whats wrong with me, am i a loser?

Question

Am i a loser?

I feel a loser right now, maybe you guys can justify or refute my reasoning.
I'm chronically depressed, on wellbutrin 300mg and ive smoked weed everyday for four consecutive years. Without it i cant eat or sleep,
I'm 22 now and I haven't had a girlfriend since the end of high school.
I've tried dating 3-4 other girls, and only had sex with two of them.
But I never really connected with any of them.
It seems like my life has random transitions into good and bad.
I'll get on Dean's list one semester, and fail three classes the next.
But i swear I've put the same amount of effort in both semesters.
Sometimes i'll excerise constantly, but i get depressed very easily
which leads to me isolating myself, smoking weed and watching tv
I just lost my job, i can't seem to keep one or find another one.
I get frustrated very easily following directions and have an awful temper.
I rarely like people, i find people like me more than i like them,
but somehow i'm always the one who has to call to make plans.
Thoughts?

Answer 1

Yes but not as much as me

Answer 2

I'm no shrink but I have recently gone through a hard time myself and I'm 22 so I like to think I can relate. Right off the bat, you are too hard on yourself!! You're only human. You're not a loser, every emotion and feeling you have ever had, someone else has had about themselves, they are just better at hiding it. Don't isolate yourself or your pain. People are more understanding then you think. Smoking weed isn't the best idea, it affects people differently, particularly if it's a daily occurrence you are most likely addicted and withdraws are why you cant eat or sleep. You need to take more time to evaluate how you feel and why you feel it and share what you learn with someone you know you can trust. As for not liking people, you are probably finding their faults and dwelling on them because you fear intimacy. Most likely because you fear being hurt and abandoned.

Answer 3

No, of course you're not a loser. The Wellbutrin isn't doing what it should be doing so you may want to talk to your doctor about changing medications. It sounds to me like you have a serious case of depression and need some relief.

Answer 4

Sounds like you are seriously depressed and I see a destructive pattern here. Are you seeking counseling for your problems?. If you continue to spiral downward like this pattern;you are not going to see a life of fullfillment and you don't need that in your life. My advice to you, seek therapy and get on different medicines.. Its not going to make you less of a person because you are talking to a 3rd party.

Good luck

Answer 5

Your not a loser