Question:
What Sort of Anxious/Preoccupied Attachment Disorder is This?
Kazia
2011-12-12 03:44:18 UTC
I looked up attachment disorders online because I had suspicions that I had one, and Anxious/Preoccupied Attachment sounds exactly like me, but with one difference. The way people talk about this disorder is always relating to partners and love relationships. But my attachments are always with other women, and not in a partner kind of way. I don't feel an attraction to the people I get attached to in the way of a relationship like a partner, but just a friend. Some say like a mother figure maybe. It's always women, and they are always older than me. It's normally someone who I have put my trust in by telling them about my life, or about problems that I'm having, trials I'm going through. I don't know why I get attached to these women, and I don't want to be doing it either. I just want to be capable of maintaining normal relationships. Most people don't take this very seriously when I tell someone, but I feel very self-conscious about it and just want to understand it, and stop it.
If anyone with a psychological knowledge in this area could give me some insight I would be most grateful.
Four answers:
Nepali
2011-12-12 04:11:43 UTC
dear friend, try once this, when u are going to sleep. count back from 1000 to o very slowly. when you are counting give suggestion i am getting sleepy. i am sure it works you.

thank you all the best
Successor
2011-12-12 03:51:00 UTC
People focus so much on labelling a problem and then looking it up - it makes the situation so much worse!

Was there any trauma growing up surrounding your mother? Something may have affected you, that's why you want a 'mother figure' in your life. You have to look back to find out what it is that's affecting your present, then release and let go to look forward to your future.

You are a very open person and there seems to be a level of vulnerability there which you need to guard against as it could be taken for granted. Just be confident that you are a good person who deserves to love and be loved. It may be that older women are just your preference! Doesn't have to mean anything more sinister.

Meditation may help to release any stress that you are under.

If you relax, things in time will work out perfectly, and you will regret wasting time agonising over things so much.

It sounds like there are anxieties though to do with having a sexual relationship with someone when it comes down to it, so work out your own issues first before embarking upon a relationship - that way both parties will be a lot happier in the long run. Good luck
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2016-12-01 06:23:35 UTC
i think of you're pertaining to easily reactive attachment sickness. i don't be attentive to of a single case the place an accompanied baby has been clinically determined with RAD and there boost into -no- abuse, overlook or different contributing factors in touch. I actual have primary and, in my expert profession, cared for many babies clinically determined with reactive attachment sickness that have been additionally accompanied. all and sundry were in the foster care equipment for years previous to adoption and had suffered abuse or overlook on the palms of their organic and organic mum and dad (and in specific cases different foster mum and dad). i think of there's a piece that try in charge RAD on adoptive mum and dad. I doubt those human beings have ever extremely labored with babies with RAD.
2015-05-16 10:20:19 UTC
i think you need to grow more to be independent and more on self assure and security inside.


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