Lonely & sad...nothing seems to be working out for me.?

Question

I'm 19 yrs old and just moved (US to Canada). I have no friends here and nothing to do. Right before I moved, I finally found a guy who I REALLY like; we talk all the time, but we can never really be together in the next couple years because he lives 3500 miles away and is going to be studying abroad in countries even further away. Whenever we talk about it I just break down and go to bed crying. He always tells me that if it's meant to work out, it will, but I can't deal with the thought of just being alone. I put up a facade so no one but him knows I'm upset about it.

It just feels like nothing can ever work out. I feel like crap because I'm lonely. I work out a lot because I just want to look the absolute best I can and worry about eating right but I feel like I always slip-up and will never look how I want to.. I'm in-between colleges at the moment and can't choose where to go, because it feels like there's always something missing. I just want something to work out for once.

Answer 1

My goodness, dear. You are certainly thinking about too many things at once. I see you are concerned with

-being lonely

-looking good

-eating right

-missing friends and family

-recent relationship distance

-not being in school

-being sad and crying a lot



I would do this, hon. Get on google and lookup your new community. Just search city and state and see if you can find a community site. This would lead you too local events calendar. Now check out if there is anything interesting for you and go! Get involved in volunteering in your community this is another great way to meet new friends.



Feel better babe and remember you are young so ENJOY it!! You are going to meet a lot of people in your life and you will learn that people come in and out of our lives and there is always the possibility that your guy will eventually see you again and if he doesn't- well, that's ok. Take and give good in every relationship so there are no regrets. I wish you the best and certainly hope you will try the suggested tips above.



Have a Merry Christmas. This should be an exciting one for you since you are in a whole new country. Discover some new customs. Have fun with life!!! Wishing you the very best! -Shell

Answer 2

Yes you sound lonely but you need some really nice friends. You can talk online to pass some nice time in some rooms. May be you are in love with that guy and kind of obsessed to some extend. Listen, i am obsessed about this girl and obsession is the last stage and is kinf bad. I was in the same state like you before but i never knew anything. So i am telling you take your mind of him, i know such things are hard to do but try your best. Keep in touch with him so that you feel nice. Just spend some time on internet. Its another world. Continue with your work out

Answer 3

Give it time things will work out for you. Also there is more than one guy in the world. If you are that sad and lonely why did you move so far away? You need your family at times like this.

Answer 4

Apply to a university and move. You need a change of scenery. At a new school, you will meet other people your age who have also left loved ones. The challenges of college and the new clubs, etc. there will keep you busy. You can keep liking this guy if you want to, but you will find his importance waning as other real life people come into your life. (I went away to univ. loving someone and ended up dating.)

Answer 5

sounds like you need therapy... i'm not saying this to be rude but it sounds like you have low self esteem and social anxiety problems. although, in today's society - i find it strange for someone NOT to be dealing with those issues.