Im having alot of trouble and am getting no where. Could you help please.?

Question

Im in a pretty bad situaution. Ive come back with my parents after having tried moving to perth and starting a fresh after me and my boyfriend had split up.....didnt quite work out how i wanted it to. i was runnngin into problems emotionaly which affected my ability to get started financially and had to return.

Im in quite a bit of debt and am only on the government money at the moment.

I cant seem to get my hands on any work here, and trying to start my life over again due to a bad drug history in the past and having done rehab - i dont have many friends , well no one really that i can hang out with to have fun, taking the boredom away or anyone to turn too. i dont know where to go, im kind of stuck because i cant go anyhere with the money im getting either,( like go rent a house where there is more work oppurtunitie) there is no work here ( im in the counrty).I feel very trapped. And my character is sucha free peaceful spirit that being this way is destorying me.

Since the break up im not realy feeling my normal bouncy self so the things such as music or geting out and about i havnt done for a while, and if i wanted too, here in the counrty there is not alot,well nothing really of that genre...so im stuck and the days are spent browsing on the net trying to not completey do my head in. I guess i feeel i have no purpose and i feel like a complete vegetable.
im lso so indecisive on what to do, having mde so many mistakes in the past and not thought them out properly, im fearful of doing the same so i do hold back alot on what could be possible oppurtunities, but im just not sure and again, i couldnt act on them not being in a finacially favourable place.
Its realy hard, ive seemed to have lost grips with everything and cant seem to ge back on my feet. Can u Help. What can i do. Im geting no where an going insane with nothingness :(

Answer 1

We are now in a recession, which, hopefully won't become anywhere near the situation which applied in the Great Depression, last century. In the meantime, it is important to be optimistic, and maintain a positive attitude, for the benefits it will bring, later. People who choose to do this, even in the face of adversity, lead longer, happier lives. Contact a social worker. Local is best. Free clinics, or public hospitals should be able to help. I found one through DSS, but try Family & Youth Services, etc. in the Govt. section of the phone book.Try temping. Apply locally for all sorts of positions, day labor, detailing cars, cleaning, restaurants, hotels/motels, and so on. Leave a card (even handwritten on cardboard) with your contact details. Appear well groomed, and dressed for that position, unless in a formal interview situation, and don't appear overqualified. Show your references, etc.



There is an employment forum here; I don't know if it will help with finding a job, but it may make you feel better: http://www.takethislife.com/viewforum.ph... At http://shanelyang.com she has: How to Ace Job Interviews & How to Fill Out Job Applications, etc. See section 99, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris for some money saving/making tips, and weblinks. See section 52, about drugs, and support groups. Consider helping for 2 hours per fortnight, at Meals on Wheels. People I know work for them, and community centres, or soup kitchens, and receive free food in return, which helps, as well as providing structure, meaning, and purpose to their lives.



Other suggestions are: As a literacy volunteer, animal shelter, Red cross/crescent, Greenpeace, nursing home/hospital, Habitat for Humanity, United Way, soup kitchen, or as a Big Sister/Brother. FROM VOLUNTEERING: You will also be able to get a reference, and many potential employers give preference to those who demonstrate a social conscience, as a sign of good character. It's also a useful way of making the transition from studying, to working for a living, or as a means of re-entering the workforce, after time spent doing other things.

Answer 2

I can only make a few suggestions which may help. You have recently had a relationship ended - allow yourself time to adjust to that fact, be patient. You say you have been to rehab; could you contact them and explain your situation and ask for support? You have moved back with your parents, can you constructively talk to either/both of them. I know it will be of little consolation, but life is a bit bleak at times, but remember, nothing lasts forever, not even bad things.

Regarding your debts, could you contact the Citizens Advice Bureau, they can often help to find solutions to debt problems.

You are safe, secure, with little money to do anything with, you seem almost desperate to make progress - but be patient, nothing worthwhile is easy or quick, be prepared for longer term planning e.g are there any courses at college that would enable you to learn new skills and broaden your horizons. Sorry I can only encourage, not actually help. Hope this has been of use. I really wish you good luck.

Answer 3

Well for the boredom try to read books, if you like to. Cut back on alot of things and start saving up money. look exta ard once you have enough money then go to a different spot, definitly not the country. Get a job there and start to make some new better friends.