How do I get rid of excessive fear and worries?

Question

I have recently witnessed an accident in which the driver of one of the vehicles had died from two head-on collisions. What I'm having difficulty getting over is the driver's screaming between the two collisions. I still cannot walk near that spot without hearing the screaming in my head. As I imagine how devastating it must be to the victim's family, I also think of my friends and family, especially the ones who have flimsy cars. I have been able to make contact with all of them, except for one, and I am going insane thinking that he might have died already.

I have always worried excessively about friends and families suffering or dying even before this accident. How can I stop? Is there a name for this kind of worries?

Answer 1

I don't know if there is a condition for things like this. But i have something similar but a but more dramatic. I always have horrible things going through my head about people dying, and things pop into my head about me dying, total waves, comments, storms, everything and everything goes through my head. I just try to ignore it, But, meditation has really worked wonders for me. And trying to deal with the fact that one day, my family and my loved ones are going to die, and so am I. So many people die of horrible deaths, every year and it makes me sick when i hear about fathers killing there own children when there under 1, plane crashes, everything makes my stomach churn. But there nothing we can do about it, what will happen, will happen i suppose.

Oh and i use a mouth spray called rescue remedy ^.^

Answer 2

This sounds a lot like Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Therapy can help. However, I feel that meditation can provide for you some real insight into your deeper beliefs. There is a fear of annihilation in general at work here. If you are not familiar with meditation, I suggest you do some research about the discipline. Learn to sit calmly with just your breath and over time you will feel some relief from your aversions.

Answer 3

Tonia,



I am sorry your witnessed this horrific accident. I think TIME will

help you to get over it. But since you confess you have worried

excessively about loved ones for years, the only way to undo that

thinking is with cognitive behavioral therapy that you get with a

psychologist. You learn how to undo the negative thinking (excessive

worrying) and redo your thinking more realistically and positively.



Give yourself some time with the visions about the accident. That

is normal since you were there. As far as the pattern of always

thinking like that, you can get help. Just have your parents call

your family physician for a referral to a qualified licensed psychologist

who speciallizes in cognitve behavioral therapy.



Good luck to you. I have posted to a site about excessive worry.



Limo

Answer 4

You could be suffering from post traumatic stress disorder. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a psychological and physical condition that can be caused by extremely frightening or distressing events.



PTSD can occur after experiencing or witnessing traumatic events such as military combat, natural disasters, serious accidents, terrorist attacks, violent deaths, personal assaults including rape, and other situations in which the person felt extreme fear, horror or helplessness.



You need to see a therapist, if only for a little while and most insurance covers it nowadays.

Answer 5

I suppose you could call it just traumatized?

I know what you're talking about though, I remember one girl broke her leg at gymnastics practice one day and she was yelling, it really was disturbing.. anyhow I'm not 100% sure what to say to you to help but maybe you could get information about the person to make sure they're alright? also try to do more relaxing things and do things that require your full attention like learning an instrument or painting, also you may want to talk to a psychologist.. I know that's really iffy but they would be able to help you. um also listen to music before you go to sleep so that you concentrate on that rather than anything else, or count sheep! and set a goal like, "I will count to 2000", which you obviously will not get to without falling asleep first

the sadness you feel when you think about this will never go away, but you will stop thinking abotu it so often as it becomes farther and farther away in time...

I hope I helped you some [;

Answer 6

Yes there is a name!



When we go through or see in your case a traumatic event take place! We can develop Post Traumatic Syndrome Disorder "PTSD"! It effects everyone differently! Some simply worry while others may relive the event in their minds! With PTSD other things can occure such as anxiety disorder.



You really need to get some counseling to work through these feelings. They will not go away without help from a liscensed mental health care provider. You may surpress them for a while but they will resurface.



"PTSD is what a lot of our soldiers suffer from when they come home from war"!

Answer 7

Omg that is horrible. One thing I can tell you to do is either go to a social worker (they're great help), or read books on how to overcome you're fear. You have to understand that sometime in life things occur when you don't want them to occur. That's just life. Life's tough, but you have to make the best of it. I feel extremely bad for the guy's family, that is horrible, but everything happens for a reason. Maybe you saw this happening so you would be a stronger person. Think about firefighters who went into the twin towers to save people, think about cops who sees people getting shot in front of their eyes. I don't know what I would do if I were you, I would probably cry all my life, it's good you're going on with you're life though. But be strong!!

Answer 8

Sounds like a bit of Post Traumatic Stress...Try not to worry so much, it never helps. I cant imagine getting through it will be a quick and easy process, but if need be, try chat to someone about it, professionally that is, not over an online forum :)

Answer 9

Post traumatic stress syndrome; would loosely describe the event, but not your worrisome personality.



Quality of the car is not going to really dictate much, lots of people die in suv crashes as die in crashes of priuses.



You got to live a bit more for the moment. Excessive worrying causes wrinkles and ulcers. Have you thought about getting a hobby? I brew beer, then drink it. Its great!

Answer 10

i still am worried and sometimes I cry in the middle of the night cause im scared my friend died a couple months ago and got run over by a bus.... i can still see the head popping off and now im super scared but i have gotton over it a little. What i do is that whenever i walk by my school(the place she passed away) i ussually go run to my friends or listen to music... and it dosent have a name ur just ooried .. and don't worry youll get over it.

Answer 11

I saw something similar happen and it was in my head for days, I was also scared of going by the place...but as time goes by you'll get over it

Answer 12

Become educated and use this experience as a drive. Learn what you can to prevent this and then educate others from your experience. You may save someones life.

Answer 13

Exercise is a great way to get rid of excessive fear and worries. You should also seek psychological therapy.

Answer 14

put it out of your mind and just try to be safe yourself. there isn't much you can do about other people. when you are with them just make sure they aren't being all squirly in the car and drive defensively.

Answer 15

read the book wrecked. youll be able to connect to it. and maybe talk to a close friend. they may be able to help.