Question:
Why is change so hard?
guy
2008-09-09 11:36:11 UTC
For me the smallest change feels like I'm moving to the other side of the world (for example). Why can change be so hard?
Seven answers:
ShtsNGigglez
2008-09-09 11:44:05 UTC
Maybe you're just the kind of person who likes to have everything just so.



If it's bothering you that much you should see a therapist.
Pete
2008-09-09 17:43:43 UTC
Our physiologically doesn't not manage change all that well. It increases bodily and mental stress, and doesn't matter whether it's a "good" or a "bad" change. Physiological and psychogical measures often show the same amount of stress whether the change is the death of a spouse or getting married.



Often, we don't know what factors will come with a change, so we have a hard time preparing. Many people also tend not to trust themselves and want to set up fixes before they can identify the new problems, which is impossible.



Also, very few people have practiced skills in relaxation and problem-solving, so increase their vulnerability to change in general, and the unexpected in particular.



If you're like most kids, too, none of the decisions for these changes were up to you.



Finally, humans often focus on their losses when a change comes, and that fixation pulls our energies and attention away from learning what is new and how to effectively respond.



Keep whatever you can the same: Stay in contact with good friends, find some foods that will be the same; find other Americans to socialize with when you arrive, etc.
Elena
2008-09-09 11:45:16 UTC
Things change. Its a fact of life. Your not here to stop things from changing you are here to manage yourself as best you can while things change around you.



Look at it this way the thoughts that you were thinking yesterday are not the same thoughts that you have been thinking today. You dont dress in exactly the same clothes all of the time, and if you wear a uniform there are some times during the week and at night when you dont. Conversations that you have with friends are different, people that you see on the way to school are not always the same people. Teachers dont always teach in the same manner. Your parents have changed over the years and so has everyone else. Just relax and manage the changes as best you can.
Yam King 7
2008-09-09 11:46:51 UTC
I'm right there with you on this sometimes!

You have actually learned a valuable insight; that change can be hard on folks sometimes.



Don't pray for an easy life, pray to be a strong person.



Change is hard for me because I fear the unknown or I fear losing what I have.



I have seen old folks who don't work anymore get so upset because the mailman came late. Their life is so boring that a late mailman can upset them. This teaches me a lesson:

I will have daily disciplines of exercise, reading, visiting friends, etc. to keep my brain fresh and more able to handle change.
answerqueen
2008-09-09 12:12:16 UTC
People are used to the things staying the same. So therefore change is difficult for them. Some changes can be a god thing. Accept the changes happily and it'll all be better.



Good luck and best to you
?
2008-09-09 11:49:42 UTC
Because its not what you're used to. It's different and requires a little learning, adjustment, and rethinking on your part. Remember, change is a good thing.



All the Best
Darlene
2008-09-09 11:44:02 UTC
For some people change is easy and welcome. It just depends on your personality. I know people that are constantly changing things because they become bored easily and have to have constant change. If change bothers you that much, you seek professional help.


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