help me please, i need help!!!?

Question

okay, for some reason my life sucks soo bad! i really need advice on what to do! okay lets get this outta the way-i self harm. and im always like "y try anymore?" at school, everyone notices! teachers and students. most of the time i burst out crying 4 no reason! at school-on the bus-anywhere! um and my counselor has talked to me the other day, but i wont talk 2 hur at all! at sometimes i want to tell my parents so they will send me to a psychiatrists(that is how bad it is) because i fell i may hurt myself badly-im sure you no what i mean by that-! and then sometimes i think "no, they wouldnt understand-they would be disappointed" and dstuff like that. i usually am the girl, when every1 else is laughin and havin a good time in P.E., im sitting alone crying. and when ppl ask wats wrong....i say "nothing...im okay" when really i just want some1 2 no, im upset and help....um do i have like some kind of mental illness? if so, will you explian it?


im 14 years old....if that may be important.


btw, um i dont think anything traumatic has happened to me...i mean the biggest thing is 1 of my friends got in alot of trouble this year, with drugs, but i dont think that would upset me.


i cant make friends, because, i am basically a nobody, and i mean who would wanna b my friend!?!


no sexual *or any kind of* abuse at all!!!


um, plz dont say life will get better, ppl have told me that b4, and guess what, they didnt get better, actuall every thing got worse....and my life will never be better!!


yes, i cry all the time 4 something sooo unimportant, and then l8r i cant even remember why i cry...and i cant talk to ppl because they wont understand and i dont trust them...i do talk to one of my friends! she goes through the same sh*t i go through and she understands, and somehow everything wrong with me is also wrong with her, so i trust her.


help me, i need help, i do cut myself, and other stuff, but i feel like im about 2 cut now, if i dont get help, and i havent cut in about a week, instead i just scratch alot, but its not the same! also, if ya know how to get rid of scars by in the morning that would be great. i just need help, plz, and ive been thinking about going to a therapist, but i really dont want to, but i will if i really need to.

Answer 1

Hey, I know how it feels. I used to go to the Psychiatrist and I used to cry out in the mid air and never knew what's bothering me. I tried drinking pills that my Doctor gave me but that just scared my best friend so I had to stop taking it because she says there's nothing wrong with me.



First of all, if you really think about something sad. Stop and think about why others get so sad in the first place and like why the hell Am I doing the same mistake. I mean I also didn't get abused by any means. So I really don't see the reason why to cry and cut myself anymore.



I also have a family problem of course but I get by, by telling myself jokes about it. I mean, it's not that hard but I'm not telling you to be numb as hell. Just saying that you need to know what's the reason behind your tears and DEAL with it. Fix it.



I want you to breathe. Stop thinking about problems. Then questions yourself. Why would I cut myself? Something like that.



I even tried to get 3 boyfriends at once? tried it because I thought it would be a big revenge for my ex but end up just hurting myself more since I felt close to them. I cried and I was like calling up my best friend and told her I had fun getting Broken Hearted but for some reason. I learned to handle Break-ups. :) Not by crying. By fixing my friendship.

Answer 2

I used to feel the exact same way. I could never go so far as hurting myself (not a big fan of blood). I worked through it by writing poetry. Open yourself up with a pen and paper. It doesnt have to be poetry or a story or anything. Just write whatever comes to mind. You may be surprised. Once you get the worst of it out (if this does work for you) write a letter to your mom telling her what's going on. You need to let her know. She's your mother and she loves you very much. I'm sure she's noticed what's going on with you, but she just doesn't know how to deal with it.



If you feel like you can't give her the letter, put it in an envelope marked MOM and leave it somewhere she will find it before you go to school. Good luck sugar. I'm not going to tell you it will get better, b/c that always made me even more upset. I will tell you that you have friends and family that love you (even though I never understood why mine did) and will be there to help you. You are a strong, independent person. AND you DO DESERVE help! You need to talk to someone about this.



Good luck.

Answer 3

You know hon, the cause of depression can be a chemical imbalance, and it's a physical/brain issue -- not something we just create! So, if this is the case, you need to see your doctor.



There is nothing wrong with asking Mom to make an appointment because you feel you may be depressed.... let her know you need help, because you don't know where else to turn.



I hope you will. You deserve help.

Answer 4

You are suffering from depression - don't worry its very common for teenagers to get it (most people just don't talk about it) - if you google 'depression teenagers' you will find out its really common and you are not unusual at all.



You definitely need to see a psychiatrist because you are important and you need help. Please stop cutting - you will be glad to stop because it means no more scars.



I was depressed due to family problems when i was about your age and i went to a psych - it helped me. You really need to go - cutting is serious and needs to be taken seriously. Can you organise one today? Also do you know a counselling phone number you could also call to speak to someone?



Good luck.

Answer 5

I am not a doctor or mental professional of any sort, but being at your age, you may have undue concern of how your parents will feel. Your parents love you, and if you tell them the truth, they will want to help you, and they won't be disappointed. They should be proud that you have the courage to open up to them. Please don't hurt yourself. At your age, things are confusing, and emotions run high. Weather or not you believe it, you can trust some adults. Seek out the one you feel comfortable with, weather it be your Dr., a police officer you know, but please get help.

Answer 6

it just sounds to me like you have really bad anxiety or depression and need to take medicine for it . If that is whats wrong with you then the only thing you can do is tell your parents even if they wont understand your feelings they will still help you .

Answer 7

u probably have bipolar disorder