How to stay positive? Depressed?

Question

Ok I have been really depressed lately. I just lost my job which was all I had, and I know it was all my fault which makes me even more upset. I also dissapointed my parents by losing my job. I don't have a car or any friends to hangout with. I just sit at home in my room all day, not talking to anyone. I tried to stay positive but it's so hard, depression is getting the best of me, it's overwhelming. I don't wanna be like this anymore I feel worthless. I just wanna start a new chapter in my life where I'm actually happy, what should I do?

Answer 1

Hi Brandon, you are not worthless. I sympathise with you so much. I get how easy just staying at home can be, but what helped lift my depression was saying Yes to everything. (not push myself too hard though). Doing things, keeping occupied, doing excercise (AMAZING DEPRESSION BOOSTER!!!) will lift your mood. Seek therapy or doctor's advice if this doesn't work.

"Free Yourself from Anxiety" is a great self-help book too.

I really hope you will be ok soon.

Answer 2

Fighting depression is a full-time job! I would know.



Start with a good diet routine. Avoid alcohol, sugar, soda, chocolate, and those "energy" drinks. Stick to meat, vegetables, fresh fruit, lots of water, and coffee if you can tolerate it. I don't recommend fruit juice - lots of calories, sugar rush and then crash. Not much better than soda.



Exercise if you can. If you can't afford a gym, then take a good long walk. Whatever you can do will help your mood.



If your depression is persistent, see a doctor. Medication can help. Some OTC supplements can help too, but I can't recommend any of them, since they haven't worked for me yet.



Get up early and go to bed at a reasonable time. Take a one-hour nap after lunch if you need to.



Avoid negative people. Tell your parents that you understand why they're upset, but you need them to be supportive. You need to walk out into the world with a smile on your face if you're going to find a new job.



Don't beat yourself up over losing your old job. Everybody makes stupid mistakes and even honest mistakes. Don't be too picky about your next job. It's just a stepping stone to your dream job anyway. You could try temporary jobs or volunteer work, as long as it keeps you busy and relatively happy.



You seem to have a computer. Chat with people online when you're lonely. There are health sites that discuss depression, which is a serious disease, not a mood you can just snap out ot.

Answer 3

Fixing your personal problems is probably your only chance for a solid cure from this feeling, unfortunately. However, I could certainly attempt to help you remain relatively positive until you can. I was in a horrible state of depression maybe 6 years ago and for the longest time I was, well, you. I couldnt find anything to keep my spirits lifted for any real period of time. I began looking some solutions up, as I imagine you might be doing right now and the one thing I found that helped ENORMOUSLY was exercise. I'm this scrawny little thing too, exercise was never my thing, and frankly still isn't. But it helped for the time until I was able to pull myself out of my funk. Gave me a couple of muscles I never had before either. There's some science behind exactly why it helps so much, but I have long since forgotten it. I'm sure you could look it up on Wikipedia or something though. I never had much exercise equipment in my house, and its expensive, Im sure you know. I ended up settling for a pair of 5 lb. dumb bells (one for each arm, obviously). Spent maybe 10 bucks in all. From there I focused that depression into anger, which comes easy to me, I'm not sure if it does for you, and then I numbed that anger out by channeling it into the dumb bell's I was lifting. I just kept lifting and lifting until I got tired or the pain went away. I was doing this for a good hour or so at times. It starts to bring you into your own little world and somehow the hurt just kinda goes away for a while. It's rather strange, honestly. I'd definitely try it out.

Answer 4

Overcome your Depression Without Medication

Answer 5

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The first guy stole my answer. lol Okay along with meditation then. Well meditation is good because it gives your brain a break from all the feelings. You don't let anything in. And nothing comes out. Just lay there on your bed and meditate. Try and do absolutely nothing. Don't judge anything. Don't think about your life. Just lay there and dream it all away. Meditation is very healthy for your brain and will help you stay positive. Because you are letting in less of the bad feelings when you meditate. The key is when thinking about too many stressful things it lets in too many bad thoughts. So the simple solution is to just stop thinking and just relax. Thats pretty much what meditation is. And after your done you totally forget what was bothering you. I love meditating when I feel down. Just don't think about anything. lol Its really easy and feels good. Grab an mp3 player if you wish and play some relaxing tunes. Id prefer Pink Floyd and mellow bands like that. When meditating. You just gotto realize. That sometimes the best way to deal with things is to just not deal with them. And thats what takes your mind off of everything. Tips on staying positive throughout the day. Well considering when depressed it is hard to. You really just need the change of mind set. It doesn't exactly mean that "you have to stay positive" because staying positive is not the key. It helps. But you can still be negative as long as you aren't serious when your doing it. For example when I say I hate my life. I really don't, But at the moment im just pissed so it comes out. This makes you normal. But you don't have to walk around a different person. Just don't let the world get you down. Watch funny shows when you feel sad and don't listen to sad songs. See the difference? One makes the depression worse. Infact I never understood why people listen to sad songs when they are already sad. As if its gonna make them feel better. You need something that makes you happy. Personally I like watching tv shows like george lopez and you know. All those good funny ones. Cause they make me laugh and make me realize. Hey. Everyones life is hard. But you gotto laugh about it and just realize. No matter how bad life is. Ya just gotto make the best of it. Instead of making the worst of it. Which is what people do when they are depressed. They only speak of the bad without mentioning the good. They only think about the bad things in life and if that think of more of these bad things more then they do good. Its like a big circle. You just get used to the idea. Like right now. You are used to the idea that your depressed and life isn't very interesting right now. Right now im used to the idea that my life still sucks. Although its not that bad. I have a TV. I have food. I have more then what a lot of people in the world would kill for. Look at other countries. Hey. Just make the best of it bro. Thats all you gotto do everytime. Don't let other people get you down in the world. Just think to yourself "oh well, I wasn't born to please that bi*ch" when your girlfriend hates your guts. lol just some dumb example. Its really hard to explain bro. But im sure you get the idea. You just gotto make the best of it. Tell yourself "id doesn't matter how bad the world is. im happy. this is me, not them"

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Hi Brandon,



The best thing you can do is to find new things that you enjoy. The only way to do that is to go out and try some things. I find that simple things can bring me joy. Like going for a walk or going to the store. I find it interesting to observe people when I am out doing the regular everyday things that I have to do. You can strike up conversations with people and you might find that you are actually helping them as much as they are helping you. It is really tough to create new routines, but that is what it is going to take to get you into a better state of being. All you have to do is try.

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Answer 9

I'm in the same situation as you my friend! I've had some big depressions, but they made me stronger. I'm still in my cage, confused and lost. But I know that to find yourself, you first have to lose yourself. I never want to be what i was though... I now like feeling worthless somehow.. Somehow, I accepted it. You're a pretty awesome guy I can tell! Like I know I am too.. you know.. somehow I am happy, knowing I don't have to be happy. =). Its all processing, and maybe somehow all planned yourself!

Answer 10

Hey I have had depression too I know exactly how it feels. People who haven't had it can't understand how awful it feels. I'm sorry. But remember that God made you you for a reason and that anything is possible thru him.

Answer 11

You are not worthless! You have a purpose in this world, you just haven't found it. You're destined to do something great with your life! Trust me, it will get better!

Answer 12

Go out , hit the town find a new part job and save up for a pet as they make great company ?

Answer 13

Go out and serach for a new job get a new hobby do something that you enjoy doing .