What do you do when you have thoughts about running away?

Question

Ok im having thoughts about running away and i told my sis and she said you could go to crossroads or something and by the way im 14 and one reason i want to is because my mom called me a whore because i have a boyfriend and she said she hated my dads side of the family and they are the one's who raised me and she keeps saying she wants to dump my dad and shes mad cause i love him too and she left use when i was five and the other reason is everyday when i get home from school she make me do chores and my sister 17 and 19 stay home dont even go to school sleeping and doing nothing she makes me do it all if i run away will someone take me in please im dying in this life

Answer 1

Running away is not the answer. I started at age 15 and finally started facing the issues at 30. The funny thin g about running away, the thing I was running away from was me and every where I went there I was. Being a teen ager was the worst time of my life. ON one hand people would say grow up and act like an adult and in the next breath tell you that you were too young to do whatever it was you wanted to do at the time.

But someday you will have wished these days did not go past so fast. Take one day at a time and find something good about each day and work hard at being part of the solution and not part of the problem with whatever is going on around you.

If the home life is really that bad try calling United Way or Teen Support. You may have to call the closest large city to where you live now. There are ways out, other than just running. In Missouri they have a program called Teen Challenge where you can stay until you have enough money to start on your own. If I can be of further help read my profile and email me if you think I can help in any way. God Bless ReggieR

Answer 2

Running away is the worse thing you could possibly do. It will complicate your life in ways you cannot imagine. Not to mention there are predators out there drooling to get their hands on a young girl to control. It's not safe, so please don't.



Frankly I think you're a little young for a boyfriend if that means spending unsupervised time with him. Talking on the phone, talking at school, liking each other - well, that's okay.



Your mom is angry about something and it's not your fault. If she really hated your dad's side of the family, why did she leave you with them to be raised? And - there's worse things than being called an ugly name by your mother. (Maybe she's thinking about how she behaved at 14!)



You can't change how your mother feels, what she says, or how she divides the chores. What you have to change is you expecting MORE from her than she's able or willing to give you. Know this, too - you have every right to love your dad and his family. Sounds like they have earned your love.



But here's the secret: Just don't argue with her. Feel how you do without guilt, love your dad and his family with all your heart, but keep it to yourself. She can't take that away from you.



If you can, talk to your dad and see if there is possibly someplace else for you to live, like with another relative or grand parent. You'll have to be on your best behavior to be taken seriously, and running away would not be considered a smart move just as sneaking around to see your boyfriend would be a mistake.



You may also try talking to a counselor at school and get some advice there.



You are not dying in this life, sweetie, as much as it feels like you are, but you are being seriously challenged with some real problems. I bet you are smart enough and mature enough to look for a way to solve your problems without endangering your life and running away.



Think this through, seek advice from a trusted adult, look for alternate living arrangements, and you'll be making some mature decisions early in life which will serve you well now and later.



God bless you.

Answer 3

I think you need to talk to your mum. Tell her what you wrote in this question and if she dosent want to listen then make her. It sounds like she is having problems of her own and is projecting some of that on to you.



Trust me, at 14 years old you do not want to run away, it wont solve anything in the long run and you could end up with a much worse life. If you really cant make something work do you have grandparents you could stay with for a while or another family member?

Answer 4

From the looks of it hon, there are choices to run away. Your mom loves you and its easy to tell. She doesn't want you dating because "Mommy's little girl" is leaving. She and your father obviously dint get along all that well, but shes is staying with him for you. There is no point in running away from home at such a young age. You'll still have to go to school or your mother and father will be fined or even imprisoned. You cant support yourself and even homeless shelters will force you to return to your home. Churches will take you in but only for a few weeks at a time. Hon your Mama loves you and shes is making you a better woman. You will see this eventually and you will wish you had never ran away from home. Please don't do it everyone at that house loves you and wants to see you succede in life.

Answer 5

yeah, i ran away a few times too, and like ReggieR, every where I went, there i was.



ran away at 18, 20, 22, and now i'm 24, looking to stop running away. running away has lead to my temporary homelessness and current poverty.



chores aren't so bad after i realized that every where i go, chores are going to be there



and lazy people are every where too.



as long as you're not being beaten badly, i don't recommend running away.



running away is especially dangerous for 14 year old girls because you're an easy target for sexual predators and rapists and murderers.



but it's your life and your choice.



--love and respect