorry guys i'm taking so long its just a long story. I'm even afraid of eating at subway! Please guys just help me out. I'm really depressed and I think I have anorexia. Some days I just want to cry because I can't eat like every other teen my age. The fact is If I eat it I will get fat and I'm just scared and I'm going NUTS!!! Help!

Answer 1

i was going to answer it but it is to long so **** you!!!!11!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Wow, you have done fantastic at losing weight and finding out what you can and cannot eat without gaining weight...

Now, all you have to do is get your MIND right, and in balance so you dont drive yourself nuts, and can enjoy your life....

I think the way to to that is to make some realizations,

First, NO ONE at ANY age can eat all that sugar, cookies, etcetc, without gaining weight and really damaging themselves... NO ONE....

So you have figured out what you need to do...

NOw, just get smart... for instance there is a natural plant they use to make a sugar substitute, that really tastes GOOD and you can cook with it also, it is called STEVIA.... it has zero calories....

You and your mom dont have to give up good food, or even sweets to have a great diet, you just have to start looking into things you can cook or buy that dont have all the crap in them... a good place for either of you to visit would be a health food store or 'whole foods' groceries, etc... and ask people that work there all your questions...

Another thing would be to go to michael thurmonds site and find out your body type and the right diet for you so you can figure out the foods you can eat all you want of...

You could look up different diets, like gluten free, also...

I recommend that you have your thyroid and hormones tested also, as they could contribute to your craving sweets, and weight gain...and be tested for diabetes by your doctor

You sound like you are on the right path, and should be very proud,

YOu dont sound anorexic, but i am giving a site with support groups for ED's run by doctors below, anyway, just so you can see for yourself...

You do sound llike you could use more support in your efforts, so i recommend you start looking for a gym, or mentor who is healthy and not into drugs to start befriending .... making healthy friends will be the best thing for both of you...

I wish you well... you should be congratulated for all your success and ongoing efforts...

Just dont think of it as lacking something, find the right substitute for whatever you are craving..... and you wont feel like you are missing out on anything, because you are not... did you know you can even bake pies, etc without using sugar or unhealthy ingrediants....

yes

take care

become a specialty chef of healthy foods, we need restaurants with healthy foods, etc

take some nutrition classes to learn more about fats, etc

You can eat all the fruit you want without gaining weight, it is sweet

Answer 3

Stop thinking numbers, start thinking happy !

Get a diet plan, which will help you eat healthy balanced good food, whilst being able to treat yourself to a cookie or whatever it is you like, when you have sorted out a healthy diet you enjoy, maybe do some activities at a gym and get athletic,

girls love a fit boy who takes care of himself but don't change yourself to make other people happy, get a doctors check up and if he says your healthy then that's great.

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Answer 4

First of all, I want you to know I've struggled with my weight all my life, and I'm proud of you for losing the weight. However out of control you're feeling right now, you are VERY STRONG to lose that weight!



It sound like that you, like me, are an emotional eater. Eating or not eating is directly related to how you feel and your emotional life. I know you're overwhelmed with all the food choices and thoughts right now, but I think that's all really like a loud radio you've turned on to drown out emotions you don't feel ready to deal with. The food problems (over or under eating) are not going away until you deal with the emotional stuff. I'm not a lover of self-help books, but I highly recommend "When Food is Love" by Geneen Roth.



Whatever you eat, try to enjoy it and know that you deserve to enjoy food that you like. If the cravings are bothering you, get one serving of something you love to eat: ice cream, chocolate whatever, but go somewhere expensive and get the best. Then sit down and enjoy it slowly...savor it! You have right to eat things you enjoy and having it once in a while (or in Geneen's tips a piece of good chocolate everyday) doesn't mean you'll spin out of control with all your eating. In fact, it can make it easier to stick to the rest of your healthy eating.



I also think you need to talk to some live (not online *smile*) people about this. A group for teens might be a good start because you'll soon realize you're not alone in this. I don't think it's that something's seriously wrong with you, but I think you're going through growing pains that you don't have to face alone--help can get you through it faster. Good luck. I have faith in you.

Answer 5

It does sound to me like you have a very unusual amount of anxiety about food/eating. It's really for a professional counselor to make diagnoses and help people manage their anxiety. Sounds like your parents are at least somewhat aware of the problem -- would they help you get some counseling?

Answer 6

Sweetheart, you should talk to your dad... tell him all about this and ask to see a nutritionist. You *have* to tell an adult in your life about this... when someone is as stressed and obsessed with weight as you are right now, it is definitely not healthy. Tell an adult close to you that you need help.