how do i ask and tell my friend for help and that i need help?

Question

im relly scared and confused i asked my friend if he would take me to the ER if i dont get better and he siad we would hang out and never did hes super busy w/ college but now i really need help im cutting myslef many times a day and they are egtiing deeper im having suicidal thought trouble sleeping and crying many times a day i also at some times hear voices in my head and tonight i started baning my head in a door i know i really need help my mom said itll pass but its been going one for 3 or 4 weeks now and getting worse by the day, ive sufferd from depression and self harm in the past. i have 1 friend that i trust and think can help me but how do i tell him i dont want to freak him out or should i not tell him and listen to my mom and hope this passes and i get better? or should i try and go thry this alone and not ask for help?

if so how do i ask w/ out freaking him out?

Answer 1

I really hate to say this, but it WILL NOT PASS. Your mom is saying that because she is scared, and I know you want to believe it because you are scared too. But mental illness like you have is very, very serious, and the chances of you trying to commit suicide are good (I'm guessing).

Your friend may be busy with college, but he hasn't forgotten you. He probably feels helpless. And he probably figures that you will contact him when you need him.

And so you do now. A lot. And if he gets scared and worried, then so what? You need someone to be worried for you other than yourself. Pass that burden on to someone who has less to deal with. It is time to be selfish. Call him right now and tell him what you need. If he isn't there or can't do it, then don't give up. Go to the ER by yourself--take a cab if you have to--or show your mom your cuts, show her this post, and say "I need to be somewhere where I cannot hurt myself, and I need you right now."

You're doing a wonderful thing for yourself by trying to get help. Just keep pursuing it, and you WILL get better, once you get help.

No one can go through this world alone. No man is an island. Asking for help makes you stronger.

Answer 2

Problems like this don't pass on their own. You need to talk to a professional therapist, and you need to get to a hospital by any means you can. If you trust your friend, then you need to call him.



Just remember, anything that happens in your own mind you can control. Depression is serious business, and you need someone who can help you figure out what's causing it. The voices can be scary, but they can't hurt you - the cutting can though, you need to keep yourself from doing that. What are you thinking about when you're cutting? Is it a release or is to hurt yourself?



You sound like you're very afraid of yourself, and that can be so debilitating. You have to remember that at the end of the day, you are in control of everything you do. Your thoughts might fight you, but you are always stronger.



There really isn't much I can do for you over the internet. You need to call your friend, and you need to get professional help. Good luck - you can feel better, you just have to take the right steps toward it, and you just need the right people to help you along the way.



Update #1:

The voices don't own you. You made them, they have to listen to you. If they tell you to cut, tell them to go straight back to hell. That makes you in control.



You really need someone outside of your mind to talk to about this, go to the hospital. Get a cab, walk, whatever, just get there. You can fight this.



Update #2:

Don't be afraid to get better. The world that this sickness is keeping you from is a beautiful place. You can and will be happy without cutting yourself. Get yourself to the hospital, or like someone else said, you can just call 911. People are out there to help you, reach out to them.

Answer 3

You need to get off this computer and tell your Mom that with or with out her you are going to get help. What you are describing does not just go away and your Mom needs to get her act together and be a Mom, and if you have enough together to post this you can get your self to a hospital ER that has mental health facilities, if you don't know any other way call 911.. and don't wait, and don't lay this on a friend, this is not going to just pass so go right now and get the help you deserve. YOU GO GET HELP NOW ! ! !

Answer 4

you dont need a help from one you need from lot other people in your community. Sharing your views with other people around you is a good idea, but some time going into religion does help you alot.



Psychiatric Therapy is another solution but hey dont take it hard you sick big time, human brain is a big working box. some time you can heal with it and some time you dont, so better getting help from experts how to deal with it. Your life is given to only once and watching this beautiful world is only for once. I hope God will help you to heal your pain, telling a friend by your self no good i think until your mother tells him some thing about you.



But all i can say go to your GP for help.

Answer 5

You need to march yourself down to the hospital and see a psychiatrist NOW.



This is NOT going to get better on its own. Your mum might have good intentions but really no experience in dealing with mental illness.



Think of it this way. If you were having chest pains, you would go to the hospital. If you were having stomach pains, you would go to the hospital. Right now, you are having severe psychological problems. You need to go to the hospital. There is hope.

Answer 6

If this has lasted this long you must get help before you spiral totally out of control. Have you told your mom that you are hearing voices? If not she needs to know it. Cutting yourself has to stop before you do major damage. Please call your friend if your mom wont take you to the hospital. Just tell him truthfully what is happening and why you need to go. If nobody will help you then call a crisis line. goodluck

Answer 7

Is your friend a doctor? If not then why would you ask him? You should be talking to someone in the mental health field. There are places that will help you 24 hrs a day.

Answer 8

You are psyching yourself a little too much. Dont be too dependant on your friend. Look out for some hobbies like reading etc. Watch some movies... Go out and mix around with people... don't keep telling yourself that you have a depression problem... This will pass no doubt, but you need to make a positive effort on your part.

Answer 9

http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Cutting-Yourself



Contact the Suicide Prevention HELP!Line by dialing 211 or 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255).



are you between the ages of 15-25?

http://www.schizophrenia.com/earlysigns.htm

Answer 10

Tell your mother that you really need to go to the hospital. Show her where you cut yourself and tell her that you are NOT playing.