Is it normal of me to wonder if anyone would truly miss me if I died?

Question

I've reached a point in my life where due to the fact that I have no one I'm close to or who's close to me, loneliness is eating me up. Geez, I'm 58 years old and don't even have a woman, and for that matter, never have had one. Oh, I have my interests, my hobbies, etc., but life just seems so hollow, so pointless without some friends / loved ones in it. Sometimes, I just wish it would end and I could be done with it. Sorry to be so blunt about it, but that's how I feel...

Answer 1

so what!...ur still young...start working out yo.



my dad is 50 and im 20...he's in better shape than I AM!



Stop feeling srry for yourself. Get out more.



Not everybody needs a spouse to complete them. Half the peeps in America get divorced anywayz.



Join a good church and make some good christian friends. Stay positive.



Blessings 2 u



xoxoxo

Answer 2

Yes, that is a fair question people ask themselves. I know a man that found out he had cancer and just a few months to live. He started aggressive cancer treatments and his church prayed for him. A year later he was still alive, so he had a big party. He invited all of his friends, it turns out he was having his own funeral. When I figured out what he was up to I was speechless and that rarely happens to me. He stood up at the alter of the church and said "I always wondered who would miss me when I died". He announced that his physician's said he had a new lease on life and the cancer was in remission. It was the strangest party I ever attended, but he had a good point. Who would miss me when I'm gone? He did have more friends than he thought and family members who expressed love for him.



You are not the first person and will not be the last to ask the question. I started working in health care 30 years ago and many people express these sort of feelings. Only you would know the answer of who would miss you. When our children grow up and go away they get so busy with their lives and sometimes we wonder if they would even notice if we were gone. I do believe the answer is yes they would miss you and even though they may not seem to busy at times there would be sorrow.



Only you know who would really miss you.

Answer 3

Nester, I do know how you feel. I have no one either. i have many, many friends, but only one close friend who lives in another state.



I also have a lot of people who do care about me even halfway around the world, internet connected. But no one close, no one to lovingly touch or be touched by.



When I stop to ponder this, I am so lonely at times I wonder why I am still here also. But God has us here for a reason, I am not sure why, but you may believe you are here to help people if even in small ways - a smile, a word of encouragement.



If I died today, there is no one to even know about it let alone take care of arrangments...but I don't care. At that point it will not matter. So get immersed in a hobby of some sort...the library is a good place to inspect. I am sorry I don't have a reasonable answer for you, my friend. daisy

Answer 4

I am assuming that you never had a woman in your life by choice. If you have reconsidered it's not bad timing. At your age the percentage of women to men is going up. There are widows out there who don't want another marriage so much as they would like someone to share their time with, and there are some women who want a husband. Put yourself out there where singles groups meet ... church, various organizations, and meet some of them. You could meet your next best friend or start a romantic relationship. Just go expecting to have a night out and enjoy it for what it is, don't sit and wait for someone to come to you, get around and say hello. If you meet someone with common interests that's good, if not, it's good too because you got out. Maybe there's an orgaization that plays into your hobbies and interests. Get in touch with them and find out when they meet and go. You're not going to meet someone sitting at home. Try going to the gym. It's a great way to beat depression. Look around and you can find one where all ages of people go... another opportunity to meet people.

Volunteer for something, there are certainly lots of groups out there who can use your help. There is nothing like it to make a person feel useful. You can do as much or as little as you like when you like. Take a class and learn something new.

You should also talk to your doc about depression. It can be so devistating that we don't even see the things that can help us for dealing with it. You've got to be proactive in your life, particularly if you are alone. Do what it takes to get back on track, you won't be sorry.

Answer 5

I understand completely. Part of your problem is depression, and I was in your shoes a few years ago. I'm 47 myself, and even though I have a wonderful teenage daughter, I felt so sad and lonely and I wondered the same thing. I finally got off my butt and went on eharmony and dated for a while. I also got treatment for my depression, because I think it was driving people away from me. Hang out in coffee shops, anyplace where people our age congregate. I guarentee if you speak to a lady, she isn't going to smack your face! She is most likely as lonely as you are. I know I used to be! I remarried two years ago, and met him through my daughter's marching band! He pursued me, because I felt like I was unloveable. Best wishes, and good luck!

Answer 6

You need more advice and help than we can give you here. I hope you'll find a reputable service that will see you without charging an arm and a leg. You need a "one on one" It's really sad that you have no friends or girlfriends. You need to ask some girl out. Bite the bullet!!!

Answer 7

go to eharmoney and find yourself a women get on myspace and talk to paople or just get some coffe and find some friends cause god put us it this world for a reason cause he knew u could handle these problems.so don't give up life for something so little u have the power to do whatever u want whenever u want.

Answer 8

Hun, you're probably depressed. Please go see a counselor, and if you ever think you are about to hurt yourself, go to the hospital. I was very depressed, and still slightly am. I know how you feel and I'll tell you this, I am thankful I am not dead. Please go see someone if this feelings continue. It is very hard to talk about why you are sad sometimes, but it will help. Feel better hun.