Question:
See a doctor for depression, secretly?
Jon N
2008-04-26 21:58:50 UTC
But I don`t want to talk to a school counselor or see my family doctor. How can I see someone...secretly? If I went to the emergency room or this emergency doctor thing..what would happen? Has anyone done something like this? Thanks
Ten answers:
combackkidxxx
2008-04-26 22:37:20 UTC
you don't need to hide your problem.

tell your parents, there isn't any way for you to get an antidepressant without your parents consent...PLUS they need to know because you're on their health insurance...so you need that card and pay a copay everytime you go in to see the doc...and the pills would be VERY expensive.



don't be ashamed.

YOU NEED TO SEE YOUR FAMILY DOCTOR

seriously. they're not gonna think you're a freak, i promise.

you're putting more pressure on yourself by not wanting to tell your parents....that's the ONLY way you're going to get help..





edit----

first off...mental disorders ARE NOT ILLNESSES.

that person is a quack. mental disorders can NOT be cured.

i'm sorry but it's the truth. i'm not saying that without a heart, i am 17 and have bipolar disorder[type I severe mania] and ADHD....i take medicine for both every damn day and sadly i will have to take it the rest of my life...but i got over that a long time ago[was off of my stimulants while developing BP...soo when i was diagnosed with BP i was also put back on adderall xr..this was last march] but i know it's nothing to be ashamed about. NO you do not have a damn illness. if you do then i do...but i'm not sick. neither are you. we are NOT diseased. we are not crazy. we are NOT freaks. we are not psychos. we are not sick.



remember that when someone says 'an illness' and get mad because you should know you aint sick at all.



yes...omega 3 fish oil supplements do help...but to an extent...if it's just a little depressive time that happens to everybody, then yes it will help you. if it's just acute, then yes it will help you a great deal. BUT if it's more severe...then i'm sorry, but no supplement can help ya out on that one...i mean maybe it can A LITTLE, but not all the way like a regular antidepressant would...

please, speak up to your parents. they love you and they'd do anything to help you...
Virginia F
2008-04-26 22:14:15 UTC
If you are on your parent's insurance, they will get some sort of invoice no matter which doctor you go to; however, the invoice may not say exactly what you went in for. If you tell your family doctor you are depressed and would like to see a psychiatrist he can give you a referral, and under most circumstances, your physician is required by law to keep this information private. So if you are worried about schoolmates, coworkers, or family members finding out, in most circumstances they will not be informed without your consent. You should just see your family doctor and talk about the situation with him/her, and your doc will be able to you who he will or will not tell if you seek treatment and get you referred to a doctor than can help you with your depression. if you go to the emergency room they will most likely want to talk to your primary physician about it anyway. However, if you are having suicidal thoughts, then you need to see the Dr. ASAP and you should go to the emergency room or tell someone if you're thinking about hurting yourself in any way.
Tac_aipes
2008-04-26 22:09:08 UTC
I commend you for thinking about ways to get help if your depressed. Depression is an illness that can be cured. You don't have to live feeling that way.

You can see a doctor in a hospital. You could also try calling the nineline's 24/7 hotline: 1-800-999-9999. It’s free, confidential, and always available, so call if you need to talk to somebody or want information on where to get help in your area

You're on the right track as long as you get help for yourself.
nyskiermom
2008-04-26 22:08:20 UTC
It is hard to do it secretly because once your insurance is activated your parents will get something in the mail about coverage.



County clinics will provide services on a sliding fee scale, which means they will only charge you based on how much you are able to pay. If you can show that you are in danger of abuse if your parents know you are seeking help, they will provide services for you without y our parents knowledge and for low to no cost.



We had a client who was about 14 and he would come in every week and clean our waiting room in exchange for an hour of therapy. Worked great for everyone.
shershawal
2008-04-26 22:07:57 UTC
well first your family doctor is by law not allowed to discuss about you with anyone regardless of you age. I had to sign a paper before my doctor could tell my dad anything when i was in high school and started stuttering, even though he was the first to notice and the one to take me in to see a doctor.



But look around there is many annoymous hotlines available. Normally they have posters around schools, docs offices, bus stops, libraries, and of course online.
2008-04-26 22:05:17 UTC
You have to see a doctor an emergency room doctor can't give you a script every month.
dpsullivan
2008-04-26 22:05:38 UTC
Depression is serious. You have to talk to someone. Talk to your school counselor and just tell him/her you dont want anyone in your business.
gwen
2008-04-26 22:08:56 UTC
before you think in going to a doctor maybe youd might wanna try talking to a friend about. try not staing alone b/c you might go under a nervous breakdown. take deep breaths and think whats more sutible for you. if it really didnt help and you want to talk about it write to me on my email uu_akabychick@yahoo.com

i hope i can help you out!!
2016-04-11 03:19:19 UTC
just go into a counceling clinic or psychiatrist.It's usually confidential if you want it to be.I'm in therapy as well and revealed to my therapist that i cut myself and he won't say anything to my dad about it 'cause I asked him not to
2008-04-26 22:17:07 UTC
They would probably inquire as to who was your regular doctor. Options: (1.) Contact your county/local mental health agency. (2.) Closely examine the http://1-800-therapist.com website, and use the locators, in section 1, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and phone book, to find someone suitable. Personally, I'd opt for a psychologist who believes in only recommending minimal necessary medication, if at all, because they don't issue prescriptions, so are considerably less likely to be involved with the rewards, and inducements offered by sales reps from "big pharma": the large drug companies, to psychiatrists. (3.) Psychological counselling, with a sliding scale, based on income, is available through many religious organisations, such as Catholic counselling, the Methodist church, and the Unitarian Universalists. You don't have to be a member. Use in addition to the core techniques, below, as with (4.) Online counselling, through www.psychology.com or www.onestepatatime.com or www.kasamba.com ~~~ My standard post follows: There is a quiz about depression, through sections 1, and 2, at ezy build, below: print the result, and take along to your primary mental health care provider. With depression, there is a choice of possible treatment types which needs to be made, and you can decide to use either allopathy, (modern Western medicine) with its reliance on antidepressants and therapy, or alternative treatments, which I advise trying first. This is because antidepressants are known to increase the rates of suicide, homicide, and aberrent behavio(u)r, particularly with young people, and often have unwanted side effects, such as sexual dysfunction, and/or weight gain.



Tests have shown that apart from clinical (major) depression, their results were not significantly superior to those taking a placebo (inert, or "sugar pill"). Antidepressants retain a degree of long term effectiveness for only around 30% of people. There is a saying in the mental health field: "If the only tool you have in your kit is a hammer, you tend to treat everything as a nail". So it goes with doctors, and their prescription pads: handy, quick, and convenient, when trying to manage their large list of patients, and often allocating only several minutes to each.



Most of them are only trained to provide antidepressants and referrals for therapy, with those whose depression is resistant to those treatments being advised to have ElectroConvulsive Therapy, (ECT) with its risk of permanent, partial memory loss. Therapy, while often effective at first, becomes "same old, same old" after a while, for many people.



I now suggest: (1.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, (certified free of mercury) with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their freshly squeezed juice. If vitamin E is used, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it's synthetic, avoid it. (2.) Work up slowly to 30 - 60 minutes of exercise, daily. (3.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain). (4.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2.c, 2.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2.q, 2.o, and section 53, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you. (5.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. (6.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St. John's wort, or a supplement, such as SAMe, taken with a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55).



If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking around 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L). It should be above 32 ng/ml.



Don't use medications and supplements together, without medical advice, except for Omega 3, which is safe, anytime. Omega 3 fish oil supplements: EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid (omega 3) ----360 mg.DHA (docosahexaenoic acid (omega 3)-----240 mg

Take enough supplements to attain, or exceed the levels (no possibility of overdose) of those every day, with an orange, or the juice of a freshly squeezed orange, grapefruit, or other antioxidant.

(make sure the epa is higher then the dha) important for adults... kids need the opposite levels: more dha than epa, but all are beneficial, if you can't achieve the recommended proportions.



They should be certified as being free of mercury, and if containing vitamin E, it should be shown as from a natural source; otherwise it is synthetic: avoid it! Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, (60% of depressed people have low vitamin D levels!) using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult to achieve.



If the above is insufficient for you, after several months, (unlikely) try one of the alternatives, such as the neurofeedback, magnetic, or low current electrical stimulation, or EMDR therapy, (see section 33, at ezy build) keeping ECT back, as a last resort. Read: "Lift your mood now." by John D Preston, Psy.D. 2001, New Harbinger Publications, Inc., 5674 Shattuck Avenue, Oakland. CA 94609 http://www.amazon.com/ may be worth trying for this. I have read many books on depression, but if there is a better, more easily read, and quickly implementable one, I have yet to encounter it.


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