Question:
can anyone help? does anyone live with a partner with a mental health issue?
sunny
2010-01-21 02:26:45 UTC
hi, I know you can't dignose without a doctor but is there anyone there who could please give me some pointers?
I have someone in my life who I live with who is a 29 year old male who I have always been slightly concerned about in terms of his mental health. He seems to have 2 sides.
Some times he is calm, rational, good company, kind, generous etc etc and then as if a switch flicks he can turn to being furious, angry, blaming, obnoxious, nasty, insulting. These bad moods can last days, once they even lasted 3 months and there is NO reasoning. He becomes very wrapped up in himself and thinks the world is out to get him and therefore his behaviour is justified, he sometimes even thinks he knows what people are thinking about him and will make things up that aren't even happening! aka extreme paranoia.
he doesn't seem to see how nasty and unfair his behaviour is when he gets like this and it's like he turns into a different person. I will have to be VERY careful what I say so as not to upset him when he's in these moods. Image is also an issue he has.
I have though bi polar but then he doesn't have extreme highs of euphoria and the restlessness that I thought people with bipolar were meant to have. He will nearly always apologise and says he can't help it and that he doesn't know what came over him and will also self medicate with weed which makes him see how abnoxious he has been and seems to almost help him
I know this isn't much to go off but does anyone have any ideas?
Five answers:
Ificouldiwould
2010-01-21 02:35:24 UTC
It sounds like bipolar disorder. It is a very hard thing to live not only for the people who have it but even as much for the people who live with the people who have it. Then again possession is a possibility.
?
2010-01-21 02:39:31 UTC
It sounds like the person you're talking about suffers from Bipolar Disorder. The person does not have to experience the extremes of euphoria and depression. It can be much more subtle and still be accurately diagnosed as bipolar. The shift in mood that you described is a tell-tale sign. The "moods" can last from hours, to days, to even months.



It sounds like you're putting up with quite a burden. If you feel as though you're constantly walking on eggshells to avoid triggering some type of reaction from this person, that's not healthy for either of you.



If it is Bipolar Disorder, then there are several medications that can help. Lithium and Lamictal are proven to be successful in many patients. There are also a number of more recent medications that have just recently hit the market in the USA.



In any event, regardless of whether it is truly Bipolar Disorder or not, self medicating is not the answer, and he should see a psychiatrist as soon as possible. Anything you can do to convince him to see a professional would be of great benefit to both of you. If it's a matter of inability to pay or lack of insurance, research free facilities in your area (through your state, county or local government).
rockyboy
2010-01-21 03:06:02 UTC
I have two family members that are mentally ill, my sister and brother. There is bi-polar1 and bi-polar2, A person dose not have to have manias to be bi-polar. My sister is sweet one minute and an animal the next. She is bi-polar and personality disorder. My brother is schizophrenic. Your friend dose not sound like my brother. You would not be able to be around him if he was schizophrenic. Without medication most of them are dangerous. On a scale from 1-10 without medication a schizophrenia's behavior is 9 maybe 10.You would never question it, you would have to have him locked up on a 51-50. But my sister you described her perfectly. Screams, violent, drinks way to much, blames everyone else. She thinks she knows everything and dose some of the dumbest crap.Try and get your friend into see someone right away.
?
2010-01-21 02:44:21 UTC
There are different types and stages of bi-polar disorder and different types of mania associated with bi-polar. and a bi-polar sometimes can go years without a manic episode and it may only last for a few minutes that you would never notice. Look in his past was he a motor mouth when he was little or was he a little crazy or overly outgoing in school. things like that
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2016-09-29 07:21:39 UTC
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