How can I control my temper?

Question

Sometimes I get so angry and my biggest fear is that one day I'm going to snap and get life without parole. How can I learn control this anger and frustration I have inside?

Answer 1

There are natural supplements that you can try, if you don't want to go to your doctor to see if there is a physical reason for your temper.



Try SAMe and see how that works for you. My husband has a light-wsitch temper and it works great for him, calms him down and things that would normally throw him over the edge roll off his back now.



To be on the safe side, though...check with your doctor. You could have a hormone imbalance or something that you can't self-medicate or treat on your own.

Answer 2

Yes, there are always those moments when you feel like slaughtering someone or yelling until you've lost your voice for weeks... but you have to take control over yourself, so here are some tips!

Steps



1. Realize that things can be handled well at all times; it's just a matter of what kind of attitude you put into it.

2. Be considerate of others, and ultimately, yourself. The way you react will ultimately affect your surroundings. If you have to rebuke someone for doing something wrong, you can always do it calmly, in a private place. This method is always better for everyone in the long run.

3. Realize that no one likes to be around people who get angry easily, and act abusive. The only way you can change the situation is by starting with yourself.

4. Get away from situations where your anger might get the best of you, such as when someone is teasing you. Ignore the other person and walk away. If you must, do this a few times until the person gets the hint that you will not tolerate it. But never use your mouth or body negatively to tell someone that you won't handle teasing or anything of the sort.





Tips



* When you feel like you are about to blow up, count 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 and then decide how you will act. This doctor-recommended method has definitely helped, I can vouch for that.





Warnings



* Although it may seem hard in the beginning, you will get it as long as you put yourself into it. No one wakes up one day as a changed person, and you can't learn a new skill in one day...

* ... and yes, learning to control your temper is definitely a skill because not everyone can do it, and it's a great thing to master, good for you and for others.



Hope it helps.Good Luck!!

):-)

Answer 3

Yes, there are always those moments when you feel like slaughtering someone or yelling until you've lost your voice for weeks... but you have to take control over yourself, so here are some tips!





Steps:





1. Realize that things can be handled well at all times; it's just a matter of what kind of attitude you put into it.





2. Be considerate of others, and ultimately, yourself. The way you react will ultimately affect your surroundings. If you have to rebuke someone for doing something wrong, you can always do it calmly, in a private place. This method is always better for everyone in the long run.







3. Realize that no one likes to be around people who get angry easily, and act abusive. The only way you can change the situation is by starting with yourself.







4. Get away from situations where your anger might get the best of you, such as when someone is teasing you. Ignore the other person and walk away. If you must, do this a few times until the person gets the hint that you will not tolerate it. But never use your mouth or body negatively to tell someone that you won't handle teasing or anything of the sort.







I know it may seem hard in the beginning, you will get it as long as you put yourself into it. No one wakes up one day as a changed person, and you can't learn a new skill in one day...

... and yes, learning to control your temper is definitely a skill because not everyone can do it, and it's a great thing to master, good for you and for others. : )







Smile! Ü

Peace Out!



~ Ninja Girl

Answer 4

Anger and frustration are mostly caused by not understanding someone or something.



Before you want to blow up, look up and around you, recognize who or what you are angry with, realize why you want to lash out which is mostly, because you cannot get something or something done.



The reason most likely does not lie with the person or thing you want to lash out, but with the mismatch of the demand and level or quality of supply or response.



How to reduce your frustration level? Become more knowledgeable aout a lot of things, anything constructive, go study get a degre. If you already have one, venture in a direction you have never even paid attention to. Change social levels, up or down. The broader your interaction, the more you realize that everyone is different and has a right to or cannot help being so.



Life is just a conglomerate of interacting elements, influences, compositions that happen at every level; local, regional, national, global. You cannot control anything or anyone, only diminish the effects or risks of unwanted happenings or actions. That is why one speaks of calculated risks, but then how much can you control orminimize those risks.



Understanding these interdependencies, will help you understand your frustrations and help you to be more flexible in accepting the inevitable at a moment in time. It does not mean that it cannot be changed. However, understand that change takes time, effort, energy, sacrifices. We do not have a magic wand to flip and bring about the desired change.



Hope this can help.

Answer 5

I understand. I'm Italian and I'm always keeping my emotions in check. If things get to heated for the best thing to do is go for a walk and think about the situation. Why was the reason I lost my temper? Was it a misunderstanding? Or maybe the other person didn't understand your feelings and you got the short end of the stick. Sometimes it's always good to take a step back and try to see it from the other person. Also anger management helps so that way you not a lifer without parole. The advice is easier said than done. Being Navy you learn to take on board and don't show your emotions. It's control. What you can do to control your emotions. Try it. You might be surprised in what you can do.

Answer 6

There was a young boy who had a temper problem. His father gave him a hammer and a box of nails then told him to go out in the back yard every time he became angry and pound a nail into the wooden fence. So the boy did that. Before long, his box of nails was empty. His father told him to go and take each nail out of the fence. And he did. Then the father sat the boy down and told him that each time he lost control of his temper, it was as though he was pounding a nail into the heart of the people who loved him. Even if he later said he was sorry - and the nail was removed - the holes and scars remained.



If you can avoid whatever it is that causes you frustration, do so. If not, you need to learn to control your temper. For some people, thinking about the little boy with the hammer and nails - and realizing the damage your temper is causing to those around you - can be enough to help you gain control. Everyone gets frustrated and angry at times - that's normal. But since you are concerned about what you may be capable of doing because of your temper, you may need to get some help. Many churches have pastors who are trained in counseling that can help you or check your phone book for other counselors.

Answer 7

What i do is disable myself whenever i get too angry. I basically let the anger get to me but i save it for later. At the base of anger is a fear of loss. Tell yourself right during the anger that the thing you fear is not resolving the fear but creating its own symptoms. Losing control is the result of anger and anger is the fear of losing control.

Once you understand, while angry, then you have a hold over it as it no longer gives an illusion of power in the act.



Meanwhile you may want to try to save the anger for later.

Personally i love going to the gym and knocking the hell out of the punch bag and lifting weights with more desire.

Whenever i have a bad day my gym sessions go better as i have better aggression.

See im deriving a benefit from the anger. A positive spin.

That alone is worth the anger and actually makes me happy which then dissolves my tension.

Answer 8

Ever observed an old steam locomotive? It would blow up if it didn't have outlet valves and functions doing this.



Thus, you need to be practical, logical about your problem. Realize that you have it. Next, determine what causes you to stress up! Don't forget to consider that too much coffee might cause some people problems.



Once you have looked at your problem logically, then find a way to deal with it that bleeds or deflates the problem from the moment it starts stressing you out.



For example, many parents may have problem with their temper when their children go on their nerves. Here, a parent might say, I am going to count from (1-5, 1-10?) and when I reach 5 or reverse 1 then you will be punished so-and-so way.



This permits a non-stressful way of dealing with stressful situations.



Since your question is general, that is all I can suggest. Except perhaps leave the area where stress is encountered early.

Answer 9

It took me a long time to learn how to control my own temper, but my mom kept on telling me how immature I was, and after a while it stuck. Every time (nearly) I'm about to get really angry I think of how immature it would look and what exactly I would be getting angry over, and I would, "Is this really getting so angry about?" Usually the answer was 'no'.



And other times when I got so angry I would say really awful things and hurt others feelings badly and I would feel terrible afterwards when I'd calmed down and then I would have to apologize. Even then, after it's out of your mouth, you can't really take it back. It's already been said and the hurt can remain and sometimes have a lasting effect, so knowing that I could say awful things to people has also kept me from blowing up on people.



To this day it helps me to control my temper.

Answer 10

I used to have this problem and at times I still struggle with it. I have learned from past experiences that when someone moves me to the point of that much anger I walk away with the explanation that I can not get into it right now. Not all people will go with it,. They are like pit bulls and then I just ignore them and keep walking. Rude maybe but later on when I have pulled it together I call and explain why and what had upset me. If they are understanding people and friends they understand if not then I let it go because I do not need people who can push my buttons around me if they do not really care anyway. The big thing is to learn the source of your anger and work it out. Do what it take with someone else or by your self only yopu know if you need professional help. If you are striking oput at people or damaging property then it is time to seek help.

Answer 11

Let it go...we all get angry at one point or another. But anger is a spirit that can take down. Don't let it. Pray against it ask the Lord to deliver you from anger and heal you from where it began. That's a start...How far you let it go is up to you. I learn that taking that same energy stemming from anger and directing it into something good and positive, changed my life too. I concentrate on developing new behaviors by looking at why I get angry, what's really behind it, am I really angry at this person or is it something else going on. When did it begin. Looking into oneself will help you look at the truth and dealing with no matter how much it may hurt. God can heal and take way any hurt or pain. Give Him a chance. What have you got to lose. I hope this helps=)

God Bless You!

Answer 12

I've had that same feeling. What I do is either blast music in my ears or the stereo, which really helps clams me down. But I also write. I write about how I feel or just write random words to let my feelings out. Take a walk or run. That at least for me as helped greatly. When you are frustrated go out and play a sport. Physical activity is really good when your are upset like that. Like i said before music helps so much you'll never know. I would also talk to your doctor and see what he says about your anger. Maybe he can help. It has taken me a long time to control the anger I had. Keep trying and you'll get it. I hope this will help.

Answer 13

We draw lines that we will not cross, as to what we will do and will not do. These lines are absolute.



You already have the mechanism in place. You won't walk down the street naked because that is a line you will not cross.



Most anger is a control issue. Someone else has made you lose your control over your emotions. You must learn to control yourself. Never give someone that much power over you.



You control yourself, you control your emotions (within acceptable reason of course). If you don't control yourself, someone else will control you.



Remember also, that all issues, can be resolved by talking and negotiation. There is no need for anger or violence. The only time they cannot be resolved by talking it out, is when a 3rd party is egging it on, or feeding one of both of you false or misleading information, or even simply mistaken information.



On, and the punching bag idea is good also.

Answer 14

Find an outlet. In other words, you have to find a hobby or something to let out all that energy in a good way. And control isn't the right word to use in my opinion. Try to calm down, take a deep breath, or something like that. Stretching or something might work too. If you get frustrated at the fact that you are angry, then you might only keep getting frustrated. Accept the fact that you are angry and that you have to calm down. But I'm not a proffesional at this advice thing, so it would be a good idea to find a counselor or someone who knows about this sort of thing. I wish you well.

Answer 15

Learning to control your temper is the sign of a mature person. Maybe you have a maturity problem?



Stop to think about what you are getting angry about and ask yourself if its worth the angry words, the high blood pressure, the holes in the wall, your broken possessions and the bruises and welts on those that you care about. STOP AND THINK!!! You may need to go see a counselor and they can also give you tips on anger management. It can be a real problem for some people and some have no control over it. You may also have to be put on some medication until you learn what triggers your outbursts.

Answer 16

Find the root of your anger and work on that. It could be a matter of self-esteem, or some unresolved conflict from your past causing your desire to explode. Someone or something may trigger a memory or emotion you are trying to keep hid.



You do not need to repress your anger, because it will make it worse and/or cause depression.



Learn to look for beginning signs of anger, so you can deal with it before you get to the boiling point. (Look for heart racing, etc.)



Often the thing that causes an individual to explode is only the straw that broke the Campbell's back rather than the real issue. Using road rage as an example. People who harm others on the highway because of being cutoff, are really angry at something else.



Writing is a good way to release your anger in a positive way. Right letters to everyone that has done you wrong telling them how you really feel. Of course, you might want to destroy the letters rather than sending them. You could also be the next Stephen King. Of course, you need to be careful about keeping such writings around as they could be used against you if you do snap.



Search your memory for everyone that has harmed you since you were born. Pretend they are across from you and tell them off. Than work on forgiveness of them and self.



There are other careers than writting in which anger can be harnest into something positive, such as sports, acting and law,

Answer 17

Finding out the reason you have so much anger would be a great help. And you have to learn how to let your emotions, feelings, and thoughts out in a positive way. And keeping a small journal can help. And no I'm not saying you have to write in it everyday. But when your feeling overwhelmed it helps to get the feelings and frustration out. Even if your jus scribbling with emotion on a page it releases stress. You jus have to find good and easy way to vent. Cuz keeping things bottled up inside is what makes you snap when under pressure. Also maybe join a gym like a boxing gym and that could help you get some stress out jus punching on a bag. You jus have to think positive and learn sensible ways to vent.

Answer 18

This is a terribly complex question that really can't be answered accurately without a comprehensive assessment of your psychological health. Impulse control problems and anger management difficulties can be part of many different psychiatric syndromes.

There are behavioral techniques you can learn to help you control these impulses and change your thinking about how you should be expressing your emotions. Treatment through individual therapy can be useful in decreasing rage, and a doctor might prescribe medication to assist in controlling your outbreaks.



If, on the other hand, you have a significant bipolar illness with manic features, or a bona fide impulse control disorder, you would absolutely require medication to be able to control these explosive episodes.



Please see a doctor to be evaluated as soon as possible.



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Answer 19

First off, why are you so angry? Ask yourself that. Who are you angry with. If something or someone makes you angry then stay the heck away from it or them!!! When you start to feel that your getting angry WALKAWAY!!! If its at work. Tell them you need about 5-10 mins. to yourself. Go take a walk. Go call someone to calm you down. Go invest in a punching bag and filtrate your frustrations out on it that way. Workout go running. Don't ever let the emotions get to the best of you. Your worth more than whatever it is that has anger built up in you. Get help if none of this agrees with you...... Focus on what you have instead of what you don't have!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 20

Meditation always helps. Going to "your happy place" in your mind while dealing with some mental midget is my personal solution. This takes practice, though. It is vital to develop a habit of deep relaxation - what one author called THE RELAXATION RESPONSE - beforehand so that it becomes automatic when someone is trying to push your buttons.

Another thing that REALLY works for me is aromatherapy. Find something you just love the smell of, and when you feel stressed, inhale it. I'm not kidding. For me, it's a lemon-scented votive candle or a spritz of perfume on a kleenex. Yes, people may think you a bit strange, but isn't that better than an eventual heart attack or stroke?

Every time a person gets upset, their system is pumping out adrenaline and norepinephrine like mad. Not to mention cortisol, which increases abdominal fat by turning off the satiety mechanism associated with eating.

Good luck. Trying these things can't hurt.

Answer 21

I get really angry too. Some people deal with stress by letting it build up as anger, completely unconsciously. This is exactly what I do. If you've got major life stresses, like an abusive relationship or major money problems, if the unconscious way you're dealing with it is by building up anger, your temper is going to be worse, more violent, and might flare up more. Also, if you've had past issues, like major family problems, a lot of that hurt might be just below the surface as anger.



My temper flares up pretty rapidly, and then subsides. It helps, if I can, to let myself be angry and vent for a minute. As long as the person I'm venting to realizes that the temper is MY issue, not that I'm that angry with THEM. Sometimes when I'm really angry I vent out loud, but to myself (as long as I'm alone, this is great). But you do need to find ways to deal with your life's stresses more efficiently. You probably have a more natural tendency to get angry, which is why you build up stress as anger. Talk to someone about your stress--a good friend, a counselor, or write in a journal. this helps recognize your feelings about things without just letting it build up as anger.

Answer 22

First, there isn't any over night solution. But if you realllly do want to change you have. You admitted that you do not have control over your temper. Next, take time to explore your relationship with your family members and see what it is that gets you really angry while interacting with them. Believe it or not your feelings stem from early interactions with them. Next, realize that your feelings of anger have nothing to do with your interactions with other people, friends at school, work, etc. Find what you would like to say to people when you have these feelings. Not angry words but words acknowledging how you feel. That is the first step, stop blaming and begin naming how you feel, take responsibility that way. Name how you feel. Then request, by that I mean tell that person that you request that they not do what ever it is that triggers your anger. If you can. Just these tiny steps will takes months. Begin by finding what interaction with your family that irks you to be so angry. Find that first. THis is a long process but if you are determined and committed you will change and can.

I did and it took me all of well I won't tell you now but I worked at it and I have changed and people can't get me angry now. I am free and man it feels goooood.

Answer 23

People have different kinds of problems when it comes to anger.. for instance like me, i get angry at my boyfriend a lot for the stupidest reasons or if i'm angry at something i blame it on him..



To control your anger, it depends on how you get angry, like do you do something physical that might hurt others or do you just keep it inside? When it comes to anger, you should let it out but think of what you are angry at.. If it's something stupid, then I'm pretty sure that getting angry at something simple is not the way to do it..



Talk to someone or get a hobby where when you are angry, you would just take your anger on that instead on blowing up.. Like me, if I'm angry sometimes i just stay in my room and write poems..



Or you can just go to an anger management.. maybe that could help too.. :)

Answer 24

Dear Kobe, as long as you have the foresight to acknowledge the potential outcome of life without parole then you seem to have the essential control over your temper, however, once upon a time a stranger-wanderer was traveling on foot throughout the countryside in China and one day he came upon a village and decided to stop and rest a few days at the village inn. The next morning while he was having breakfast at the inn he couldn't help but noticed the two street sweepers working outside were both engaged in a very heated argument while they performed their sweeping duties. The same thing continued on the second morning except with greater intensity and by the third morning it looked as if the two street sweepers were on the brink of seriously killing each other. The stranger-wanderer finally asked the owner-inn keeper what's up with the two street sweepers? The inn keeper turned to the stranger and said, "That's nothing to worry about, they're only two brothers who's never been able to agree upon anything throughout their entire lives except for one thing, that the first to touch the other in anger is the first to lose his wisdom".



I wish you well, Kobe. Tsark out.

Answer 25

For me, it's to stop being attached to what I think should be and accept that it isn't. When I finally realized that everyone has the right to be the way they are and do what they do, even if I don't like it extremely, I gotta let go and respect their right. Otherwise, it's sizzle my liver. And, that doesn't hurt anyone but me. Of course, this shouldn't be misunderstood to mean that I put a "wipe your feet here" mat on my face welcoming others' seriously out of line behavior. Additionally, if I wait until I find out all the facts, I've been surprised to find out I have sometimes misinterpreted someone's motives or jumped to an incorrect conclusion. It's always better to make peace even if it involves some painful tongue-biting and humiliation. For me it has paid big dividends in keeping friends that I would have otherwise thrown or driven away.

Answer 26

hey kobe,

it's very very simple da. Daily recollect the effects of ur anger before go to bed. Then when you get up say to urself only CARELESS people will get angry. Only ANIMALS will be annoyed of somebodys action. Why should i? After this take a 1litre water bottle and fill it up very very very slowly by adjusting ur tap accordingly. Keep on doing thia you will definitely find a solution dear. To control short temper count from 1 to... until you feel relaxed and avoid speaking to others while you are out of control. Follow this if you can and feel the result my buddy.

Answer 27

I had the same thing. I don't know how I really got over it or how I controlled it but one day I just blew and I mean big time. And you know what? It wasn't worth it. All I got was a lost voice, broken glass and I came off looking like the idiot.



One thing I did find that helped was getting out of the job I was in, eliminating as much stress as possible, and getting on meds that worked. Also finding out that I have MS put things in perspective too.



No matter what they say, do or try to do to get your guile up remember they



1) They can't eat you. and

2) They can shoot you.



So keep that in mind the next time you feel that burning in the top of your head that makes you want to explode and kill something.



Just screw em. It isn't worth it. Just give them the old Jewish curse. "Should you be reincarnated as a chandelier where you hang by day and burn by night."

Answer 28

There are a few ways, honey. Okay you can try little things like listening to softer music even classical when you get angry or counting to 10. Sometimes those things don't work though, do they? No they don't. I was a very happy-go-lucky person with so much enthusiasm it would make you sick. Then one day I got really mad and I just busted. Almost lost my job on the spot so I started looking into things on the net and asking my friends and family things and you know, honestly you may need medication honey. I was bi-polar and didn't even know it. You don't have to by a lunatic or psycho to be bi-polar, hell I just got a really bad temper and became a little violent with it when I went to my doctor and asked. check it out. a little knowledge never hurt anyone.

Answer 29

Well...Its hard to do, especially during work, but sometimes I just take a run. Once I get those endorphines going, I'm a much calmer person. Sometimes I just scream into a pillow. Sometimes I cry. I've actually been at work and SO angry that I had to excuse myself...and I ran up and down the steps until I calmed down. Good luck controlling your anger! It isn't easy.

Answer 30

It would help for you to figure out(perhaps counseling would help) why you are so angry. If your anger is bubbling just beneath the surface all of the time, then it is understandable why the least little spark will set it off and spill over.

Sometimes just walking away, and turning your anger to some other activity can help, such as running, swimming, walking, soccer, football, whatever you enjoy doing to relieve the stress that builds up with every day living. Talking to a friend or parent about your feelings, or situation can help. Don't hold in your emotions until you just blow up all at once. It's best to be honest with people that hurt your feelings or make you angry- if you tell them about it up front, it can keep you from blowing your top later. Pray for help with controlling your temper and issues. That definitely helps! Try to understand why people do the things that they do to make you mad, what makes you mad, and what calms you down. He who angers you, controls you. When you get angry, you give others control over you, because they learn what buttons to push to make you mad.

I hope this has been helpful to you, I hope you find peace in your life, which can only be achieved with God in your life. I promise.

Answer 31

I know what you mean. I am much better now, but I am still a very angry person. I discovered that a much better idea than gritting my teeth and trying (desperately) not to injure/murder was to learn why I'm sooo angry. Turns out rage is the underlying/predominant emotion of Clinical Depression. Huh. Who knew? Learning how NOT to be angry was the hardest work I've done on myself but it is so much easier on me both physically and mentally, to say nothing of emotionally...And it turns out that it IS possible to dissipate all thar rage... It takes real effort, but if I can do it... I learned to replace my knee-jerk response-rage- with a different knee-jerk response-indifference. Much MUCH better; for me and (I promise you) society at large, and morons in particular...}:> So maybe you could learn WHY you are angry (not the triggers; the why...) You may need the help of a pro. (Shrink or someone) And, you may need a little chemical help for a time. And you know, not all anger is a bad thing. (For many years it was the thing that enabled me to get out of bed in the morning!) Lots of good comes out of righteous indignation. Channeling is key... You can always power up to rage. Powering down is the tricky part. Good luck to you. You have my sympathy, and my best wishes.

Answer 32

Its only adrenalin, itching your body and demanding you start making swift, violent moves. Its like you have to lash out somehow or you'll burst, right?



Do it by walking away and going for a run, getting on an excercise bike, walking round and round the block; anything.



If you find you have a constant low level of stress making you always fidgety then as well as running it out when you feel your blood start to boil, you could give yourself projects for all the time - anything to put your back into and get rid of the adrenalin - painting walls, heavy gardening, any sort of manual labour; or even pay to go to the gym or circuit training.



'Running it out' can help teach your body to tell the difference between wanting to hit someone and really just wanting to do anything rather than just stand there, plus if you mess up a few times you will be taking it out on things and not people.



Perhaps from now on don't think of yourself as suddenly dangerous when you get this feeling, but think of yourself as being suddenly pumped up and ready for some serious physical activity.



Anyway, its way easier to tell people how much they mess you about, when you are over it and its not still making you want to explode.



Good luck!

Answer 33

You can't and it is a shame that we live in a society (anglo) that discourages any display of anger.



Anger is an emotion just as real as happiness, euphoria, sadness, and any other is. We should have a right at least to verbally display it.



Therapists may encourage you to say, "I'm angry and why" but if you say that in a calm manner, what good is it going to do? Nobody else gives a damn most of the time, as more times than not, they may say, "Deal with it!" "Get over it!" and other such hateful responses, from people who are obviously angry themselves.



People who are chronically angry are people who are frustrated with life and the cards they have been dealt with. An outlet is necessary and society needs to realize that "anger management" courses is nothing more than a band-aid to the problem, not so much to the benefit of the person affected, but as a safety net to everyone else.



The angry person needs help, but not so much to control his/her anger, but to really address the causes of that chronic anger in the first place.

Answer 34

You said it all in your question, "Fear". FEAR= FVCK EVERYTHING AND RUN... Fear is inside us all, and some fears are good to have. Being afraid of snakes isn't a bad thing. Fear of guns isn't a bad thing. Fear of what other people say and do, can make us react in such a way as to put ourselves in danger.

We can turn around FEAR It takes trust. Trust in ourselves and something else. We have to believe that no matter what happens or is said we can prove ourselves worthy of being who we are or what we stand for, if our motives are in the right place. Fear can equal FEAR FACE EVERYTHING AND RELATE. Find yourself a higher power to help control your day and the pieces will fall into place. You need to touch base with this higher power on a daily and hourly basis for it to work...

This isn't religion, you can use a chicken leg if it keeps you strait. What ever it is you can find it inside your heart already. That is where the warmth and love comes from to understand and deal with others, no matter what the situation... Peace out, and have a great day...

Answer 35

You say and do things that cause dispute among others. The answer is not hard. Know that anger is a sign of weakness and not a sign of power and strength like some people believe. You should feel embaressed everytime you lose your control. Treat other people the way you want to be treated...do you want to be yelled at and have someone flip out on you? Just remember how it looks bad on you and shows weakness and you won't be so tempted to feel angry.

Answer 36

I feel that the best way to relieve anger, stress, or whatever it would be is by removing yourself from the situation. Most times you will have a way out, whether it be to leave a room or even not talk to the person. You know what sets you off, so the best thing to do is to try and avoid those situations...but why would you have an problem if every situation was avoidable? The best thing is to just take a breather and try and not be around all the negative. That's all I've got!

Answer 37

When you are not angry, sit down in a quiet place and search through your life and thaughts. List down what triggers your temper. Write down how you will tackle these and also how to avoid the situations. Keep this list preferably on a keychain (laminated) to look at whenever needed. I am currently working on how to deal when late, and how not to yell at who ever is making you late. Planning is what I have to do. Also if someone is discounting you, listen even harder and see the situation in his shoes....he probably is suffering with low esteem. At the end of all that listening, you will have a calmer brain and have a very good cool answer to get back at him. It might take a few days, but you will get back in a good fashion. Also be around people who will not take your ****....be feerful of the cosequences. Good luck!

Answer 38

A wise man once told me, in one of my great angry momments;

If you want to do something out of anger ask yourself...............

When I do this will I be punishing myself or punishing someone else? You will be the one who pays a heavy price



Now...............

Carry a pen and pad with you at all times. When you feel anger coming on, take out your pen and paper and write down the Facts. Always begin with

1. I am Angry!

2. This is why i'm angry

3. Something that will help to resolve this feeling is.........



This will help you to feel more in control of your feelngs at that time and give you some real-time documentation of the event to look at later on.



After you do this for a while, you will be able to see a pattern to the episodes and allow you to control the circumstances before they happen in the future

Answer 39

like some people here have answered. Anger is a form of Defence Mechanism and is an emotion.

If you have a temper problem, my guess is that you have a way of thinking that almost everything is a theat that you have to defend. I don't have a anger problem, but my stress level goes up a few notch if someone starts questioning me because usually I have to defend myself.

So I would think that to fix your anger, is to try to change the way you think of people's statement. From treating their statements as a threat to thinking that they do not understand what you're thinking or both of you are not connecting.

Answer 40

Read "Anger all the time" by Ronald T. Potter - Efron, MSW, PH.D. And call your local community to see if they have anger management classes. The trick to stopping anger is to actually be aware of the physical signs that you are feeling way before you explode. Leaving the situation at that time is also beneficial. You can't control what people do to piss us off, but you are in control in most situations of how you handle it. It takes 'learning', because some of us are not born with that skill.

Answer 41

Anger is the outburst of feeling. Some meat eaters are usually hot tempered. If you are really sincere, then be a vegetarian, avoid spicy foods especially meat. Think positively, don't let your anger overpowers you. Think of the outcome later on. Are you willing to suffer because of your anger? If you don't, then let your mind controls your temper.

Answer 42

I also had major anger issues. I had so much anger I would get in physical fights with friends, co-workers, strangers, you name it. It was almost a high for me. My anger scared my wife to no end. I always thought it was not a problem, but she never knew when I was going to fly off the handle. So, I got professional help. I was prescribed an anti-depressant and after about 30-40 days my anger was in control. Also, alot of other things get better to. Anxiety, sleep, relationships, concentration, etc.

Answer 43

Welcome to the club. I ve' been there and you know what eliminates it ? AGE. Mean while , everytime you feel it coming on remember it's only a condition that comes out of fear or frustration .Life is NOT perfect .Things do not go your way everytime. You have to come to grips with that. See a professional if you can or vent your anger here in Q and A. we listen and there is plenty of advise FREE its not much different than the shrink can do.

KOBE my man you got 7% right answers in a couple of months you are a smart one.

You can sort this out no problem .GOOD LUCK

Answer 44

The most difficult part in controling anger is that when you are angry its difficult to think about anything else. try laughing ou loud or humming your favourite tune, drink a glass of cold water, preferrably. But if counting to 10 dint work for u this might take some time. The real answer lies in your willpower to self control. Try some meditation...it helps to boost ur self control.

Answer 45

first figure out what triggers this anger. Remember getting mad is not going to solve the problem. Take a step back and think about it. When you get mad at someone, remember your letting them control your feelings,and they love that. So you be in control of your own feelings. The most important part is to talk about what is upsetting you. Let everything out, you will feel a lot better. Always remember this time shall pass. Good luck! you could do it

Answer 46

Have you had your blood pressure checked?

Seriously, I used to explode at my workers, one night I came home and instead of hamburgers it was meatloaf, I almost went the felony route myself! Over something so minor!!! It was in part due to my BP was off the charts to begin with (and their pour work habits). Once I got that checked, and got the right medication, including a few zanax a day, all was well! I was able to yell under control and deal with stress with out fear of someone calling 911!!! Sometimes it may be as simple as removing yourself from the the situations that cause you to blow! If not, start with a physical, then go to mental, one or the other will be able to calm you from a felony to a misdemeanor!!! Good Luck!!!

Answer 47

Anger comes to everyone at times, so please do not repress the anger, or hide from it. How you hanle it is a huge part of avoiding "life with no parole". What works for me, is right at the point of the time when I feel like I am going to burst, I have learned to say to myself, "what is the big deal". And it may sound stupid, but, 9 times out of 10, my anger is uncalled for anyway because it really was no big deal.

Answer 48

Dear friend, everybody in this world has to face the varities of problems. when the rate of problems and commitments increses obviously man tend to get tempered.

Even i was a person who was a short tempered. But now??

I cant imagine....U know i will be cool always!!!

I am now free from getting short temper but not from problems. irrespective of the problems i am facing, i try to be cool and solve it, and u know it worked.

When u got frustrations, temper u 1st leave the place where the situations that led u that stage. U then try to be alone in a free space like terrace, park, open field..... Try to think about the moments u enjoyed in the past. try to hear to some music which u think u get relaxed. Take cool drink or a cup water.

Answer 49

I would consult a psychiatrist. I have ADHD and ADD and depression. I had a rough time and i finally went and saw a psychiatrist. I went to a couple of individual sessions and then i stopped going since I was doing pretty good on the medicine i was taking, but then i needed to go back because the medicine they had me on was making me hyper. So i got switched from focalin to zoloft. And then i started doing better and my temper was more controllable. So i guess you could try that.

Answer 50

NICE AND SIMPLE LIST. see yourself doing the options

I've taken 2 anger management /conflict resoultion type courses)

1) deep breath

2) relax

3) control what you say, don't ever say anything mean

4) maybe youre exaggerating..think of the consequences...what are you a PSYCHO like CHO. What is wrong with you? I mean that in a LITERALsense, not a CRITICAL one.

5) What can you do to be happy? Watching movies online?

Answer 51

I had to go to anger management due to a road rage related charge once, and the best advise I got from there is to listen to relaxing music, preferably something slower, and if that is not possible, try this three step method: stop talking, stop staring, leave the area. But you're right, I just hope that someone doesn't piss me off enough to make me snap. Good luck!

Answer 52

I have a bad temper as well, mine is accompanied with a smart mouth. So, needless to say I have offended many people and gotten into fights as well....



Now that I am a parent I have learned to take time out to walk away when I know something will be said to upset me. I also contain myself by stopping and thinking what will be the outcome of what I'm about to say, will it do any good with what I'm about to say?

I am not perfect, but I am getting better day by day. I have controlled my road rage and people have told me how much more calm I seem.

Good luck and I hope you are able to control your temper :)

Answer 53

This Site Might Help You.



RE:

How can I control my temper?

Sometimes I get so angry and my biggest fear is that one day I'm going to snap and get life without parole. How can I learn control this anger and frustration I have inside?

Answer 54

imagine this:



you are waxing your chest with 2 waxing stripes....as u remove the 1st stripe, "ouch!", damn that hurts, but gosh, nothing happens, no hair has been removed, none at all, while u r so pissed of the not working waxing stripe...you still have the 2nd one to remove...yea, another "ouch" right there!



all you can do is BREATHE and remove the 2nd stripe as smooth as u can, at this stage i dun think u care much whether it your hair or not, u just want both stripes to be off coz u r already in the middle of a "snapping" stage, but you can't, coz u still have one more stripe to remove, ha!



take ur anger as the first stripe each time, when u get so angry, actually nothing will happen, it will just hurts people and even yourself, but after thinking about it...take a deep breathe and proceed to slowly remove the second stripe and that's when you tone down your anger, frustration or whtever u call it.



i got inspired by one of the joke i received from a friend called "wax on wax off". hope it helps! :)



all the best!

Answer 55

Tried to ignore what the problem is and deal with it in a better way. Try mediataitng each on your anger. Find out what it is that keeps you frustated most of the time. You are not the only one that deals with life issues.Look inside and find that joy that you know that makes you happy. Try not add to the problem. Read something nice that will help you maintain the anger. Try getting away from it and pray.

Answer 56

I'm so glad you asked this question. I came up in a very abusive household. My father had a horrible temper and beat my mother and all the children. I can honestly tell you that this is nothing that you can control by yourself. You should see a doctor and describe this temper problem that you have. They will give you a medication for anxiety and something to control your temper. Even with medication you will need to constantly be aware of your potential and do your very best to control it. In the end my father killed my mother, his mother, and my brother. Please get medical attention. I still have nightmares in which I wake my husband screaming in the night. I am 51 years old and still have nightmares from his abuse. Please get help before you ruin your life and someone else's. The best of Luck to you

Answer 57

Recognize the warning signs of an impending anger episode, and cut it off at the pass...

Also recognize that just because you feel intense anger, doesn't mean you have to express it...

I pick up my guitar and channel the excess anger energy in a non-violent way (except when I put a hole in the wall swinging the guitar around)...

Find a hobby or physical activity that channels your anger in some productive or venting way that won't result in people being hurt (except in my case where I end up hurting their eardrums...but no primal scream method is perfect)

Oh...

And if you must snap...

Please use a Super-Soaker water gun instead of the kind with bullets...(and soak the jocks first)

Answer 58

anger is a very natural part of who we are as human beings. in order to try to control it you have to define it for yourself first. what is it that makes you feel anger? is it loss of control of the situation at hand? if it is you have to learn that the only person in this world that you can control is yourself. you can never control other people wish as you may it wont happen. we all have to stand in the same line in the end someday and answer for what we've done so keep that as an incentive to be able to just learn to agree to disagree or just feel like you dont need the person or persons on the other side of the issue to validate your position. you have to learn to validate your own ideas and self worth. if you wait for other people to do that you will never feel valuable to yourself or respected by others. God Bless

Answer 59

The best way I control my temper is to simply take a jump in the water. What I mean by that is that I like to go swimming and work off the stress of whatever gets to me at that moment. If you can't go swimming simply go for a fast walk and I do mean fast. It works better when you take a brisck walk rather than a simple stride, Trust Me. Good Luck!

Answer 60

There are anger management issues here clearly, and getting help from a professional is your best bet. However, keeping in mind that not everything someone else does is a personal affront to you is something to keep in mind. Many people with anger issues take everything personally and have very little perspective most of the time. They are out of control and take no responsibility for it. Please get help.

Answer 61

the best thing to do is control your emotion if you got mad. if you are in that position of getting anger just get a break oops ask you self why I'm got anger. take a look for a bright side not a bad side situation which your temper loss... control control control. then pray can help.

Answer 62

i have ones in my life same kind of experience when i was just crrosed my teenage.it was overcomed after a long time.now in my starting 40 i realise it was the age-who make me controled.another thing i found if somebody can't controle by himself his anger he should follow some meditation.there is a lot of method available .anybody can check from local newspaper advertisement.in bangladesh(my native country) "SILVA" and "QUANTUM" method is more popular.it has so many branches in the world.

actualy "angry" is a frastrated situation.so you should try first by yourself to control. try to became "OMM"- means at that moment you just don't speak anything.just try to forget the situation.try it your next 2/3 months time.in the mean time try to find something from where you will get refreashness.you can make love,can enjoy playing,swimming,friendship, like so many things you have around you.always think POSITIVE.

Answer 63

If you don't feel that the answers you're getting are relating to you well enough to help you, type your exact question in the "Search for questions" bar at the top of your Q & A page & read all the answers given on resolved questions just like, or similar to yours. There are so many reasons for human temperments & so many different ways to handle them, I just don't think you'll find enough help here in your own Q & A. You could also type "managing adult temper" or something to that effect, in your Web Search browser & come up with links to more professional suggestions. Keep in mind, it's normal that we all have to "vent our anger" & I'm sure you can find ways to do that in "little spurts" rather than keeping it in, leading to one "big blow up"

Answer 64

The best way to control your anger is, first: take one step back, take a deep breath , exhale. Stand there for a moment and think about why you got angry in the first place. Second: take your mind to a happy place, ex:(favorite place ever), and go there in your mind, still standing and breathing normal. Lastly: put yourself in that person's place that you got angry at, and listen to yourself yelling at you. Its' not a pretty scene. Come back to reality, and your stress levels will be lower, and your anger will be gone. But you must practice this 2 to 3 times a day. It keeps you healthy!

Answer 65

Spend time talking with behavior specialists - they know the importance of self-control and how childish people look when they show lack of self-control. Think about the consequences more so that you might be less likely to lose it in a fit of rage. It may be harder for some people, but it is another skill which can be mastered.

Answer 66

There are good anger management programs, which are offered by experience professionals. I suggest you go to initial consultation to a few of them, then choose the one that you feel comfortable with.



As a temporary measure just walk away from the scene and take some deep breath and a glass of water before you show any reaction. This should cool your head down a bit.

Answer 67

You need to look at your anger as an ego reaction. You can only feel anger if you want to be right, or if you feel you deserve better, or if you have little patience for everyone else. Seek for humility, acknowlege that everyone has the right to mess up, don't take everything personally, learn to let things go. Your existence will not be of less worth if you do not show outrage at ever percieved injustice you feel. Learn to laugh at life.

Answer 68

(This is for you to copy ) When I have lost my temper I have lost my reason too.Im never proud of anything which angrily I do.When I have talked in anger and my cheeks are flaming red,I have always utterd something which I wish I had'nt said.In anger I have never done a kindly dead or wise,But many thing's for which I felt I should apologize.In looking back across my life,and all I've lost or made,I can't recall a single time when fury ever paid. So I struggle to be patient,for I've reached a wiser age,I do not want to do a thing or speak a word in rage.I have learned by sad experience thet when my temper flies, I never do a worthy thing,a decent dead or wise.

Answer 69

What is so terrible in the first place?

My parents' biggest problems were making mountains out of molehills. If we spilled something on the floor, they got mad. If we didn't pick up our mess, they got mad. If we didn't eat all our dinner, they got mad.

What really is so terrible in the first place?

Does everything in the world have to be done YOUR way or not at all?

Whenever people talk about "Lining their ducks up in a row," I giggle, because very rarely do ducks even want to line up in a row. Not everything has to be perfect. Not everything has to be done your way.

You might want to start by asking yourself why things have to be done a certain way in the first place. So what if the colognes in the bathroom are not organized by color, shape, and in alphabetical order? Put them in a plastic bin and store them out of sight.

Park in the very back of the parking lot, where there are several empty parking spaces, and fewer cars and pedestrians to get in your way, and you will get out faster when you leave and stop screaming at the idiots in front of you right in front of th store.

Pay someone to do your housecleaning and laundry instead of getting mad at your significant other for not doing it right.

Instead of looking at what is wrong with every single little detail, try finding out what is right with the situation. Okay, so your kid spilled some milk on the table - it's what they make paper towels for in the first place! Okay, so your dog tore up your yard - hey, good time to dig the rest of it up, install fencing for a dog run, put down chicken wire in each hole to prevent gophers, plant some new shrubs, maybe install the water system better, set up the patio with the table and the great barbecue, and enjoy your new garden. Okay, some guy cut you off on the freeway on your way to work - better let him get the $300 ticket instead of you.

Turn the situations that make you angry around and try laughing instead. Caught your girlfriend cheating on you? Start laughing and be glad you didn't marry her and lose half your stuff to community property laws. Best friend called you some names? Go through Roget's Thesaurus and start picking out some creative names to call him. The more you laugh, the less angry you will be.

Good luck.

Answer 70

Anger and bitterness are often confused.



Bitterness includes a deep anger or hurt that remains.



Bitterness's focus is always a god/God, not a person or a situation. A god/God could have prevented the situation that resulted in the bitterness from occurring, but the god/God didn't.



When a bitter person is determined to 'get back at' the god/God that permitted the hurtful situation to occur, the only possible target is a person made in the image of God, since the god/God is unavailable.



If the bitter person instead determines to use the bitterness to benefit others, that bitterness eventually becomes the source of its own healing and removal.



(The book of Ruth in the Bible is a very short book, and gives an example of bitterness that turns to benefit.)



If the bitter person is determined to do harm to others made in the image of God in order to 'get back at' the god/God for the original hurt, that bitter person will do so, but the bitterness will not be removed. It will tend to increase. That type of bitterness is from pride: a higher or lower view of one's own rank before others and before God.



Humility (knowing one's own rank and responsibility toward others and toward the True and living God, and living according to that rank and responsibility) is the only cure for harmful forms of bitterness.



Anyone who is determined to benefit others by serving them in proper and constructive ways will succeed, and will overcome bitterness and its source, pride.



The higher the rank of anyone, the more responsibility that person has. Rank and responsibility cannot be disconnected. Humility and rank go together. Leaders who have high rank and little responsibility only fool themselves and harm others. Those who voluntarily take on responsibility when that is appropriate and beneficial prove an increase in rank.



An angry person is self-focused, and therefore arrogant.



A humble person of responsibility is focused on others, and is excellent material for leadership. Little time for anger from bitterness is left; the self-focused anger dissolves.

Answer 71

This is it. Like me, I'm a temper man too. But I control it just by myself. Never listen to the people around you because you can suspect them that they are gossiping about you. You should control yourself. Eat chocolate. It will make you feel better you know. I ate chocolate when I'm always angry about. So it faed away. It removes away my anger. Thats it. I'm done thats my own solution.

Answer 72

Controlling anger is hard once you let it fly too many times. One way I try to control my temperature is by counting to ten and taking deep breaths. Another way is instead of taking it out on people,pets,or animals, try and punch a pillow or a mattress or something.

If this doesn't work for you, you need to go to the doctor. He or she probably will recommend something for you! I hope I answered your question.

Answer 73

Its great that you recognize the problem and want to change it! Basic components to anger management therapy include:

- identify your triggers: what sets you off?

- identify environmental components: are you more likely to explode in morning, day, night, with friends, at home, at work, after drinking, if you skipped your workout, when you're hungry, when its hot out, when its cloudy, when you have too much to do... etc etc

- tune into your internal and physiological signs of increasing agitation / anger: i.e. muscles tensing, voice rising, knot in stomach, pacing, headache, etc

- plan coping skills: what works to calm you down? talking on the phone with a certain someone, working out, hitting a punching bag or mattress, rolling up the windows in your car and yelling, listening to metal music or soothing classical, scribbling your angry thoughts on paper...

- tune into your thoughts when you are getting angry. In a calm moment, write out messages to yourself that could be helpful when you are angry and put them in your wallet. I.e. if your thoughts center around fairness, what about "it's no big deal", or "just let it go". perhaps "she has her reasons", or "it won't matter so much next week". Whatever works.

- plan how you will use your coping skills when angry. Visualize using them. If you can't imagine using your plan, adjust it until it fits.

- talk to a therapist to explore why you get so angry. Is there some unresolved anger that you haven't let go of? Your dad was a jerk, beat your mom, etc...?

- get a physical exam in case there is some physical or chemical component influencing your moods. I.e. minor brain injury (from getting punched in the head), lymph nodes, etc

- pray

Answer 74

Well just try to cool down, and not think about things that makes you angry. And trust God to help you control your anger. Also you can step aside and take a breath and count to three and think before you act. Just try not to get angry, it's hard to do, but just think I can beat this guy to death and spend the rest of my life in jail, or I can calm down relax, go home and have a drink!

Answer 75

Thats such a good question for you to ask. It means you are open to change for the better and we can all benefit from doing that. Our brains adapt to our responses and it becomes a habit. Habits, as you know, are hard to break. My advice? See a doctor and get on Zoloft for three months. It calms that part of your brain that causes your temper to flare. After three months, wheen off of the Zoloft, and you will be without a temper problem and will respond sensibly to stress.

Answer 76

I hope you receive the correct mental health diagnosis and receive proper treatment and counseling as long as you have your assets, your health and most importantly, your freedom.



I allowed anxiety, agitation and temper to haunt me too long without any medical help. When I was arrested, then I woke up but I waited 5 more months to begin my recovery. The medication has stopped my temper and agitation cold turkey. If I feel the agitation reawaken, I inform my treatment team and medication is adjusted accordingly.



Relaxation did nothing for me when I was manic and ill but relaxation helps me a little bit.

Answer 77

when you got mad, STOP! Breathe. Think. Think, why are you mad? Is it really that big a deal? I mean, is it worth getting mad about? Who are you mad at? Now, breathe again and CALMLY try to express why you're mad. If you can't, go somewhere where you can clear your head. Keeping a journal can help too so you can write down your thoughts and feelings. That helps calm you down. Try listening to music that's calming and soothing. DON'T listen to hard rock or anything of that sort 'cz it jz builds up anger. Try telling someone who can be trusted. And remember to smile. :) You may never know, someone might smile back. And that's really big help. :D here's a smile for you.

Answer 78

first u have to acknowledge that ur angry. many are not comfortable admitting it, because the feeling can be uncomfortable, and lead to feeling our of control. then u need to address the issues that contributed to ur anger, and address them in therapy. if u feel out of control, u must have back up plans as to how u are going to get it out. like screaming on the beach, writing, blasting music, doing a sport. therapy with a good therapist that u trust may be essential.

Answer 79

Think about the thing you are getting angry for.maybe you'll think its silly to raise your temper. If this does not work take a deep breath . Try to calm yourself down.you know anger can mess your life up. Hope you can control it. Best of luck.

Answer 80

There's different ways you can control it. It just depends on what your angry about. It's hard to stop and breath when your angry! you just don't think about that! start out small. use your selfcontrol. for example.



You see some candy you really like and it's late at night, don't eat it! put it away. walk away from it. use your control in the little things so that it will get stronger and you have more control over your anger as you continue. :)

Answer 81

The best way that I have found to control ones temper is practice. By this I mean to mentally put yourself in different situation that causes your anger, then mentally see yourself controling your temper. If you practice this method of mentally seeing yourself managing your anger in different scenarios ,when you encounter similar situations in real life you will have already found a way to resolve it in your mind making it easier to control your temper. John B

Answer 82

You Should Watch Bad Boys 2 And Use The "WUSSA" Maybe I'll Work 4 You.. lol.. J/K.. I Don't Know.. Just Go Out 4 A Walk When Your Really Mad..

Answer 83

Only one way. That is every morning after getting up from the bed, pledge yourself that 'today I will not loose my temper on anybody' and keep remembering it though out the day. After a month or two you are cured.

Answer 84

Learn how to get what you want without upsetting anyone. A counsellor may be necessary. Assertiveness is the key and a much bigger power trip than anger. Every contact you have with another person is an opportunity to heal yourself by being nice (and assertive), get nice back and so repair the hurts you have received in the past.

Answer 85

Anyone who hasn't learned to control their temper knows when they are about to lose it. When you are at that point, you have to tell yourself, "Stop." Say it in your mind calmly. Say it until you actually stop what you are doing. Now you have your own attention.



Ask yourself why you are getting angry?



Is it worth getting angry over?



Is it something you can control?



Do you realize that people AREN'T impressed when you have a temper tantrum?



Do you realize that people think you are emotionally stunted and not very bright that you can't deal with your emotions any other way than to throw a tantrum like a spoiled child?



Some people are proud of their temper tantrums. Learn that if you are one of them, you are alone. No one else thinks highly of your temper tantrum. They think you are an umbecile.



"Stop."



"Think"



Break the cycle.

Answer 86

Dear Kobe

How to control temper is one of major problem but once you have known then take it as challenge in your own life and accept all advices that always come from friends.I was in that situation and am out of it due friends help parent comport.



I wented to share that rich experience with you, first know that there is {no man or woman is an island} bracket proverb had help me alot,think about it|digest it will solve little part, if are married then give your dear husband unconditional love and if not then hung out with friends that will not see you in dismay but happy world.

lastly listen to love music there much frustration and comport as well as sorrows while can come back to happiness.

Answer 87

Simply think about a situation. A doll is dancing. beside it, you are shouting. But tthe doll has no reaction. it is dancing. some one is crying. doll is dancing. some item is creating too much noise. doll is dancing. nothing can make any harm against dancing due to it's avoid based ability. now come to the point. You have a head(brain). it is on the top of our body. it is also server. too much matter will be done beside you. you must need to keep cool the server for handle the situation. in hot situation, you say yourself, I need to keep cool the server to handle the situation. all time you need to talk with yourself. when you will do it, your brain keep itself cool and the situation will be kept under controlled. simple subject is you don't go under the situation, always stay on the situation. if you do it, the situation will be stayed under you and you can handle it as you like.

Answer 88

You need to find a happy place in ur soul. Church may help and always keep something around you that makes you smile or feel at peace. Music is great and it comes so small now a days you can carry it anywhere. A picture of a good time in ur life. And a little pray always help, i know.

Answer 89

Well, this is how to control your anger:

1. When you get angry, the first thing to do is to breathe in and out,

2. count from 1 to 10 and finally,

3. keep telling yourself there is nothing wrong..

Answer 90

Well believe it or not you are more than half way there.

Now the next step is to what ever cause remember to step back bite your tongue&count to ten. It works wonders as it allows you to look at things from a distance rather thab being with in reach of lashing out in nano seconds. So best of luck matey.

Answer 91

If there's something you you find that takes your mind off things, do it when you're feeling the anger rising. Keeping preoccupied with something else will make you forget the anger and will make it fade. Physical activity, like exercise and sports, should help quite a bit in that regard. Some people find listening to music calms them--everyone has different ways of dealing with their tempers. Just find out what calms you or what can keep you busy for a while and do it. Hope that helps!

Answer 92

Learn to build up yourself as a person, work on your esteem and learn to start ignoring a lot of people. It's sad but people who know you do have a temper might work this against you. Extra note: I think you may be one of the few people who knows they might end up in jail for a personal problem and are looking for a way to avoid it. Great job!

Answer 93

firstly always try to be happy and don't get involved in such matters that makes u angry . see my bro anger is the biggest evil as well as enemy of of any person . in my thought the person who cant control his anger or temper is the slave of such evils so i request you not to be the slave of anger or temper.the Holli prophet of Islam [ peace be upon him ] teaches about how to control anger. he says that if any person gets angry then immediately he should sit down , then if it is not working he should drink water, if this is also not affective then he should lay down . dear bro i hope this will definitely work because Islam has the key for all problems.

Answer 94

Herbal Medications

Answer 95

Find something productive that will help u to control it, for example, sports, martial arts, any active activity. These activities will help u to learn how to control ur temper. Its a more fun way of learning to control ur temper than going to a psychologist.

Answer 96

get your a$s kicked a few times. People CAN control their temper. For instance, if some robber or something came in your house and put a gun in your face, would you give him crap or be humble and control your temper. You still have a choice to smart off...you might get shot, but you ALWAYS have a choice, so exercise that self control without having a gun in your face or something crazy like that. Get some humility and then use it...that's all.

Answer 97

It is a matter of how serious you are. With enough determination to overpower the elements like a wave in the ocean, you have learned to ride comfortably to the shores of contention where the feelings of guilt reside and usually are waiting with open arms to eventually forgive you so you can start again the cycle of self destructive behavior you have become so accustomed to. You have to be very serious with yourself if you wish to change this behavior because it becomes part of yours' and everyone elses' established equilibrium. The whole thing becomes integrated and grows into a lifetime fantasy of wanting to be free of this behavior.

Answer 98

anger management or just clench yourself up to stop yourself lashing out or hit a pillow or just breathe deeply, smile and think about all the good things in life instead of concentrating on your anger. just let it go and dont dwell on anger too much, because if you do that's what will completely affect your life in a bad way.

Answer 99

Play a game, tell yourself it's game time, and try to come to a condition of defence to the person or thing that got your goat. I knew of an incident where a drunken man shot his pet goat for bucking the shinning hub caps on his 52 chevy convertable. The goat only done what goats do when they see a rival goat in a reflection. When he woke up sober, he cried and sobbed for his pet.

Answer 100

well. There are different ways to control a temper. Not all people are going to use the same way to control their temper. For example if your friend controls his temper by counting to ten it might work perfect for him but not for you. My way to control my temper is to analyze the way that i would end up acting, and if its a negative way that i would act in front of people then i try to change my attitude towards what ever that is making my temper vicious.

Answer 101

When u feel like your goin to snap on someone just breath deep and walk away thats what i always do or i would count to ten

I have been doing this and i havent snapped on anyone in 72 hours

Answer 102

To Control your temper try breatinhg in and out slowly it makes you calm and try to be relaxed dont go nuts and think about something that makes you happy and clam. There is no med that can help you control a temper. The wort thing to do is bottle up you emotions cause if you do you will tick like a bomb Helpful things ( Walkout side,breath slowly, Relax, Thing aobut something that makes you happy)

Answer 103

I have the same promblem. Sometimes you can just turn and walk away or ignore it.but other times you might want to solve it with violence wich is a bad thing. Just remember how u don't want to live life in jail or something like that and think about what your doing before you do it,

Answer 104

it can be many but some count numbers or breed in and out deeply so the temper inside a person eases the anger?

Answer 105

work out and lay off on the cafeine

you can also try yoga or meditation classes or try a therapist that way you have someone who will listen to you for an hour and you get to talk about your frustrations non stop to someone who is a third party and won't judge you. It's very liberating and it's not something that you can ask your friend or spouse to do for you

Answer 106

You can count back from either 100 or 10 depending on how angry you are.Also you can walk away from the problem and go do something fun to get your mind off of it. You can talk it out with the person your angry with.Tell some one who you can trust about all the frustration so you can just let it all out.

Answer 107

you must first think...is it worth injuring someone or yourself?..of course not, so take 3 deep breaths, exhaling slowly, while doing this think....nobody is worth going to jail for, anger causes stress and maybe the person your mad at, might be having a bad day, possibly had a loved one die.

we might all stop and think of looking at things and try putting the shoe on the other foot, hey maybe they didnt mean to cut you off, or the look they give you might just be the way they look all the time!...just live, and be calm, and be good, karma will reward you for being peaceful!

Answer 108

Whenever I get angry. I stop (in my mind) Pray for guidence (focus on God) and then tell myself that it (whatever angered me) seems much different from the person-angering-me's position. All disagreements come from differing points of view. If you understand the arguement or rational for the other persons position you can often derail confrontation between otherwise reasonable people.

Answer 109

SINCERELY, Get some professional help. it could be a chemical imbalance of some source. crazy things are happening late with people who have anger problems...(e.g. VA Tech, Columbine, mall, dc sniper) at least you know you have a problem and THUMBS UP for that but now is the diffucult task find appropiate help. I wish you the best of luck in getting your problems straighten up!!!!!!

Answer 110

Walk away from any situation that makes you angry. At night, go for walks to collect your thoughts. Stay away from people or things that fuel your temper. Then if all else fails, ask your dr for mood stablizers. I did all of the above.

Answer 111

Oh sure.....



Count to 10 slowly

Talk to Jesus

Breath deeply

learn to meditate

go to therapy

punch your pillow a few times



These are all suggestions of people who don't know what its like to feel rage inside them . You can't mask it, you can't talk your way out of it, it is there.

Go on medication, ever since I went on Celexa for depression I don't let stuff get to me anymore.

Otherwise, you're just masking the problem with things that don't work.

Why try to deal with the symptom after the fact when you can get rid of the problem before it turns into a symptom?

Answer 112

when you feel in anger,try to smile ! It works really good. And don`t forget that all in the world is temporarily.. There is no time to waste with anger here in the world. .. And make a sport in your free times..With sport will your fears and anger reduce.. good luck

Answer 113

Your brain might control your temper naturally, if you allowed it to. That's it's job. Unless you're too impatient to wait for your thoughts to catch up with your feelings, anger can take over. Slow down! before you do something thoughtless, stupid, or rash ... Your a big boy, get control of yourself.

Answer 114

maybe try to think about people that have it worse than you, a lot of time, the things we get mad about here in the US are out of proportion and it helps to put it in perspective.



Also, a lot of people who loose their temper are perfectionists but the pb is that nothing is and will ever be perfect.



It helps to have a hobby. You can have fun from it, get a lot of satisfaction and when you make progress or excel at it, you get a feeling of perfection at least in one field and you wont' get mad about imperfection in other fields.

Answer 115

i used to have major lapses in my temper and would just lose it completely! i found focusing my mind really helped i try loads of different things but i found meditation and focused martial arts really helped me. i know that meditation sounds stupid but it helps to find true calm. i also found that the thing that made me lose control of my anger was actually all the stuff that i thought had no affect on me but actually i just piled up then it took something small to make me completely snap! i found looking inwards helped, finding inner calm so to speak

Answer 116

A bad temper always signify a demon in the body.You want to be rid of a bad temper,for good? Agree with God about salvation thru Jesus Christ.Than pray to God thru Jesus,to bless your mind to be like His,as the Holy Spirit wrote that christians have the mind of christ.Also ask also ask other christians to pray.Otherwise your temper will get worse,as you have guesed.

Answer 117

Check with your doctor to see if there is any physical reason for your anger. You could also benefit from therapy or anger management classes.



Find another way to take out your anger. Exercise, or, like many others suggested, get a punching bag and take your frustrations out on it.



To help diffuse your anger in the heat of the moment, take a minute to think before you react. Don't count to ten. Instead, think of what you are wanting to do, and then visualize the consequences if you do it. You obviously don't like that you get so angry, so maybe by taking a moment to think about how your anger will affect those around you, you'll be able to control it.



Good luck.

Answer 118

People don't generally attack others verbally/physically if they feel respect/intimidated by someone else. Anger management seems to be for people who do know how to manage their anger, they just pick on people they consider inferior to themselves.



the golden rule of, "treat others how you'd like to be treated" applies and just have respect for others. If they don't respect or treat you fairly leave the situation.

Answer 119

I use to have a temper when I was a kid. I learned to control it by realizing that it did not hurt anyone but me by me losing my temper and I feel it made me a better person.

Answer 120

Count to 10

Answer 121

if you are mad at a person, understanding of where the other person is coming from can help alot.. realize that not everyone is as smart as you



Any fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius-and a lot of courage-to move in the opposite direction.

Albert Einstein

Answer 122

I have had this same feeling as well lately. Some days I feel like my head is about to explode!!The best thing to do is to find an outlet. Do you have a sport or a way to vent? Try exercising. Its a great way to vent your frustrations. Also, try talking about them as well.

Answer 123

well first of all find out whats got u so frustrated. then take a deep breath,relax.it may be hard at first or it may even seem silly 2 u if u haven't down it before but it works. try it and if u want hit me back. ms.smiley_face1

Answer 124

Can you remember the last time someone was very very angry at you? For what reason and how did YOU feel?

Your reason for being angry could be over something very minor and a lot of times, the person you are angry at have his/her own reasons.

You need to think in this manner: IF someone was angry with ME, I would want a chance to say my reasons or to apologize. 'Cause no one wants an unhappy situation where both sides are miserable. If you could put yourself in someone else's shoes, it would help yourself alot to calm down quickly and eventually, control you temper altogether.



You could also have your own reasons for being angry. It's a word called "stress". Your frustrations from whatever stressful issues you have are also possibly a major reason why you cannot control your temper. People who are frustrated, tend to just lose control of their temper and shout/scream it out, venting their anger on anything and everything.



Here, I would like to compliment you because you have realised yourself that you cannot control your temper. Great! Now you need to move to a next step which is to find out why.

Could it be school/work? Your teacher/boss being such a jerk? Classmates/rivals/colleagues? Family problem? Think of the MAIN reasons.. It could not be the hotdog guy's fault for putting too little radish or something. It could be that someone/something you loss or something terrible happened. Focus on the main reasons and always remember to put yourself in another person's shoes. [You yourself would so not want to be yelled at or something for no apparent reason, right?]



Here are some other ways I feel you can do to help you be in a happier mood.

1) Compliment others as how you want others to compliment you. THEN AGAIN, don't be stupid and say stuff like "Aunt Magaret, have you lost weight? "(when obviously she hasn't) Get my drift? BE SINCERE in your compliments. Emphasis on the word COMPLIMENT and not critism. It maybe very awkward at first and you may think that people around you think 'Ok, cool down, he's just getting weird again'. Think in this manner--that everyone hates you even more or something-- and it goes back to square one. People do like it when you compliment them.



You say that you tend to lose your temper..perhaps your 'door' to them has already closed. No matter how you budge, it won't open and it would only make you more miserable. You need a key, this key would open the door for you. But you need to figure out how to use the key. Focus on other's values and not the negative parts, again, just as you want others to see you this way.



2) Smile more. Not saying you totally don't smile at all or anything, but a smile doesn't matter on how it looks. A smile, a genuine one, is felt by the heart. You could have made soemone's day. For example, you're definitely not the only person with troubles, smiling or greeting your nighbour when you meet them can make both their day and yours. For all you know, you could have been the only person who has smiled at him/her. :D



3) Try to help others whenever possible. People like it when they have help(but not such that they totally slack and ask you to do anything and everything for them..N-O- NO!!). Lend your stuff to your neighbour/colleague, help someone pick up their stuff when they dropped them. TAKE THE INITIATIVE and help do chores like tidying up after something.



4) Thank others. Thank them for the littlest things they do. We are all humans. We need a smile and some words of thanks or compliment once in a while. Be it someone holding the door for you or the cleaning lady coming, thank them. Don't need to start a speech or gratitude. Just "thanks" or "thank you" and smile and ta-da! two happy people. happy happy happy. YAY(:



5) Spend time with others, your family members and your friends. Regardless of whatever problems you may or may not have with them, they are still the people that make up a major part of your life. You don't need to spend a lot of money to do so. Monopoly or group study, washing the family car, cooking a meal together, taking a dip at the swimming pool. etc etc.



Like the M1 motto, "One life, Live it" and the Nike's one "Just do it".

I am absolutely sure you can control your temper in the end. Take care of your health, have enough sleep (gosh, I sound like my grandma), joke often, don't take things so seriously all the time and you would be totally fine.

Good luck :D

Answer 125

Buy a gun under a stolen identity and shoot whatever is bothering you. Then just toss it into a river. That way you can take care of your problem and avoid life without parole.

Answer 126

Walk away if possible, or just walk the activity alone seems to deplete my anger. I also have someone I can call when I am fed up or angry. They call me when they are at their wits end.

Answer 127

highly recommend the film Anger Management with Adam Sandler and Jack Nicholson....



...you can express or channel your anger towards breaking bricks or when rapping like Eminem does

Answer 128

What you need is something to take it out on. An inanimate object. A handball or something that when you get angry you can toss as hard as you want against a wall or something for you to squeeze really hard.

Answer 129

i think of a question that leaves my mind empty like what is the sound of one hand clapping or i a tree falls in the middle of the woods doe it make sound........wll that was isnt good for me but it works with others my preferable strategy if count as high as i can in french but you may not know french but most important is to take a moment and carry sweet chocalate with you sounds stupid but it works something small you can pop into your mouth easly and when you go home pick up the phone and pretend you are talking to someone who is listening without dialing anything it can help but the best thing is too try not to put your self in angry situations hope i helped calmly yours the spazz manian devil (note if you dont change soon you might get a nick name like that)

Answer 130

I get mad like all the time. Sometimes so much that I'm speachless. People are so stupid, you know?! Anyway. I usually tense all my muscles, especially my fists. And then I ask everyone to be quiet. Then I count to 20 or more and after that I'm a little less bloodthirsty.

Answer 131

You just have to think differently. You can control your temper if you CHOOSE to. Think before you speak and before you take actions. Pray that God would help you with your problem. and believe in yourself that you can change for the better. I used to have anger issues as well. I believe it can also run in your family, because I'm sure that it runs in mine.

Answer 132

holing it in makes it worse maybe u have agood reason to be angry so think of howsomething or someone mad u angry and what you can do about it without doing something crazy. if your mad at yourself maybe your subconsious is telling you to do soemthing and your not doing anything about it. you have a right to feel how you feel dont deny your emations good or bad your not mr. spock. something would be wrong with you if you did not feel angry act on iin agood way

Answer 133

Join a combat sport like boxing or kickboxing. Thats how I usually control my temper.

Answer 134

Count from 1-10, breathe and think is this worth it? Don't let a person get to you like that because it only hurts you. They can't feel your frustration so it only gets up upset, angry and hurt feeling.

Answer 135

You need to go to an anger managemetn class. Free in many cities.

Answer 136

How To Control My Temper

Answer 137

Remember everyone makes mistakes. Even you. So that can help you not to be so mad at others. Also when we are mad or we think we are mad we really are just hurt. Someone has hurt us and we need a good cry. Take time to reflect. You may not have a temper just hurt feelings and your trying to just let people know the only way you know how.

Answer 138

One thing to always remember is that you have a choice. The wrong choice can mean not being able to live your life freely. Leave the situation and take a few moments to think before you react. Good Luck!!!!

Answer 139

look anger is not a bad thing. but too much of anger can & will surely spoil your career. you take oath of your mother that you will never be angry. Its simple. take every thing in life with cool mind.

Answer 140

good! you are pure human! but as we all do we carry a little bit of ape qualities too. thats one of the qualities that you can't hide. This is very simple, its about the balance. Its about controlling yourself. understanding your limits and powers. you have to be very strong in your mind to control the fear, anger and emotions. not physically mentally strong. By this moment if you feel like slapping me for writing these rubbish, thats ok. this will be your first assignment. read this 10 times from beginning to the very end. 10 times. think about every single word and keep that in your mind. drink some water and go get a punch bag and slam, jab and kick. scream shout and hit as hard as you can. think about the first time you get pissed and the last time you ended up with a major scene. think why and how it happened. Was it worth doing that? how hard was it to overcome the situation? how satisfy were you by getting so mad? was it worth being like that?..ok. can you remember the last time you saw an animal fighting with another. think about it. nothing else/ just hit the punch bag as harder as you can. continue to do it. if you can do that JUST for two days. you passed your assignment. the next is to continue it just for a couple of weeks. gradually you will punch a little bit less than you did the previous day. ( don;t forget to drink water in between).. ok. if you read it up to here you completed half of your first assignment. If you are thinking what's the point of doing this by now, why don't you try to do it within next half and hour. see how it goes from there. In two weeks just write it to yahoo answers and see how you ended up. by the way if you can't do this, just keep that in your mind and think you are an ape from the past. that might help you to start your anger management therapy, i believe. good luck!

Answer 141

that sometimes happen to me. but i found that a couple of things help me a LOT. one of the most effective way to to play a sport. for me, it's tennis. It releases so much stress and makes you feel exhilirated after the excercise. And the second thing is to get friends who appreciate you. Those friends who always encourage you to do what you want to do. Those ones that are supportive. And also, find a something you will be passionate about and pursue that passion. While doing it, i forget about everything else and feel happy when i accomplish something.

Answer 142

Firstly, try not to hit the first guy who answered this question. Instead, perhaps go for an extremely long run. Or, try channelling your angry energy into protesting for your favourite good-cause or charity by becoming an extreme activitst!

Answer 143

leave the room and give yourself some time to breathe.anger usually creeps in if things are not going your way.it helps when you don't expect too much and realize the uniqueness of things or people for that matter.remember no one can make you angry unless you let them.

Answer 144

The best thing is to go to anger management before anything actually happens.... at least you will be equipped with how to cope in situations and start to kunderstand why you are so angry

Answer 145

The best thing to do is to count to 10 before you act, or most importantly, when you want to REACT to something. I know it sounds stupid but those few seconds give your brain enough time to weigh the benefits against the consequences of the behavior you are about to undertake.



Try it! It really works.

Answer 146

Watch the movie "Anger Management" and you'll get some good tips there

Answer 147

I'm the same way, mate, and I'm afraid that the only thing that I know is isolation. If I don't spend time with people I can't hurt them. It's unhealthy, but it's better than abusing someone.

Answer 148

If you have a rage problem you should get yourself into counseling. There are certain types of counseling designed to help with these feeling and help you learn to control them.

Answer 149

perhaps see a doctor and see if you cant get medication, the best thing to do when you get angry is to take time (10 seconds) and ask yourself if its worth the risk to do what you WANT to do, is your life in danger? If not , walk away, dont say anthing and walk away, keep walking until you calm yourself down. If you do react the fact of the matter is the police and jail guards will be telling you much you cant do anything about for a couple of years.

Answer 150

It is the decision that you take, at the moment that you realize you are loosing control of your emotions.

You have to stop. Then rethink. It is done.

everything is a decision, Do I control my emotions or I do let them control me?. YOU CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS.

It's not easy, but you have to be alert all day long. and in your sleep, in dreams, and ask God for help.

PREVENTION, eat less meat, drink a lot of watter, drink te like tila, valeriana, chamomille, sleep, meditate, walk.

Answer 151

Close your eyes and think how dumb you must be. Then think of all funny or happy incidents in your life. I am in the same state u are. Believe me, it works. Later u feel damn guilty for losing ur temper.

Answer 152

hmm y dont u try but walking away if somethin makes u angry? or get a stress ball? der kl lol n count 2 10! or 20! lol depends how angry u r! or get a pillow n scream in2 it! i do it! it helps

Answer 153

as soon as u get tempered u can start counting from 10 to 0 , till it comes to 0 u will b cooled by your self.

Answer 154

That definitely helps! Try to understand why people do the things that they do to make you mad, what makes you mad, and what calms you down. He who angers you, controls you. When you get angry, you give others control over you, because they learn what buttons to push to make you mad.

Answer 155

FEAR works for me, yet one is not always inclined to instill it. Watch a creepy horror flick till the real-life event occurrs . Or you can always resort to viewing photos of Rosie O'Donnell (sp?) first thing in the morning.

Answer 156

You could try screaming into a pillow. It sounds silly but it works! Mainly, you just need to divert your thoughts at that moment and then concentrate on something else.

Answer 157

Just find the nearest Art of Living Centre and do their breathing workshop. It will definitely cure your anger as it has done for me. www.artofliving.org

Answer 158

I get irritated all the time... sometimes at the stuuuuuuupidest things. I just imagine my life could be SOOOO much worse.

It makes me basically shut-up and stop bitchin'. There are so many people worse.

Answer 159

I TRY TO REPLACE MY ANGER WITH A THOUGHT THAT CAN KEEP ME IN LINE. MY CHILD IS USUALLY #1. SO SIMMER THIS IF YOU HAVE KIDS DO YOU WANT TO GO TO JAIL AND SEE YOUR KIDS BEHIND GLASS. JUST PUT YOUR MIND ELSE WHERE AND DON'T ALLOW ANYONE TO HAVE THAT MUCH CONTROL OVER YOU TO MAKE YOU ANGRY.

Answer 160

man try to meditate, learn to switch on and switch off regularly, for this u should meditate no. of minutes[if u r 20 u should meditate for 20 minutes]. Try doing this and u'll succeed. If not for this when u think that u'll be angry calmly sit in a place for 5minutes...

Answer 161

find urself a distraction!



New hobby?



Think of something that will make u smile?



Or walk away from the situation u are caught in, catch some breath to cool urself down and decide later if u want to proceed to face the music!!



Good Luck

Answer 162

This is very serious and I hate to hear this for you. (:

I don't get angry, but I do feel sad or worried at times.

All I do is read the Bible or listen to Christian music, other calming & relaxing CD's that I have.



Try looking at this link and listen to some of the music or the different pages/sites.



http://www.mountainwings.com

Answer 163

go sit alone with soft music close your eyes an relax by placing your hands on the top of your head then eyes cheeks neck shoulders stomach thighs now do you feel the pressure releasing from your body.make sure you go slowly.

Answer 164

its called Seriquel, its a drug given to you by a dr.. you could be Bi polar....if not do this...back away.......believe me.....it works!!!! there would be some people out there with hatchets in their foreheads...

There were times I wanted to break a bottle of ketchup over their heads....was why i would never make it as a waitress for sure...but I would say....nobody is worth your energy buddy....I would say back up....walk away...and if they keep at you......keep walking...and think of what it would be like in a cell with no freedom.....No big macs, no women, no pizza, no TV, better yet....no family.....so think again before you fly off the handle...no body is worth your life..Love yourself first!!

Answer 165

This may not be relevant but are you a FIRE sign? As in, a Leo, Sagittarius or an Aries? They can be known to blow up without notice.

Answer 166

u know, sexual release [figure it out] really is scientifically proven to release all your anger, no bull. So next time you feel like blowen a *****'s head off, grab a playboy and some tissues and head to a restroom

not tellin you to become a chronic one

but it helps

Answer 167

Meditation

Answer 168

I inhale while counting to seven and hold my breath while counting to 21. Repeat this 10 times. It calms you down and makes you feel more positive.

Answer 169

You have to know that people who control their anger and keep it inside they are the stronger, it is your decision DO YOU WANT TO BE STRONG OR WEAK??!!

Answer 170

Some people do not fit into society and will benefit from life without parole.

Answer 171

well if you dont want to do anger management then you should find something that is simple and fun to do so when you get angry do something that makes you happy or relaxed so you wont end up just letting lose and doing something that you wont regret

Answer 172

Stop and think you know it is wrong or you would not be asking for help.it takes a big person to control one self's.ask God to help you I know you want to do the right thing.



mary

Answer 173

maybe get some help talk to someone that really gives a dam,you know it only hurts you cause if you hurt or kill someome due to somthing thats not really worth fighting about then walk away it takes more energy to be nasty than smile and walk away.

Answer 174

when you feel angry, take a deep breath and try to ignore and forget the reason why you are getting angry. Alos, try to calm yourself down and when somebody is frustrating you, ignore them and don't bother answering them!

Answer 175

If you feel that strongly, you need to seek professional help!

There are anger management classes, too. And they do work!

Answer 176

Kobe i think you should just get u a journal.When something gets to the point that u want to hit something u should just write it down in your journal. It's not just for girls. Guys can express their feelings too. U aren't a sissy if u do this. write me back and tell me how it went.

Answer 177

FASTEST THINK TO DO : Get away your face from someone make you angry, don't look into his/her eyes, and go away, find a place so you can put your head into water. That ' ll help to calm you and make you fresh....

Answer 178

take 3 deep breaths. then just calm down. if you like, you can yell out all the anger at the toilet and flush it away!

hope that helps!

Answer 179

I would go to anger managment or see a therapist.

Answer 180

Hi, Keep a mirror handy. Whenever you are angry see your face in the mirror. This is the best remedy and it really works in controlling the temper.



I myself found this very helpful. Thanks

Answer 181

Read the book of Proverbs

Answer 182

Take an anger management course.

Answer 183

Use the SLAP method. Stop, Look, Answer and Pause. Stop before reacting, Look and the total situation, Answer slowly and Pause frequently.

Answer 184

when you get angry count 1-10 and then think will it help you any way wasting your energy in getting angry



if this too don't help then give out your frustration on pillow

Answer 185

Take a DEEP breath and count to 6 b4 you even say anything.

Answer 186

Figure out where it's coming from by looking inward.

Answer 187

before you resond to something, take a sec. or two and ask your self, are you resonding from emotions or from thinking about the problem. remember it takes a min to think but a life time to heal a hurt.

Answer 188

I would step away from the situation at hand and come back when I have calm down.

Answer 189

Watch that movie with Jack Nicholson in it Anger Management..If that doesn't help then buy self help tapes on it...

Answer 190

what i do is i just think of calm relaxing things and try to be happy or just isolate my self for a while and read a book that always helps me.d

Answer 191

Get a punching bag and put a picture of anyone who made you mad on the punching bag.

Answer 192

Take a Chill Pill

Answer 193

you just have to calm down and think of something else for the moment til your calm then at that point thats where you try to the slove what made you so upset and figure out why it up-set you so much

Answer 194

IM NOT GOING TO LIE ITS HARD PEOPLE PUSH YOU AND PUSH YOU TIL YOU BLOW UP ON THEY *** BUT THATS ALL THEY WANT YOU TO DO. WHAT I DO IS TRY TO THINK ABOUT SOMEONE OR SOMETHING THATS MAKES YOU HAPPY I TRY TO BLOCK PEOPLE OUT OF MY HEAD BY THINKING OF SOMETHING ELSE AND IT HELPS CAUSE ONCE I GET MY MIND OFF OF THE PROBLEM IM FINE I TEND TO THINK ABOUT WHAT MY FIANCE WOULD TELL ME TO DO. DONT LET NO ONE GET YOU DOWN YEA ITS SO EASY TO SAY BUT HARD TO DO IF THOSE THINGS DONT WORK PRAY ABOUT IT BUT PRAYIN ABOUT IT SHOULD BE THE FIRST THING YOU SHOULD DO IF YOU BELIEVE THAT GOD CAN TAKE YOUR ANGER AWAY HE CAN AND HE WILL CAUSE LIFE IS HARD WITHOUT HIM TRUST AND BELIEVE THAT

Answer 195

How about punching someone a dozen times really hard?



I find that takes the anger right out of me most of the time.



(unless they try resisting of course and then I really go ballistic!)



:) Dont bother to say thank you for this great tip :)

Answer 196

When you feel like that just think of cold waves touching your eyes.Roses in your hands and your girlfriend coming. you will experience no more anger.

Answer 197

share with others your frustration causes . first get off thinking about that reason cause frutration . another solution straight your hands fingures touch first finguer with thumb only tips should benot nails.in few seconds you feel ok.

Answer 198

Meditation 10 to 15 minutes a day, whereby you ultimately are able to empty your mind of all thought. Once you attain Zen you will look back at your temper tantrums and see the futility of them. But don't take my word for it. Try it

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Well a way i try to control my temper is by listening to music or just relaxing in my room when i get really angry i just take a walk to try and calm myself down... and well i think this could be a good way for you to try and calm your self not by doing anything to hurt yourself just to relax and forgive wat has been done ...well yea thats pretty much wat i want to tell you ...

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well i kno for a fact deep breathing doesnt work...i say go see a counciler and also try t lower ur blood pressure

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look man, the only to do something about your temper is to deal with it. think of it like you're on fire - if you were on fire, you'd be worried about it, like not in a sense, oh, you know, in about ten hours i'm going to be ash, but in a sense that you have to stop burning up, NOW! so you have to be thinking - i'm on fire, and i need to do something about it. because then you start being intentional about the way you act and the way your respond to others who might make you angry.



like i had this neighbor once, and he was always blaring his music, and i wanted to bash him. but i thought, you know, i think i can deal with my temper problems if i just let it go. and i got pretty dang mad, but eventually it didn't bother me anymore.



there's a great illustration from THE SIMPSONS about this. homer is really mad at mr. burns and he thinks about strangling him, but then after a few seconds of thought about strangling, he's thinking about eating pancakes. that's how you deal with anger. you sit down, cool off, think about how you should respond, and then get over it.

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When you feel like you are going to snap just walk away and think about something else ....Thats what I do

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whenever you feel like getting angry just remember you're going to regret it after wards, so buy something squidgy and whenever you feel anger coming on you

squeeze the squidgy thing to death.

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go in a room that no one else is at and punch the wall scream at a pillow

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its easy

1) dodnt get frusteted

2 ) cool & relax ur self

3)coumt down 10 if u r angry

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I have this same issue! Just 30 min. ago I was gona kick this ladies a&#! When you find out let me know! I even have meds to calm me down, they don't help much! lol!

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well u can go to yoga and like clear your mind and you wont remember all the temper you have and everything

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Breathe long, deep breaths whenever you feel angry. Remember, you are controlled by your own brain. So your body will do anything you want it to, and not do anything itself. Think about this everytime you become angry.

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through Patience

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You expect too much.Stop and smell roses.If you have two hands that you can use for betterment be thankful.If you have intelligence be thankful.If you are lucky enuff to have sight be thankful.So what is your problem?

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seek professional advise, you must have some unresolved issues that you have not been able to let go, look within in order to work it out.

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drink some cold water and wash ur face too with it b'coz anger is fire and the fire needs cold water to stop

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I feel for you man, I was just like that. I work in retail now and its imperative I stem my temper. I found my niche though. You need to find an escape so that when you hold back you can blow off your steam later. I play airsoft with about 9 other guys. and let me tell you when its 5 on 5 and your in formation and then crap starts whizzing back and forth you forget all about life and just enjoy yourself. Get a hobby anything will do as long as you enjoy it. As you find yourself more relaxed you will find it easier to stem your temper.

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Control your emotions bro and not your emotions controlling you. If you become succesful on this, you can safely say you're already matured.

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1.go into a quiet room.

2.take out a piece of paper.

3.write how you feel.

4.put it in a envelope.

5.DONT mail it

that way you let all your emotions out and nobody gets hurt.

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well: according in that you can just try "Counting 10 -1 Back

Wards like this 10,9,8,7,6,5,4,3,2,1 Or listen to some Music

yes very relaxing idea "

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Take a therapy class.

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You have to calm down and think of all of the wonderful things you have in life.......



You are very intelligent.....



I don't want you to get life for stupid sh.it other people are doing... don't let other people have that effect on you..... *** em...

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Ask the person to wait a sec. and walk to your bedroom then punch and ripp your pillow until you feel better. It works for me!

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anger management class.

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walk away from what's bothering you

think of a more pleasant place than where are right now

pray

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visit an anger specialist.

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go get counceling or take an anger management class

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since my mom is black........she'd beat tha " uncontroable temper" right out of me. ur problem is that you were spoiled as a child so she never ed you. you would get a temper when you didnt get what you want. ur used to getting what you want.

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THE VALUE OF THE SITUATION.....AND NO MATTER WHAT IT IS.....IT ISNT WORTH IT........STAY COOL CALM AND COLLECTED AT ALL TIMES.....THERE ISNT ANYTHING THATS WORTH TAKING YOUR PEACE AT ALL......AND THEN YOU WONT HAVE TO ETERNALLY APOLOGIZE ALL THE TIME....WONT HAVE A ROTTEN DAY.....AND YOU CAN FEEL GOOD NO MATTER WHAT THE OUTCOME....OK

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just listen to Wake Me Up Before you go-go by Wham!

that always puts me in good spirits!



ba da da jitterbug!

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Take a deep breath, then walk away.

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Buy a gameboy

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XD do yoga eat lots of chocolate XD

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learn about Jesus, accept him as your savior. Believe He will change your life. worked for me

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take a breath..ask your self WHY you're so angry. if it won't effect you in the long term, it is OK.

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join a sport/ cry/ punch the heck out of a pillow!!

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when u eat some hot object after in this

u dring milk with water

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go to anger manegment thats what i did and it kind of helped

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we're on the same boat dude! least u can do is to divert ur attention to other things.

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Go to the gym punch a ball.Jog and more activties to do let the anger out your you agression out hopes this works!!!!!!!

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you can try anger management classes

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Get professional help.

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Blood pressure medicine.

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http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/anger-management

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just relax yourself by lying on the bed

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Pray to GOD everyday to help you overcome your anger.

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take a deep breath and count to 10, think before yousay anything! and always stop if your about to do somthing wrong

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if you are mad at someone!!!! then write a letter on paper and write wat ever ur feelings are on it and put it in an envolope but DONT SEND IT TO ANYONE!! someone might get hurt (mentaly) it is just a way to express your feelings with out doing anything bad. wat ever you do dont start drugs or alcohal or anything, that can get u into even more troble

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All ways leave everyone alone and find a happy place(sike) just PARTY!!!

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i take a klonopin and go to my bedroom,and shut the door

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1. pull out a big sheet of blank paper and a pen.



2. don't write anything in order, just write, quickly, everything you get angry over. keep writing, write fast.



3. pull out another blank sheet of paper. write very fast, all over the paper, what makes you happy. write out the names of the people you love. make sure to include yourself, if you do love yourself.



do you love yourself? if you hate yourself, put your name on the first list. but i want to say here: you really should be loving yourself, but that sometimes is a long, long climb up the steps of your own personal ladder. you have to realize that you have one in order to start climbing it, isn't that true? what is at the top of it? a feeling of self respect and self love. do you want it? what will you do to get it?



look over your anger list. strike out the things that do not get you boiled over, but just get you feeling a little mad. then look at the things that you absolutely hate. can you stay out of the situations that bring you close to them? stay out. if you hate people, knock them off your list. who are you to determine whether one person is good or bad or worth your hatred? you don't live in their skins.



look over the list of what you love. add more to it. add your dreams, even if you know you can never attain them (such as that i wish to raft over white water and climb cliffs, but i had broken bones that preclude me from ever doing that). why? becasue the vision of them will make you feel happier. they will provide GOALS for you.



ask yourself if you know ways to calm down when you start to get all riled up. if you do not, look into zazen, the art of quiet meditation. go for it. they have meditation sessions inside of buddhist temples (buddhism is not a religion; rather it is a philosophy for living a life of peace inside of yourself and peace to all living things). maybe all it will take you to stop hating is to take a deep breath. if so, do that.



it is called "chilling." i tell my ex whenever we bump into one another and he starts to vent that he has gotta "chill." "chill, will you please?," i say to him. and he thinks about it, and he does.



negative energy drains you--think about it. don't you feel tired when you hate? it is scientific fact that you get more wrinkles when you frown than when you smile.



when you throw away all the little and big things that irritate you because they just are not worth your time and energy, you will begin to smile more. when you approach others with a smile in your voice or on your face or inside of your attitude, your life will get easier and you will realize how much it is worth to live your life well.



good luck.

Answer 249

easy go to thepery and get a therepy bear

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simple just let it go meaning find a place where you can shout

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its called anger management dude y dont u get fixed

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if you are married think about your wife man. temper will change to fear. :)

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just dont think about want other peapel are doing and just minding your own thing ok will if yopu have inthing that you need help with just talke to me on my adress ok it is moniquechantill@.com ok just talke to me if you need to ok will bye:)

Answer 254

just take a deep breath

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what is Donald Duck do to control his temper!!so copy him

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seek medical attention

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by doing yoga you can controll temper.

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you have to find out what makes you relax and just chill

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If you have a situation that u r angry at u should always think it out before u get angry

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punch the mess out ov stuff at home....find a sport to do......talk it out with a friend....take Riddlen.........or just simply beet sum1 up....

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TRUSTMEEE-- Punch your pillow out, or if your mad at someone, print a picture of them and torment it.

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one short fix solution is to find an exit... when you feel like you're going to lose it, just go for a damn long walk and put it all into the footpath... that way you have however far you need to cool down, and that far to come back and think things through...

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Kobe????? your not really him right well just take a chill pill aka trankcolizer lol. if you really are mad take horse trankcolizer

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bite the back of your own arm on the fleshy part. really hard!

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take a step back and think about the fondest memory you have.

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When you get mad, punch yourself in the head with something hard or sharp or run head first into a brick wall.

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just listen to the advice of friendly yahoo users.

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by saying wu sa

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Have you tried meditation?

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Smoke a joint

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i recommend a psychiatric evaluation as soon as possible!!!

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Ativan! You will never blow a gasket again!

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take a chill pill

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think about something that makes you happy

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meds

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play sports :)

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why control it???????? let it go it releases stress build up. who cares who get hurt.

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Just remember this :

CALM DOWN...!

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If you can think about what you want to do, compare it to what you should do.

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try having a religion.. it helps..

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START MAKING MORE SHOTS. And you have teammates, use them!

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IT'S PRETTY SIMPLE!!

TRY TO KEEP URE COOL, TALK TO THE PERSON U'RE HAVING PROBLEMS WITH, IF IT ISN'T A PERSON TRY & TAKE IT OUT IN APALLOW.



YOU'LL SEE THAT URE ENGER IS GOING TO GO AWAY

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SIMPLE. STOP GOING TO DENVER KOBE, DUHHH.

Answer 284

get you a good woman

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find JESUS !! he'll give you the peace that surpasses all understanding !!!!

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JUST ACT LIKE YOU CANT HEAR THEM AND WALK AWAY

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i'll tell u wat i do? i just try to go away frm tat situation n pray... n try 2 remember d gud things tat situation can bring out.

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see a shrink :)

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listen to calm music, like classical or jazz, or read a book.

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i know this one.. mary j

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For some reason anger is believed to be wrong...well, If Mr.Martin Luther King never got angry, maybe there would have been no civil rights Justice, If ceaser chavez never got angry,there would have never been any Farm workers Union,If we didnt know how to have peace and anger we couldnt survive. Anger is a good thing, depending on the issue.....I think your problem is ,you dont know how to direct it. The problem with the court system and Anger/violence is theres a fineline between whats validly "Violent" and whats Validly "Justified aggression" or something like that. Just becareful who you direct your violence at. Remember, Violence or anger or the term "ABUSE" could be defined as ,1.Verbal,2.Financial,3.dominance,4.physical,5.Control. These 5 + areas of abuse can land u in jail,court, and in domestic violence counseling(which I may add is a joke considering it takes 2 to tango. Now If you yell at a person, this can be considered abuse but, what if 2 people, male & female, are yelling at eachother and theres only words exchanged but the police are called? 75% of the time the male will be arressted and charged with verbal abuse which can easily be called mistominor spousal battery. you will then be most likely convicted & send to domestic violence classes, it makes no sense considering 2 people were verbaly being ABUSIVE.It's like sending an alcaholic to aa & teach him how to quit drinking but yet, they send u home to the alcaholic that you were fighting with...why does only one person have to attend court ordered classes? it's beyond me and there needs to be refom. What they try to teach adults about anger should start in grade school. The point is , these classes try to teach grown people how to act after there adults which most likely never becomes successful. The statistics would say otherwise ,fact being, they use the numbers of convited who finished the class. BUT, does the behavior continue after the "offender" has completed class or is th D.V. Class a joke? I know alot of people will have a problem with my view but if they were to look at the big picture, i'm sure my point would be valid.

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IT SO SIMPLE,MEDITATE DAILY FOR 15MIN

Answer 293

First step is to go see your doctor and check if there's a physical reason for this. There could be, you got to check it at least.

I've felt like that at times, I know what you mean.

Sometimes, with men, depression can come out as anger.

So you may want to check down that kind of avenue, talk with your doctor.



A lot of that feeling I had during panic attacks, and I realised it was when I felt threatened in some way.

And something had happened to make me extremely angry, and I didn't know really how to cope with it. I was taught to argue, and lash out, and fight when I was growing up. Sometimes, those skills come in useful, they aren't all bad.

They are part of our survival instinct.



It's when they kick in at times when they aren't useful that's a problem.

Plus it's coping skills learned earlier in life, that are not useful to you any longer.



Many people, including psychologists, told me to get my anger out by punching pillows, and such. Yet I found those kind of techniques made me feel more angry, and frustrated.

In fact, I felt more anger, than I did before. So I'd say generally those kind of 'therapeutic techniques' do not work.



What did work for me, was being very aware of myself and my feelings. So that if I felt a tiny bit of anger coming on, or anxiety, panic, other feelings too, like helpless in a situation; I'd take note of that. Remember those particular feelings; then when I felt them a little I would 'redirect' myself. In other words, I'd find something else to do, rather than focusing on whatever was in front of me, or those feelings.



Physical exercise helped a lot. It gets out that built up energy, and directs it. So you could do a sport you like. I know a lot of men who run or jog. Myself, I did Tai Chi which made me focus better. It helped train my mind too, as well as doing something physical. Plus it is more calming. So you may want to consider doing something physical that uses energy, but is also calming, soothing; rather than one that gets you pumped up more.



The important thing is to relearn how you react to things that you now react in anger too. Change the way you think.



Instead of saying, "That makes me angry, She/He/You make me angry" Say "I feel angry" Or say, "I reacted with anger" (or whatever feeling you have. "I feel frustrated") Become aware of situations that you react in anger to. Consider whether to stay in these situations, and rework how you react; or whether to get out of them.



When I say, redirect yourself, I mean, find something else to do, and something else to focus on. Have a plan made out of what you will do when it's time to redirect yourself. Know that you are in control. You can choose to do something else, think something else. So when you feel your 'blood boiling' and feel irrational, or like lashing out; get out of that situation, go do something, a hobby you have, jog, go for a walk, use the energy in a constructive way.



If you find you start obsessing about a person or incident that 'made you angry', reword it, to 'I felt angry'. Leave that situation. Find another thing to occupy you. Stop trying to solve a problem there and then. Accept that there may be no solution, or it may take a while for something to be solved, improve.



You may have to do some real soul searching about what is frustrating you, what brings up feelings of anger; in order to recognise how you behave and how stay out of those situations, and/or relearn how to deal with those situations. A therapist can help with this, but I'd make sure you go to someone who is experienced with this. I think too much psychoanalysis can be actually negative. You need practical ways to deal with this.



Also, you can use relaxation techniques, deep breathing, listening to soothing music on headphones, do anything that calms you down. Do it regularly. That means doing things inherently calming. (not doing things that work you up like contact sports. that can create more anger and frustration. until you know how to handle anger better.) Team sports are good I think for anger and frustration, and they involve cooperation with others, and with authority like a coach or captain. Any team work, involvement with other people towards a goal will help you. Keep in mind about cooperation, and compromise, rather than winning or losing. Stop thinking about life in win or lose terms.



Do some charity work. Maybe run a marathon to make money for a charity. Get involved in charitable works like that, and in charities that you can use your energy and skills. Charity can be towards the environment for instance. Make it one that won't just get you caught up in being angry again, say if being with people or taking care of people or animals makes you angry or frustrated, start with charities for other things, like helping with forests, or beach clean ups.

Make it something meaningful, with a purpose.

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better involve yourself in to religious activities be you a christian or a muslim.by becoming closer to your God you might overcome your anger and frustrations.

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You could always try anger management, Or see a Therapist I would also talk to your Dr. about IT you may need to an anti depressant. They aren't always for depression they help in other ways too but you do need to get it out. Get a big punching bag, I got my son one when he was younger,

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SMOKE A BOWL!

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its not my problem..... figure it out

Answer 298

you can punch a pillow

or take up a very active sport like boxing!!

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you need to have sex

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Get professional help.



One thing the counselor is going to tell you is that your anger/rage is really fear. We are afraid we are going to lose something we already have or not get something we want and that fear comes out in anger. 99% of the time, that's what it will turn out to be. Once you confront what it is that you are afraid of not getting or losing, you won't have that rage anymore.

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get a punching bag!

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you don't

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get a punching bag, and punch it like heck when you are angry. i do that, and i got so mad one day that i broke my finger punching it without gloves...





(remember to wear gloves lol)

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Whenever you feel angry breathe deeply and count slowly to ten before doing/saying anything.. this should calm you down enough to stop you doing anything you'd regret.

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smoke dope,, you'll be amaze how melow you are....

Answer 306

try prayer, it works.

try blowin' your top after asking God for help...

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when you find out please let me know . ??

Answer 308

the best way to control your temper is pray for help. Jesus is your only way

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An easy way to do it....



HAVE A BIG SMILE ON YOUR FACE....



Try it and I bet u it will work...



Just imagine how u r being regarded by those who are seeing u with a smile....



THEY DO NOT ANTICIPATE ANGER TO COME NEXT FROM U...



So, don't fail them.......and don't loose that big smile....



REMEMBER ONE THING THOUGH :



When y smile ...u move 7 muscles in your face....

When you get angry....u move 72 muscles in your face...



IT IS YOUR PICK....CHOOSE WHAT U LIKE...



It takes a Fine Gentleman to solve problems & control anger in that context while being CALM & GENTLE...



People will like u for it, where as the same people will dislike u with anger...



Take it EZ and count from 1 to 10 when something upsets u and immediately Place the smile on your face...



It is a GOOD HABIT...and u will get used to it & like it later on...

Answer 310

Maybe you should improve your attitude and not try to play the race card wherever you go.

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All this supplement don't really help with your anger, its just suppress it. Best way to control your anger is by getting a gun. I know it sound idiotic, but hear me out. You're a smart person because at least you know that you have an anger management issue, so that is a start. All you have to do now is get yourself a gun and then every time you feel like lashing out on someone you can always visualize shooting them, but since you are conscious about your action you should always think of the consequences. So in time you can just deal with it and let it go.



P.S I take my anger out at paper target, it help alot.

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idk go to anger management class.