I saw a therapist for the first time today. My main issue is anxiety, I am anxious about a lot of things but there is one in particular: an unplanned pregnancy. I'm not irresponsible about it; I have been on the pill for 5 years, I take it at the same time every day and my boyfriend and I use condoms every time. I do my best to remember to check the condoms after to make sure there are no tears. There haven't been any so far. My boyfriend has trouble cumming with the condom on, so he usually finishes elsewhere, not inside of me. I would love to do away with the condoms, but I don't trust my pills alone. I also follow a calendar and try to avoid sex on the most fertile days, but not always. Main point, we use protection and I still worry about it, every month. I can't think about anything else. Getting pregnant at age 21 is my worst fear. I would rather find out I had a disease than have to face a pregnancy now. My boyfriend is more than fine using the protection we do, but I don't want my anxiety to ruin our relationship. I also don't want to cut him off completely, since we have been having sex. Abstinence isn't what either of us want. So I talked to my therapist about this. He kind of dismissed it as an issue I need to take up with my gyno. Well, I have and she doesn't say much, just that I need to relax. That doesn't help me, I feel it's an anxiety issue. What should I do? How do I get my therapist to understand that I need help with this? No one should worry this much for no reason. I should be able to enjoy sex like everyone else and understand that I cannot get pregnant with these precautions.