Question:
I am thinking about killing myself.?
Nolan H
2008-05-12 20:34:20 UTC
My life is going downhill very fast. Everything is going wrong. I dont seem to be wanted by anyone, even my own parents. I did not do well in my first year at college and I came home and I've been trying really hard to get a job, but haven't had any luck. My dad is on my *** about everything. I never get a rest from his constant onslaught of remarks about everything I'm doing wrong. It seems like all my friends have forgotten about me or they don't care to hang out with me anymore. I don't know what I want to do at college. It just feels like the world would be a better place without me around. It feels like I am a burden on everyone around me. Please help.
Sixteen answers:
SuzyQ
2008-05-12 21:21:44 UTC
Speaking as a mother who lost a son to suicide, it is a parents worst nightmare. It has been 5 years now and I still can't go more than a few moments without thinking about him. Mostly good memories, but sometimes haunted by the grisley details of the event. My son David didn't have a very good relationship with his father and it tore our family apart.



Get help for yourself, there are people that love and care about you very much, you just need to get through the tough moments, one at a time. They will pass. Good luck to you, I hope you survive!
374170
2008-05-12 20:48:02 UTC
Look Ive been where you are 2 years ago. I mean it was bad get this my dad kicks me out of my house on a Sunday, on Tuesday I get fired from work for being absent too many days which of course was due to the depression and then on a Thursday my boyfriend of 4 yrs decides its not working out, yeah I went downhill. I went bymyself to the hospital and told them I was having suicidal thoughts. I was admitted within the hour. I stayed about a week. Believe me at the time you feel like nothing is worth living. After getting out I was like seriously what the hell was I thinking. This is just a little part of your life, dont let it become the end. I dont think I would of made it bymyself so I advice you to seek help. Whatever your problems are dont let it overwhelm you. Keep your head up this is just temporary. Good Luck.
pynk_deville
2008-05-12 20:52:29 UTC
death is not the answer. i have been where you are. things started going down hill for me my second year of college. fortunately i had the love and support of my family but to me that wasnt enough because none could identify with the way i felt and i had poor coping skills.

my advice to you is to get professional or semi-professional help. it doesnt have to cost a lot there are sliding scales (but most of those places are interns working on getting licensed as professionals).

definately try some of those numbers that the first person listed.

i hope you dont give up on urself. you have made it this far. you may feel like a burden, as did i but you may find that you truley are not.

when faced with depression and suicidal thoughts, its hard to turn to others especially friends because those around you may not know how to approach the situation.

i just hope and pray you hang in there and that you get the guidance you need.

take your time. if you are getting financial aid than slow it down and dont give up completely on college. you may not know what you want to do but guidance counselors can help you with that on campus and dont feel like you need to take a bunch of units each semester take it at ur own pace. slow and steady wins the race.
Goldblum
2008-05-12 20:49:48 UTC
Watch this:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=bNF_P281Uu4



To be honest, Killing yourself is just a burden to everyone around you, gotta pick up the corpse, and all the while you get no honor whatsoever.





Travel the world, see some sites, find a place that you really love, and live there.



You do not have to conform, going to college is not your only option. There are many different things you can do, and you do not necessarily have to be a "bum."
Mary G
2008-05-12 20:49:57 UTC
You need to watch the movie-little miss sunshine---have you seen it?

Listen, killing yourself if never the answer cause that's the easy way out. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger!

Believe me when i tell you that it's better to have the people who are closest to you all over your *** than having them say nothing at all to you. Imagine if your dad just shrugged his shoulders and didn't give a damn what you do?

i'll tell you , alot of people go through many years in college and have no freakin clue what they want to do with their lives.

Hell, i got my degree and still don't know what I want to do with it. You're being too hard on yourself- bottom line!

Trust me, life will get better-just resign yourself to become one tough mother-****** and take your place in this world-no matter what. I send my love and prayers to you!
JOE?
2008-05-12 21:06:32 UTC
I can not add anything else that the others have written so well.BUT i AM ONE MORE PERSON unknown TO YOU THAT CARES ENOUGH TO ENCOURAGE YOU TO SEEK HELP.You have your whole life in front of you and I know that if you just hang in there life will surprise you in many different ways.I have been where you are and sought help,my life is getting better every day.Some days are better then others,but that's the way life is.You will find your purpose in life,you just have to have faith.Good luck son,and may God bless and watch over you.
2008-05-12 20:48:53 UTC
DONT DO IT!!!

i was really upset with every thing about 8 months ago and everything was also going downhill for me. no one seemed to care about me and i just felt so worthless, i almost killed myself buy drinking too much alcohol and taking too many tylenol, but luckly i was revived. PLEASE DO NOT KILL YOURSELF!! things will get better and even if they dont you need to believe in yourself and die proud and believe that you lived your life without the pressure of other people around you, life will give you its happy moments back!



talk to your parents and tell them how you feel, if they love you they will listen...if they dont then forget them! look into your heart, figure out something you would absolutely love doing with your life, and do it! even if its being a beach bum. love your life, it isnt proven, but it may be your only one.
all
2008-05-12 22:04:18 UTC
1. Life isn't that bad, you could be on the streets with nothing eating out of the trash.

2. your parents are on your butt because they care and love you and want you to do well.

3. join the military if you don't want to go to college it will make you change your mind about life being so horrible and they will pay for college so your parents won't have to do it.
2008-05-12 21:00:58 UTC
Dont! Jesus Loves You!!! dont make the biggest mistake of your life you'll never be able to take it back. I understand how you feel, but taking you life is no solution...you might think at the time that it is since you are feeling unloved and nothing is going the way it should be for you...but if you take your life it will be worse. (dont take me wrong, im not trying to preach..just letting you know that someone trully does love you) I dont know if you know Jesus (our Savior) HE LOVES YOU!! Read the Bible if you have one...I know probably you are looking for solutions now that will solve your problems..if you pray I know God will help you. you can also listen to 90.1 FM its a christian radio station. you can contact me at diana_chique@yahoo.com or diana_chique (ym) if you feel the need to talk to someone..i'll listen to what you need to say....also if you are interested I might have an opportunity for you that will solve your financial problems. Whenever you feel alone and life's burden is just too much to carry...just take a moment to pray...He'll be listening..Jesus really loves you!
t001_f4n
2008-05-12 20:47:11 UTC
Hey, you know, you aren't alone. I recently went through almost exactly what you described. I even got really close to killing myself a few times and the time I actually went through with it, it didn't work. I ended up telling my mother who, to my surprise, she actually cared.



I would suggest getting someone to talk to, even if its only a psychologist or a councilor or hell a close friend. But I beg you not to kill yourself.



I am so glad now that I am still alive, two of my friends have tried to kill themselves in the past 3 months, and one succeeded yesterday. Trust me it would have a horrible impact on your loved ones even if you don't think they care.



please talk to your dad, even if you think he wont listen. Just find someone to share yourself with.
Simple
2008-05-12 20:38:57 UTC
Please call the suicide helpline fast. You can check the Yellow Pages or below:



· A depressive disorder is a syndrome (group of symptoms) that reflects a sad mood exceeding normal sadness or grief.

· Depressive disorders are characterized not only by negative thoughts, moods, and behaviors, but also by specific changes in bodily functions (for example, eating, sleeping, and sexual activity).

· One in 10 people will have a depressive disorder in their lifetime, and in one of 10 cases, the depression is a fatal disease as a result of suicide.

· Some types of depression, especially bipolar depression, run in families.

· Depression is diagnosed only clinically in that there is no laboratory test or x-ray for depression. Therefore, it is crucial to see a health practitioner as soon as you notice symptoms of depression in yourself, your friends, or family.

· The first step in getting appropriate treatment is a complete physical and psychological evaluation to determine whether the person, in fact, has a depressive disorder.

· Depression is not a weakness, but a serious illness with biological, psychological, and social aspects to its cause, symptoms, and treatment. A person cannot will it away. Untreated, it will worsen. Under-treated, it will return.

· There are many safe and effective medications, particularly the SSRIs, that can be of great help in depression.

· For full recovery from a mood disorder, regardless of whether there is a precipitating factor or it seems to come out of the blue, treatments with medications and/or electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) and psychotherapy are necessary.

· In the future, through depression research and education, we will continue to improve our treatments, decrease society's burden, and hopefully develop preventive measures.

For further information about depression, please visit the following sites:



Suicide Awareness Voices of Education (SAVE)

http://www.save.org/

APA: Women and Depression (American Psychological Association)

http://www.apa.org/ppo/issues/pwomenanddepress.html

For additional information, you can write or call the following organizations:



D/ART/Public Inquiries; National Institute of Mental Health

Room 15C-05

5600 Fishers Lane

Rockville, MD 20857

National Foundation for Depressive Illness

20 Charles Street

New York, NY 10014

National Depressive and Manic Depressive Association

730 N. Franklin

Suite 501

Chicago, IL 60601

(800) 826-3632

(312) 642-0049

(312) 642-7243--fax

http://www.ndmda.org/

National Mental Health Association

1021 Prince Street

Alexandria, VA 22314-2971

(800) 969-NMHA (6642)

http://www.nmha.org/

National Alliance for the Mentally Ill

2101 Wilson Boulevard

Suite 302

Arlington, VA 22201

HelpLine: 1-800-950-NAMI [6264]

http://www.nami.org/

National Alliance for Research on Schizophrenia and Affective Disorders (NARSAD)

60 Cutter Mill Road, Suite 404

Great Neck, NY 11021 USA

Infoline: 1-800-829-8289

http://www.narsad.org/

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA)

5600 Fishers Lane

Rockville, MD 20857

http://www.samhsa.gov/

Surgeon General's Report on Mental Illness

To receive a copy of this report, write or call:

Mental Health

Pueblo, Co 81009

1-800-789-2647

http://www.surgeongeneral.gov/library/mentalhealth/home.html

· The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) for the Depression Awareness, Recognition, and Treatment (DART) program furnished a portion of the foregoing information.



Taken from website :

http://www.medicinenet.com/depression/page11.htm



You still have a good future. Believe it. Your life is precious!
2008-05-12 20:54:19 UTC
these are normal feelings that you go through in life (from teenage years on). you need to keep yourself calm dont let depression or stress make you make a decision that will ruin the rest of your life. things always get better.



you need to speak to someone (suicide hotlines) or your doctor who can help and refer you to the correct pshychiatrist who can help



trust me things always work out.
2008-05-12 22:33:25 UTC
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2008-05-12 20:42:19 UTC
don't do it! it'll all get better just give it time. seeing a therapist could be benefitical
2008-05-12 20:42:00 UTC
ok, so i know exactly wat u feel like. go onb a vacation to mexico and get wasted. meet new ppl and have a one night stand. come back and feel great about ur self!!!! i did that i i havent cut since..... before that!!!!
Msbearr
2008-05-12 21:38:40 UTC
STOP and Please take a minute to read



Okay I am going to tell you something. I know what you are going through because I have been in your shoes. Now I am going to tell you what is going to help you. I know it works so hear me out. You might not like what I say, but at least give it a try and you will see it works trust me on this one.



I am going to tell you four things #1 my short story to let you know I am not just saying hey I know your pain. #2. What I learned #3 How I over came my problems and #4 the end results.



#1 I lost my job, friends, car, MONEY, due to an illness. If it was not for my husband at the time I would not of had a home. Now I didn't have his support as for some one to talk to. My parents wouldn't talk to me, all they did was tell me I needed to stop fussing and get a job, but I couldn't due to my illness was so bad to the point it lead me locked up at home for about a year and a half. Soon I was like you I wanted to give up. When I was waiting for my disability to start, the waiting time took 2 years, yet at the time I didn't know if and when I would get it. However, I used to pray God take me to Heaven now. Take me out of my painful life.



Now



#2. Once the Dr.'s told me there was no cure. I started to pray for a healing. Each day I would pray. Soon I started to get to know God better by watching Joyce Meyers on TV. She is a preacher. I watched her everyday since I couldn't go to church. I took what she was teaching me and applied it to my life. She tough me to have faith and believe in GOD to answer my prayers and to believe him and myself.



Soon I started to press on in faith. Speaking to my illness which was stomach problems, you will go away. I will get healed. I have faith in GOD, that GOD will heal me. I then pressed on by leaving my home for a few hours a day. I was scared to do it but I made myself do it. Point you have to make yourself do things when you don't want too.



Then I found out that GOD/Jesus isn't just someone who just answers your prayers but someone who you can talk to about anything rather it be that you had a bad day, bad hair day, good day, want to vent, or just chat to be chating.



Soon I would go out in my back yard and pass back and forth as I would talk to GOD about my problems just as I would to my old friends and to my parents. I would spend sometimes hours at a time talking and crying to GOD.



See God wants us to seek his presents (FACE) not his presents (as in gifts of blessings).



#3 Once I started to seek Gods presents (Face) He started to bless me by answering my prayers and changing my life.



It took TIME for ME it took 4 years. WHY? God had to teach me a few things I needed to know and in order to do that I needed to be lets just say psychically sick. See if he had healed me sooner. I would not of found him nor would I have learned what I know now that helped me and so that I could turn around and help you.



On Aug 11, 2007 I was healed of my stomach illness and my depression went away.

I am now back in school and working on my dream to go back to work, working in a hospital.

Yes it took time, but it was worth the wait, but I never would have made it without GOD and my faith and thats the point to this answer.



Here is proof to back me up.



And in hell he lift up his eyes, being in torment Luke 18:23

(don't let it be you) Point if you don't believe in GOD or if you kill yourself you will go to hell.



John 16: 22, 23



22. ….. So also you have sorrow now, but I will see you again, and your hearts will rejoice, and no one will take your joy from you.



23. Whatever you ask of the Father in my name, (JESUS) he will give it to you.



Mark 11: 23, 24, 25



23. Truly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, (say to your problem you will be fixed/ go away)'Be taken up and thrown into the sea,' and DOESN’T HAVE DOUBT in his heart, but BELIEVES that what he says will come to pass, IT WILL BE DONE FOR HIM.

24Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, BELIEVE THAT YOU HAVE RECEIVED IT, AND IT WILL BE YOURS.

25. And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. (SIN)"



James 1:6 But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. (YOU MUST BELIEVE WITH NO DOUBT)



Matthew 21:22

If you believe you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.

James 5:15

And the prayer offers in faith will make the sick person will. The Lord will raise him up.

Other:

You have to pray using good wisdom, faith, believing, and from the heart.



Why didn't God answer my prayer to take me to Heaven sooner? Because I didn't pray using good wisdom.

Now I am glad be didn't answer that prayer.



I know this will work and help you.

Your welcome.

My source: My own personal life and the HOLY BIBLE


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