is this the reason every1 hates me?

Question

i am always screwing everything up that i do, nobody can be bothered with me, if ever i ask any1 for help or advice they are always busy doing something else and make excuses not to see me, i mean even my own parents! my father has visited my house once in 3 yrs at xmas and couldn't wait to go home, and my mother only ever phones once a week on her way from her office to her car in carpark then chitchats meaningless smalltalk then abruptly makes excuses to hang up when shes at the car.
my bf who hates me and is violent, nasty, mentally tortures me and just uses me for sex thinks i am a joke and thinks its hilarious that no-one in the world cares about me because it makes it easier for him to abuse me without any1 having a go at him. he is my worst enemy but he is only person in world that takes the slightest interest in me, even if it is all a joke. he says even bad company is company and hes right because when i try to be on my own i think 'whats the point of existing?' then i think at least he wants to sleep with me so that's something. he says the reason every1 hates me and i am so useless at life is because i am 'backwards', ie, have learning disabilities and have just never been told about it. he says my parents talk to me like i am 'simple' and they are just too lazy or don't care enough about me to have ever took me to a doctor when i was growing up, and therefore that iv spent my life wondering why i am different and people laugh at me when really i am just 'slow' and never been diagnosed because no-one cared. is this possible?
he doesn't really care that i am upset about all this he says its just an observation that any1 would make about me but nobody's ever told me so they don't have to get involved. could every1 iv ever known really be so callous to have never told me about this simply because they couldn't be bothered??

Answer 1

you need to love yourself and maybe they just dont wanna hear about him or maybe you are really negative because you are so hurt and emotionally tortured by your bf, the best thing is to leave him. I disagree with bad companys better than no company. I like to live in peace. You need to change your way of thinking or you will be doomed. He is awful and maybe puts things in your head that dont even exist just to control you, i think if you dump him you will feel so much better. I wish i could just come get you and help you run away. Always remember Jesus loves you just talk to him when you can he will tell you what to do. I feel like your bf is full of satan himself hes so cruel. also i think hes insecure and you are too good for him so he trys to keep you down. HE has the issues not you, and I agree that you dont seem slow at all. Also your parents are a little selfish I know how that is. You need to go out have fun and surround yourself with positive people your bf is standing in the way of your happiness.

Answer 2

This'll sound harsh, but honestly stop complaining. Who cares if no one told you you were 'slow'? If you think you are then go to docs and get yourself sorted. You shouldn't be treated like that by your bf so change it. Break up with him and eventually you'll find someone that treats you right. As for your parents... F 'em. You don't need anyone in your life that don't give you the time of day. Your mates? F 'em too. Find new ones that are actually worth your time. And even if they couldn't be bothered, so what? You don't need them alright? Finally you're little username 'waiting2die'? Change that up to 'starting2live'? And then how about we actually follow through with it? Yeah this sounds patronising but seriously?, change what you don't like about life and stop overthinking everything :)



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Answer 3

You took him back? wtf.. Leave him he isn't worth your time, find someone who cares and doesn't use you, Your parents are probably busy but tell them they need to see you more, That's nothing my dad hasn't seen his mum and dad for years and they hardly ever call so at least you can see them, if they don't bother seeing you why don't you go and see them? I would stop contact with your boyfriend and if he says hes going to hunt you down move away from him, you deserve better so don't stay with him out of guilt because he treats u like sh!t also try going out with friends it will make you feel better.



Hope this helps

Answer 4

just by reading the way you have written and worded that statement/question i can tell your not "simple" just keep your chin up darlin and lose that boy friend of yours he sounds like a complete waste of space! start living life for you, doing what you want to do and ejoying the things you love in life. I guarentee in no time you'll be happier than you ever thought you could be and your life will soon be full of people that care about you as much as you do them. good luck for the future.

Answer 5

It sounds to me like you aren't the one broken here! This piece of crap you are dating does not deserve you. People who love you do not treat you like that and it's not because you aren't lovable, it's because he doesn't like himself so he needs to make you feel like you can't do better! Please get away from this person! With regard to your parents; sometimes if we do not let them know we are in need of them or from their viewpoint we seem self sufficient, they do not want to bother us. I do not speak with my parents or see them on a regular basis only because we are busy and they know I am capable of taking care of myself. However, when I do need something.. like I am in the process of moving.. they offer to help but do not push themselves on me because they see me as an adult. Also, sometimes dads are just clueless. Moms though, especially those who still work, find that when they are driving they can actually focus on a conversation with you. It's difficult to talk sometimes when you are at work or at home and you are busy doing things. I would take to heart that the fact she calls you weekly to check on you shows that she cares deeply for you. Do not let this bonehead break you down!



Find strength within yourself and do not depend on this douche to give you purpose in life. Go find your purpose and surround yourself with people who lift you up and don't cut you down every chance they get.



Good luck to you and please take care of yourself!!!



PS.. I agree about changing your user name.