Is it okay for my partner to watch porn every day, breaking promises with it and doing it even when we have been intimate the same day?

Question

I do not want answers from uneducated males, I was real answers from intelligent people or from a psychological view, my partner watches porn every day, even when he promises he wouldn't for 2 while days! So we can have an insanely spicy Sunday all day, but he still end up doing it ... He even watches porn without masterbating aswell, and watches it and masterbates the same day he knows he will be doing things in bed with me or After we have already done stuff that day ... Help please, I told him he needs to cut down, we have sex 3 times a week, we don't live together Nd sometimes I make him ejaculate 1-4 times in those days, he knows I have him doin it so much, I make videos for him and take nudes for him alway, he is 23, it's worrying me and it makes me feel horrible about myself aswell and it is affecting my feelings in this relationship, but I love him so much

Answer 1

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Answer 2

There are a few parts to the answer:

1. Porn isn't just about orgasm. For some (many) men, it is a mindless fluff entertainment. Some men watch porn and masturbate because they are bored. If you have a few minutes, you might flip through a fashion magazine. He watches porn.

2. Many men (and women) use orgasm as stress relief. He's doing it again because he needs stress relief.

3. If he's doing everything in bed that you want, why does he need to cut down?

4. When you don't live together and only see each other three times a week, it's understandable that he would take care of himself on other days.

4. For guys, masturbation to porn can just be a non-emotional way to take care of a bodily need.

Answer 3

There are a few parts to the answer:

1. Porn isn't just about orgasm. For some (many) men, it is a mindless fluff entertainment. Some men watch porn and masturbate because they are bored. If you have a few minutes, you might flip through a fashion magazine. He watches porn.

2. Many men (and women) use orgasm as stress relief. He's doing it again because he needs stress relief.

3. If he's doing everything in bed that you want, why does he need to cut down?

4. When you don't live together and only see each other three times a week, it's understandable that he would take care of himself on other days.

4. For guys, masturbation to porn can just be a non-emotional way to take care of a bodily need.

5. Yes, #4 is as unromantic as it sounds. And that's where the problems can start. It sounds like the real problem is a lack of sexual intimacy. Sex has just become mechanical for him. He looks at naked pictures and masturbates. That's sex to him. But that has spread to his sex life with you. Having sex has become naked pictures and the number of times you make him orgasm. It's understandable that this would be unsatisfying for you. The real problem isn't the masturbation when he isn't with you. The real problem is that he's treating you like his personal porn star to masturbate to, except that it is terribly impersonal.



Couples therapy might help, but this may not change easily. It might be better to end this.



Talk to him and try having some intimate cuddling that doesn't involve orgasm. I don't mean grab his penis but stop before he orgasms. Cuddle on the couch and talk.

Answer 4

Well some guys just like porn and it doesn't matter if they have a ton of sex. They just find something really appealing about it but however, your partner seems to have an addiction which is something you need to address with him. I think it's okay for a guy to watch porn every now and then but not every single day though.

Answer 5

watching porn is just the outward reflection of an unbridled sex life

.............sometiems peopledo these things simply because we can and there is time for it. An uncontroled sex life is quite dangerous, because one day there wont be any movies to watch and the man who needs that thrill to get it on will be seeking after the innocent and the unnaware..............

for me if my husband was watching porn..............I would smash every video he owned and would then presernt it to him...in fine style.....telling him that...

" if he ever brings an X rated video in the house...i will burn it upon finding.

and if it is a rental.....he will just have to pay to replace it....but there wouldnt be any X rated videos in the house....

if he watched porn on the computer...the computer would be smashed to bits.....right before his eyes....I would take a sledge hammer to it and it wouldnt blink ever again of power.



and...if my man wasnt satisfied with our love making..I would pack his bags and tell him to hit the road......

that he could be replaced by a more moral individual....



when a man has to masterbate when he has a woman around..............he is still a little child that has no boundaries sexually.........and is NOT mature enough for a relationship



get rid of him or put some rules down......



being a pranskster that I was..............I would invite the whole neighborhood to burst thro the door when i knew he was masterbating..............and let everyone SEE what this fool does everytime he has a dark corner

they need to make a body ejaculating machine that attaches around the hips.....of men and work continously thro the day........then the darn fools would begin to tire from the exhaustive multiple daily ejaculations...and be too tired to watch the porn.......



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Answer 6

The question here is , if you are not comfortable with his constant masturbation then you should approach him and tell him that it bothers you. Sex can become an addiction whether watching porno or masturbating or constant sex, if it becomes a necessity and he must watch porno all the time he is an addict and it can interfere negatevaly in a normal relationship. My advise is tell him that you are concerned and that it bothers you and that if he respects you then he should either stop, and seek professional help because there is a much deeper problem that should be explored to get healthy or be able to have a healthy relationship. If he refuses then is up to you to decide to end it or to put up with it because is your life and no one can live it for you.

Answer 7

Trust me when i say it would not be ok if he stops. Then he will not satisfy you the way he use to. think of porn as a charger and you're partner a phone when he's fully charged you can stay on all night. Besides no woman want a man without skills and experience and i assure you as long as he's not gathering them from being physical with another woman, i don't see why you shouldn't be okay with him watching porn.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I'm not a man, but here it goes. Humans have biological functions. There actually isn't any need for you to send him nudes and videos and stuff; I personally wouldn't. But he is going to touch himself. His brain is already wired to do that; reversing that would be painful and unnecessary. Porn is the male version of romance novels; if he wanted to stop you from looking at any kind of literature, I'm sure you'd resent him for it. That's some kind of mind control. The problem here really seems to be your compulsion to try to control him, to make him prove his love to you by not masturbating to porn. You're trying to change his routine. A routine is a hard thing to change. My husband and I have been happily married for a decade; we look at porn together sometimes, and sometimes we look at it on our own, and feeling angst about it is not something we do. You have wasted angst.

Answer 10

The 'good' thing about porn for some guys is that they don't have to even think about consideration for their partners. Unless you also enjoy watching porn, I would back away from this guy. An addiction to porn this early in his life is not a good sign. Stop making videos of yourself, eventually he will share them with a billion of his close friends. I would start dating other men. the one you've got is not likely to change.

Answer 11

Tell her that Mental Health is only given highest predominance and emphasis here. Also tell her that nobody is now willing to listen to anybody's story. Such quarrel between partners is common before marriage. It is not unusual. Moreover, your sentence does not require any more points or comments. If you want some good solution, don't feel shy or hesitant to ask any number of questions here.

Answer 12

Porn is like a curse and eventually he will prefer it to you. Sounds like this already may be the case. Pornography distorts the mind and once those images are engraved into the mind, they are not easily removed. The addiction to sex is a very real addiction. You quit porn - one porno film at a time until you no longer use porn in your life.

Answer 13

he knows you love him and men are always like this pls dont split up over some silly thing as him watching porn watch the film jon don and you will see why a man loves sex in that film so much and his gilfriend splits up with him because of it and she catches him doing it and i think just after he had sex with her too i think does he have a good orgasm with you and does he tell you maybe you should ask him if you ejaculate him good but i think you should watch porn together and watch how they ejaculate each other and find out what make him do it more

Answer 14

It can be an addiction for some people, like gambling. People can stop, though. It may take many tries and stumbles to get there. There's a book called, "Delivered" that is from a religious angle. But it has many accounts from people who were addicted to pornography and how they got free from it.

Answer 15

Of the great apes, only the bobobo (pygmy chimpanzee) is more sexually active. His behaviour is normal for a male 16 - 60 with a high libido.

Answer 16

It's not healthy to wathc porn every day

Answer 17

yes and no many younger boys (15-20) watch porn and jerk off everyday, or a real and true fact is if he jerks off before he has sex with you HE WILL LAST LONGER, yes its true, so take that into prespective.

Answer 18

yes and no many younger boys (15-20) watch porn and jerk off everyday, or a real and true fact is if he jerks off before he has sex with you HE WILL LAST LONGER, yes its true, so take that into prespective.

Answer 19

yes and no many younger boys (15-20) watch porn and jerk off everyday, or a real and true fact is if he jerks off before he has sex with you HE WILL LAST LONGER, yes its true, so take that into prespective.

Answer 20

deep down your heart, you know the answer. Just look at how his actions affect you and find your answer...you feel ______________ so tell him how this affects and hurts you.. you are a loving person whom feels that this is ________ so tell him. You don't deserve getting hurt.



conversation is essential but two need to be in it for things to be dealt with.

Answer 21

No it is not okay. If your partner truly respected you and your wishes! "Breaking promises" alone is disrespect.

Answer 22

Any type is addiction is a spiritual cause.



He can come out of addiction if he include spirituality into his life. We can't leave addictions forcefully, spirituality is the only way out here if you want to come out of your addiction naturally & permanently.



So start spiritual practice ASAP.

Answer 23

Yeah I had also same problem.I didn't know what to do. I did ask to my parents or senior they suggest me to go and consult with any doctor or consultant.Don't waste your time.Please go and consult with your respective specialist doctor they can give you better advice.

Answer 24

I think this is not good for his sexual health

Answer 25

no

Answer 26

no not a way.........