Why am I unable to build a relationship with anyone and cope in job?

Question

I don't live a independent life, I don't find satisfaction in who i am and learn to love it. I feel like I am an outcast. I do not enjoy the things most people do. I prefer to spend my time reading, learning things, computer programs, cycling, swimming instead of spending time with people with drinks in bars or going to pub or disco. I do not find any joy or satisfaction in watching movies or television or staying at home or talking on phone with friends at home. I like to sleep early and wake up early and upgrade myself and get a happy adventure life. I love conversations about jokes, holiday, camping, activities and adventure life. I don't enjoy working - i get stress and fear getting along with people and i am unable to cope and learn in the job. I don't find myself working and coping in the job efficiently and finding ways to earning a living - why i am like that and i don't know how to change my life? I am working temp job and i am unable to stick to full-time job.

I try finding a girl friend but with my attitude and behavior - no girls want to friend me or talk to me. I went to counselors for help and they didn't help me and expect me to help myself to make a living. I find myself becoming more withdrawn from people with each passing day and i don't enjoy myself working and living my life. Life sucks

I need to get a job soon but I'm scared because of a mental problem. Help

Answer 1

It sounds to me like you are putting too much pressure on yourself.



I do this, and it is something that I am constantly battling.



You go to work, you see everyone getting on great, loads to talk about and laugh about and you think, why aren't I like that, that's how I am supposed to be. So you make this as a "should" for yourself.



You see everyone doing really well in their careers and you think, I "should" be like that, I "should" be able to do all those things, but I can't therefore there must be something wrong with me.



Just don't worry anymore about what you "should" be like, nobody is the same. Your a little different, SO? It's not such a big deal, just be yourself and learn not to give a **** about it.

Answer 2

I fear a lot of people here will give a lot of bad advice that will drown out what I am about to tell you but you should defiantly pick up a book called Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki. You sound a lot like I was two years ago and now I married to a model and own several real estate properties and have very big ambitions with my life. I too like to learn, don't like pubs/clubs, hate working (I never have to work again now! thank god!!) and enjoy doing fun activities as well as talking about them.



This book I suggest you to read will help you change your mind about life and work! You mind knows that this is not right, that you are in effect a slave to a system and you want to break out but the problem is you don't know how do that or even that you don't even know that you mind doesn't want to live just for other people to get richer and all things that they want from their life. It's YOUR life, it should be all about what YOU want. This book will help you understand what is going on in your life; trust me about that!



I am also willing to give you help and advice along the way if you need it. My time is limited but I'm sure I can give you a point in the right direction when you need it.



If your willing to give this a try then send me an email at [e-mail] and I will give you some more details and we can talk a little more about it all.



Whatever you choose to do with your life; good luck!

Answer 3

Start your own business, you are different, but it doesn't mean you can't create a living around your personality. You like computers why not repair them or make customized computers etc...find what works for you. You said you love conversations about jokes, camping etc... so at least you have interest. You might have a little anxiety, but you are making steps on your own to improve your life by asking for advice

Answer 4

if you have a mental health problem then you can get something like ssi cuz you cant work, but sounds like you are verging on depression and your negative thoughts about the world are only making it harder to communicate with people, i think that a job would definatley do the opposite of what your thinking, and actually help your position that your in by keeping your mind off of the stresses that you go through, it forces you to be productive, and forces you to talk to people.

Answer 5

At some points in my life im the same,

ill exclude myself from the outside and do my own thing,

it;ll fix itself.

and coping in job,i was never a 5 star in a job,you just need to find something youre into.



change your attitude a bit,and try and start talking to people & making friends.

Answer 6

It sounds exactly like Asperger syndrome. I have it too, it's a mild form of autism. People with AS often find it hard relating to other people because we have trouble in social interaction. We're generally better at learning and reading than we are with people. Keeping a job is often hard for AS people because we find it hard coping in a social situation. A lot of people with AS often want to make friends but our social impairments make us incapable of doing so. I'd recommend seeing a psychologist and mention to her/him that you may have Asperger syndrome. I can't diagnose you but I definitely know the signs. Good luck!

Answer 7

Pray and read bible. Listen to music, go swimming, cycling, movie or see therapist or psychiatrist. All the best