Question:
im seriously considering taking my life?
arkangel
2008-02-03 09:41:49 UTC
i need to know if its a teenage thing and it happens to everyone or if i really need to seek help? im a 16 year old male and im feeling very sick mentally. my parents never abused me which is y im confused. i feel like a failure everyday because i can never make them happy. they put so much pressure on me to get good grades its bullshit. they tell me they love me and tell everyone im perfect and then they stab me in the damn back by telling me how disappointed they are. i tried to talk to them but they deny everything. over the years they have slowly but surely destroyed my confidence. ive been rejected by 36 girls in a row and thats made my self esteem rock bottom. the previous girl I liked, we got into a fight over the phone. she use to be the reason i woke in the morning was to see her but now my happiness has turned to pain and im running out of reasons to live. So is it just a phase or do i need help?
Nineteen answers:
rtperry2
2008-02-03 09:57:04 UTC
You should seek help: As a teenager, it's really tough to see that what's happening in your life right now will NOT be happening throughout your ENTIRE life. It will help if you find somebody to talk to about it.



You are human, neither utterly perfect nor utterly lousy. We're all just human. However, as a human being, you ARE valuable and important NO MATTER WHAT ANYBODY ELSE SAYS OR THINKS ABOUT YOU.



Getting some help -- finding somebody outside of your current situation to talk to, who can help you put stuff in perspective -- does NOT mean that you don't rock. Getting help means you are AWESOME -- that you're together enough and cool enough to know what's best for you, no matter what some other loser might think!



Hang in there. 16 ain't forever, I promise...
Kevin
2008-02-03 09:54:44 UTC
I am going to say it is definitly a phase but you could use some help as well. I work in the Mental Health field and see alot of different cases that would really make you appreciate just how good life is. When I was 16, I went through alot of what you are going through now. I was 4'11" 90 lbs, and defintily not a big hit with the girls. Time goes on and all the pains of being a teen pass. It seems like a big deal now but these things are small bumps in the road to a successful adulthood. These girls that knocked me down are now welfare cases with no father for their children, while I am happy with my wife and boys, have a great job, and am filled with happiness each day when I see my family and help others at work. Keep your head up things will only get better.
CC
2008-02-03 10:10:47 UTC
You may have a lot of problems right now but it's nothing that you can't solve.



Your parents might hurt you sometimes but remember they aren't perfect and no one has to take a class to have kids. When they make you feel pressure they're probably just trying to motivate you to do better, I don't think they're trying to make you feel bad on purpose. When this happens, let them know how depressed it's making you and I'm sure they'll ease up.



Being rejected by girls and not getting along with your parents are things all teenage boys go through. Eventually you'll be independent from your parents and they won't control your life anymore and eventually a girl will like you. Probably someone likes you right now and you don't even know it.



Remember that you are the only one in control of your life. If you kill yourself now you're not giving yourself a chance to live up to your potential and enjoy all the things life has to offer. You're on this earth because there's something you have to offer and you should give yourself a chance to find out what that is.



All problems in life are temporary and you're strong enough to get through this. Forget about dating right now, I don't think you're mentally ready. Try finding something you love that you are good at. Have you taken any art or music classes? Maybe a sport or learning another skill will give you something to focus on. When you get good at something you'll build confidence and eventually start to feel better about yourself. Girls and everyone else will notice.



You don't need to have a history of abuse or neglect to feel depressed. It's often just a chemical imbalance in your brain that can be heretiary or due to environmental issues. If you think there is something wrong only a doctor can diagnose it. But for now, just keep in mind that no one is perfect. Life isn't perfect. But life has a lot of good things too and you have no idea how great your future could be.
Hope's_My_Girl
2008-02-03 10:16:06 UTC
Dude, this is life! Not everyone is gonna like you and yes you are going to disappoint your parents alot, trust me I know because nothing I ever do is good enough for my Mom but I've realized it never will be, so what's the point in trying anymore? I live my life for ME, live your life for you because if your not happy you've got nothing to offer to anyone. I went through all this crap when I was 11. And guess what? I still go through the same things I used to get so stressed over, but they don't bother me anymore because I handle them differently. If it's not good for me I don't do it, because what's the point in doing something you hate?
Natalie B
2008-02-03 09:58:40 UTC
I think you will have enough time for love and really now the most important thing is to study hard.I think many boys and girl at ur age had suicidal thoughts.But the life is beautifull and you are only 16.And you are lucky that you have a nice parents who never abused you.
anonymous
2008-02-03 10:23:10 UTC
ask for citalopram from your doctor- its an anti depressant, then see a councillor then have a serious talk with your parents about how you feel. its strange coz a lot of people your age feel the way you do. its such a stressful time being a teenager. in a few years it all changes. just try and enjoy life. and dont worry about girls coz theyre all so ******* immature at that age anyway
art_flood
2008-02-03 11:00:11 UTC
pull yourself together - suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems. gosh only 36 girls turned you down? my goodness. The problem is you let little stuff destroy your confidence. You don't have to be approved of to be ok, and you don't have to perform to be ok. You are ok just being you - and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.



Ok your parents are dissapointed, so, ok.. let them express their disappointment buty ou dont have to turn on yourself.



ok a girl rejects you - well quit seeking their approval. - once you are ok with you being you you'll do better with girls. that means you haven't found the right one yet. I didn't meet the right girl until I was 28 and it wasn't from lack of trying either. They weren't right for me and Valerie was. God knows who is right for you. Trust Him. Tell Him your struggles.



Get exercise, sleep, and good nutrition, get sunlight - go outside, enjoy yourself. Enjoy every day you have.



get rid of negative thinking - which is why you are where you are. You need to affirm yourself , and think how you want to be and not necessarily how you are. Ok so what you are this or that - you dont' have to always be that way. right? Focus on others and listen to what they are saying, but you don't have to take it so hard. Just allow them to express themselves.



You need to be ok in your own skin - with or without a girl. A girl will find you more appealing if she can't break you by disapproving of you anyway. So , she doesn't approve of you, so?



you need to develop a confident , capable self image in the worst way.



Everyone will tell you you need psychiatric help - well I say to be aware of this - try to do the best you can without doing that, but if you need to then do it. My concern is that once you get psychiatric help then you are labeled mentally ill and then you have to bear teh weight of being mentally ill and the doctors will keep you on pills all your life and you dont' need that.



maybe just take a deep breath - pray - ask God for help. One day at a time. Ok today is hard, but tomorrow will be better. Be an optimist. It's gotten me through many trials.



It isn't how many times you get knocked down that counts, it's how many times YOU GET BACK UP.



Be tough, be a man,



and as God would say



Stand up and gird u p your loins like a man -



Be strong in the Lord and in the POWER of HIS MIGHT (not your strength but HIS) -



He is able to deliver you. You can't do it, but HE CAN.



you need to find your own contentment, and not base it on everything around you or you will be unhappy forever.



don't compare yourself with others just with yourself.



what you say is what you get - how are you talking? are you saying things that are negative? already you are talking about killing yourself - do you have any idea how powerful your words are?



By the time I was your age I had already been tortured - I lived through it. and you can make it through this too - but I never wanted to kill myself. I was determined to make it one way or another.



Go talk to some 100 year olds, and listen to their story - and listen to their suffering.

But they made it that far..



Go talk to some POW's and listen.

people suffer. it's part of life. But you can make it and rise above it all.



it's all part of making you who you n eed to become.



you are a young man, be a man. you don't have to remain a boy - grow up and be a man.
BleedingRose
2008-02-03 10:10:43 UTC
Heyy

dont let anyone tell you your mental because your not ! i have suicdial thoughts too and i know how horribly scary they are and when they start to take over your life.....i really would consider you telling someone maybe not your parents if you dont get on with them ( i dont either) but maybe a teacher/friend/trusted adult ....or maybe try childine 0800 11 11 they are amazing and really helpful...also try this website im on it sign up its great www.there4me.com you can speak to people online for help and its confidential too =] /.....please dont put yourself down though because you sound like a great boy and the girls are stupid id go out wiv yuu if i knew yu yuu sounds lovely :D x x x
looking_east1122
2008-02-03 11:26:54 UTC
Understand that the criticism by your parents was really just due to their conditioning.



Girls reject you because you must relate to yourself successfully before you can relate to others successfully. This is possible....



Almost the entire reason you're miserable is because you don't know yourself.



Happiness isn't a result of a better life or a good relationship, it is entirely dependent on your relationship to yourself.
N C
2008-02-03 09:48:00 UTC
Whether it is a phase or not is irrelevant. You are sad enough to consider suicide. Get help. Sometimes all you need is someone to talk to. As a minimum, speak to a guidance counsellor at school. I know that helped me get through those tough high school years.
anonymous
2008-02-03 10:44:54 UTC
i have been there

i considered one night

have therapy and all i have been much better

now-a-days i wonder what i was thinking

get help, it WILL help

suicide is a permant solution to a temporary problem

i am living proof that even though you think you have hit rock bottom.... there is a tunnel out of it into the light and joy!!!!
QDF F
2008-02-03 09:49:38 UTC
I felt that way as a teen but was never violent enough to harm myself like that, hope you are not either. The problem with suicide is that there is no futur in it.
tmthyh
2008-02-03 10:15:57 UTC
Suicide does not solve problems, it creates problems. If you get connected with God, you have all reason to live and live a meaningful and delightul life. Just come to Jesus with all your problems, He is the Answer.
anonymous
2008-02-03 09:53:32 UTC
just a phase i was feeling suicidal just 2 days ago for pretty much the same reasons!
?
2008-02-03 09:48:19 UTC
i'm still going threw s*** like that, and so is my dad and he's 41. that's what people say when they dont have depression. it's never just a phase.
Vee
2008-02-03 09:50:58 UTC
Everything get's better, seriously.
Lady B
2008-02-03 10:07:01 UTC
It sounds like you're under some pressure. Please seek help before something terrible happens.
?
2008-02-03 09:46:29 UTC
I would get immediate help!
Pumpernickle
2008-02-03 09:47:34 UTC
Get help!!!


This content was originally posted on Y! Answers, a Q&A website that shut down in 2021.
Loading...